I need some opinion to see clear this situation

Indonesia
January 29, 2010 8:28pm CST
I met a brazilian guy on net, for almost 6 months. He ever said that he loved me. And we ever made a relationship for 3 months, until we decide to be just friend. But sometimes, he still says that he loves me, and never want to lose me. In his vacation, i thought that he would like to visit me. But he spent his vacation in another country, meeting another his online friend, a girl. But when i ask if she is his new girlfriend, he say no. So what do u think about this guy? Does he really love me or not? If yes why he prefer to spend his vacation with another girl, not me. :((
11 responses
@danitykane (3192)
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
hi luvlymee26! Sad to say but, I got a feeling that he is not that serious with you. Why did he spent his vacation in another country? where he can visit you or choose you over her "other" online "friend". I think he is just playing around and not really into you. Because if he does like you, he will not waste his time with that other online girl of his. Hello to that?!! All I can say is, you deserve better! I mean, way better than that guy. I honestly believe that, online love affair can happen. And it obviously happened on some people. I have a friend who got married recently with a guy she met online. Which means, you may find love anywhere but, love must not set any boundaries. If a guy likes you, he'll be there on your side. He will love you not just with words but in action. Just be cool about everything! You are young and beautiful, for sure you will meet someone who deserve your love. Happy Lotting!
• Indonesia
30 Jan 10
thank u danitykane for sharing here. I think maybe u r right. Maybe he only uses me. I wish to find a good guy out there. Wish me luck. :)
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
No he's not that into you, he doesn't love you that much, at least not enough to call it real love. I think this guy is just playing games with you, and he's keeping you because he enjoys talking to you and just having you around. Drop him, go find yourself a better guy. you deserve that.
• Indonesia
30 Jan 10
u think so?? I always think about that too. But when I talk to him, he always can change my opinion about him. He always said that i'm a perfect girl to marry. Are those words he said just a lie???
@cloud31 (5811)
31 Jan 10
I don't think its a big deal to base the love by visiting you,if he really loves you he should try his best for you, what does mean by love?he may not know simply about that. But one thing is did he promise to meet you? in his vacation? otherwise if he don't try not to find his fault, he might have some other reason meeting his friend and not to visit you,sometimes Love don't keep any record of wrong, he may love you but he cannot prove that in easy way, wait for the right time all you have to do is to know exactly how do feels and how true he is towards you.Luvlymee, if you believe he loves you then trust your instinct since you are the only one who can feel his sincerity.God bless you !
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
31 Jan 10
I don't think he is really interested in pursuing a relationship with you. I think he is just trying to keep you around so that he doesn't have to worry about not having a girlfriend. He probably likes you, but just not enough.
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
Hi there, luvlymee26, I do think there's no LOVE when it comes to an intimate relationship because if there is he should give time to meet you in person and be with you and spend his vacation with you. For him to know you that well and see if there's really compatibility being in person. Its just maybe the LOVE he has to YOU is for friendship. Just don't expect too much for you not the be hurt in the long run. Talk to him, be honest with him but don't get really attached your self that you might really fall in love. Secondly, maybe at this moment in time of his life he is not as well determined of what is really his feelings towards you. So, meeting maybe another girl can give him an idea on how he will miss you and can make him realized where you really stands in his life. You are still young, so, your take your time.
@clocks123 (1228)
• United States
30 Jan 10
i don't think he really loves you. if he did, he would want to be with you. you can't have it both ways. it is either her or you. it appears he wants you both. i wouldn't be able to stay in this relationship even as a friend. best to you
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
30 Jan 10
I think it's best to stop speaking to this guy. I think he's rather toxic for you. He is one of those guys who wants to get everything he wants, and not really care about who he's hurting. A lot of guys are like that. He likes you, but he doesn't think about your feelings. He likes other girls and wants to be with them, and doesn't care if he's hurting everyone in his wake. You said you change your opinion of him whenever you talk to him, so it's best to stop talking to him. After you've gotten him out of your head for awhile you'll think more clearly and realize it's not worth your trouble.
• United States
30 Jan 10
Luvlymee26, why are U online looking for love my "YOUNG BEAUTIFUL INTELLIGENT LADY?" I KNOW there are guys right there in your City who would LOVE 2 met a WOMAN like U!! So DON'T limit yourself in finding "Mr. Right" my DEAR, this guy online is a ZERO go get U a HERO!lol Happy Mylotting
@___SKY___ (542)
• Hong Kong
30 Jan 10
The word love is easy to say to anyone especially you are in online. I think he doesnt really love you bcoz if he really loves you he will make or find ways to meet you personally. but as you said he spend his vacation with others. anyway if you love him too just wait for him to make a move and prove not only in words but in action.
@dreamnishu (1253)
• China
30 Jan 10
Frankly telling you, i think he doesn't love you. If he loves you than he will never spent his vacation with another girl. He will your country to meet with you. He can't wait for another vacation or time to meet with you. If you love him and a get a chance to visit him than what do you do. Of course you will go to meet him. But he didn't come. So it's very clear he doesn't love you.
@brymel25 (286)
• Philippines
30 Jan 10
Hi luvlymee26! It's a kinda sad but i think he's really not that into you because if he were, he would find a way to meet you and spend time with you. If he loves you much as what he oftn says, then without a doubt, he would also look forward on spending his vacation with you and not with some other girl.