i don`t want others control my life,even my parents.how about you?

China
January 28, 2010 5:48am CST
just for my master, i really don`t want they interrupt my choice,but now the situation is we couln`t talk anymore about that.when i heard the topic seems like that,i was trying to escape. they never respect my idea,my thoughts,only just following theirs. i don`t understand why they always think that i`m only a little girl ,actually ,i`ve changed,they must learn to listen my thoughts. i don`t like maths,anything around it ,i really hate it. all the choices they show to me is around math,how are they thinking? they totally know that. whatever,i will not regret for any choices to myself,i have responsibility for all my decisions,they must know i`m not the one like before. so,maybe many situations like that happen in your family,some good suggestions for me?or what about your story?
5 responses
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
I think no one wants to be controlled. Everyone wants to have the freedom to make decisions for themselves. Maybe if you can get the chance to talk to your parents while they are in a better mood and explain to them your side, that you do not prefer to get a course that is related to math and what your choices are. Since they are in a good mood, they might actually listen to you.
@mjcookie (2275)
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
I've already started a discussion similar to that. I hate to say it again, but for this I will. My mom wants me to be a doctor or an engineer. Anything that's high-paying and that would give me pride. But I don't wanna be any of those. I totally understand why I feel like this, because I'm a teenager and I want things done my way (in a good way). It's really suffocating when somebody, even your own parents, tries to tell you what you SHOULD be, instead of what you WANT to be. It's really depressing when you get controlled, but I try not to be totally rebellious, because I still respect my family and they deserve that respect. Don't hold a grudge inside. You have to let it out.
@mjcookie (2275)
• Philippines
29 Jan 10
I forgot to mention: follow your dreams. It's your life and it's only you who has full control over it. =)
• China
29 Jan 10
thank you for your experiences,i`ve talked to my mom,and i think i need to choose a right time to talk with my dad absolutely:)
@mjcookie (2275)
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
That's great! What did she say? I hope everything turns out fine. :-)
• Malaysia
28 Jan 10
My family is the same as yours. They don't understand me no matter how I explain to them. But I still make my own choice. Sometimes I need to be rebellious. But I don't understand what you say about Maths. I hate Maths too but it's undeniable that Maths is very useful in daily living. As long as you can cope with your daily living, then it's enough.
• China
29 Jan 10
i mean the economic maths seems very difficult to me,and i really don`t like economy,that`s all my father`s choice.
• Malaysia
1 Feb 10
You should make your own decision. Don't be influenced by them. If you're working without passion in the future, your life is meaningless. Let them know that even if you listen to them now and study economics, you might not end up working in the same field in future.
@nocturn98 (956)
• Venezuela
28 Jan 10
Same here. It's a good thing that my parents never did this to me. I am open to suggestions and advices, but I still have the last say on how to live my life. That's why I don't believe in fate. I don't like the idea that whatever I do, my life has already been written for me.
• China
28 Jan 10
you are so luck that your parents don`t limit your decision, but maybe i`m the only children in my family,they have reason to control my life. it is not easy to be a independent woman in my family,but that is always my dreams.
@syankee525 (6298)
• United States
28 Jan 10
well yeah some parents are like this cant except thier child thoughts or what they belive in, and if its different from them they get mad. as a parnets i allow my kids to make thier choice and let them belive what they wanted too. but when it came to education i was strict on them about that. so depend what your age is and what grade. but if you are in high school i will tell you get well you are still young because with me i just went back to school and it was hard. best of luck to you