parents as friends in Facebook?

@Cutie18f (9551)
Philippines
January 31, 2010 1:22am CST
I know that majority of us here have Facebook accounts and that you have a lot of friends as well. However, I notice lately, that many of my friends do not want to have their parents as their "friends" on Facebook. One time one of them added her mother as friend in Facebook but deleted her later because of the comments she writes on her wall which she did not like because it caused her embarrassment. Another friend also deleted her parents because of the nagging which they also do on Facebook. How about you? Are you "friends" with your parents in Facebook?
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@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
Yes, I added them but I created their profile because they do not know how to use computer. I teach My mom how to use computer & make our bonding so good. She advice me good & wise topic so I can post a good quality discussion. I am proud of my mom.
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
HI there! It's good to hear that.
@allknowing (130088)
• India
31 Jan 10
I am vary of opening my face to all and sundry for the same reason that your friend has not necessarily just parents but anyone else too. Take for example I invite someone and he/she has an access to my page but his friends and their friends in return will also have an access to my page which I am not in favour of. Is there a way to restrict access only to a select few?
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@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
You have a point there. That limits your FB world in that case.
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
14 Jun 10
Not only is my mother my friend on Facebook, but both my children are also. My mom usually just looks at what everyone is posting, and rarely comments. I am about the same way with my kids. I have heard of a lot of families having problems with parents being friends on Facebook, but that's not the case with my family.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
6 Mar 10
Actually, my brother, sister and myself were nagging my mother for a long time that she needed to have a facebook account because many of our aunts and uncles do but my mother had never joined the bandwagon. Now that she finally does have an account of her own, all three of us are friends with her and I couldn't imagine it to be any other way. She is my best friend and there is nothing that I hide from my mother. We are full grown adults and communicate on that level. If I wasn't comfortable with my mother then I would never have encouraged her to have a facebook account.
• India
9 Jul 10
My parents aren't in facebook. I'm cent percent sure about that. They doesn't need to keep an eye what I'm doing in the facebook or in other social networking sites by joining as my friend with a fake id. They only know what I'm doing or not doing. I'm happy that they trust me and I also trust them.
@nocturn98 (956)
• Venezuela
31 Jan 10
My parents' only knowledge in the net is sending and receiving emails plus the occasional chat. It'sa good thing they don't do facebook. If they are also into social networking, sure I would add them as my friend.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
18 Mar 10
Well, it's good to hear that you don't have any problems there.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
Hi cutie!^^ If my mother has a facebook account, I would definitely not add her.^^;; Well, there are things that I write there which I don't want her to know. I know there's an option to choose which people can see your message, but that would be a hassle to keep on doing that. My mother doesn't know everything about me, and I don't want her to know everything about me. There are things I'd rather share with friends than with her. But I don't have to worry about this because my mother does not have a FB account and she doesn't even use the internet.^^;; I can relate this though with having bosses as friends in Facebook. My boss has a FB account but I won't ever add him! LOL I don't want him to know that I'm Facebook-ing during time of work. ^^;; And it's the same for him too, I don't want him to know what I'm posting at FB.
@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
1 Feb 10
I do not think I would want my parents as friends, but on My Space I am friends with my sons. I try to not post anything that would bother them. Happy posting.
@Natara (169)
• Canada
2 Feb 10
I would definitely not appreciate my parents being on my facebook. It's one of the things in your business that they really don't have a right to criticizing - and if you add them they can bug you all they want.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
As my parents don't have facebook because they are old enough to make that social network. But if they have account I think it is better because it show love for them... I don't understand those people why they don't like their parents as their friend in that particular social networking sites...?
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Oh no, that's super horrible. I am friends with my parents on Facebook but so far they haven't caused me any embarrassment yet =D I think it's pretty cool that I got my parents into this Facebook craze since it has become a trend here. My mom herself is addicted to Farmville like me and my sister while dad just enjoys posting on walls and getting posts from friends and family.
• United States
2 Feb 10
Three of my five grown children have me as a friend on Facebook. I think of it as an awkward situation as I don't want my kids to think I'm invading their privacy or to feel awkward, knowing that their mother is reading their conversations with actual friends. I've tried to solve it by not getting on Facebook unless one of my kids let me know that there's a family discussion that I would want to be in on. For example, we all live in different states so when we have a get-together there's often a lot of Facebook discussion preceding the event.
@giegrace (213)
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
My parents are not that techie. My dad has a facebook account though. I created one for him, and I added him to my friends list. But since he doesn't log in most of the time, I can still have my online privacy. Like I can post stuff about my lovelife and I wouldn't have to worry about it. Parents can be really smothering at times.
@cinex44 (22)
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
Not me.. My parents add me once in Facebook but I ignore their invitations.. I'm not comfortable letting them see what's my activity outside our house. They might also find out that I've been lying to them about my whereabouts in a particular occasions. Better let them think that I'm going to a medical mission than going to a beach with friends. ^_^
@thebestmom (1104)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
i am friends with my children in facebook. i do not make any comments on their accounts. thats because i do not want to cause any embarassment on them. i am even friends with my children's friends and some children in their school. but i only accept those i know. some of them add you onlt becuase you have mutual friends, and i do not accept those.
@forlan (14)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 10
No, but I will not forbid my parent as my friend. My father does not recognize facebook so he cannot add me as his friend. It is not wrong that our parents write in our wall.
@Iram786 (498)
1 Feb 10
No I would never befriend my parents on Facebook. First of all, my parents don't even have Facebook thankfully but if they did I would never EVER add them. That's just plain embarrassing. For me. I don't want them seeing everything I post or my friend's post on my wall, or all of my pictures since they're not all suitable for my parent's eyes and you know what friends sometimes do, they post silly things on your wall that you should never ever let your parents see. I doubt my parents would post anything on my wall though thankfully but I would never want them to see my wall posts or my pictures. And that's one reason why I would never add my parents on Facebook.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
well, there are a lot of considerations when you make your parents your friends on facebook. frankly, cutie, my daughter is my friend on facebook. there are things she cannot say on my face that she can express on pm at facebook. also, my other daughter, who's living away from us and seldom visits us, uses facebook to bridge the distance and maintain regular communication... it's free and phonecalls have tolls... even sms...
• United States
1 Feb 10
Having your parent on facebook just feels wierd to to us. most teens dont talk about all the things they do with their friends to their parents.
@Lukey90 (24)
• Australia
1 Feb 10
My parents don't have facebook. If they did I wouldn't have them, it would just be too weird knowing that they know what you and your friends are talking about. If one of your friends is unaware that you have your parents as friends then they could say something that would embarass you, and your parents will see it. No thanks!