Do these negative elements scar you?

India
January 31, 2010 1:22am CST
Here are a few negative elements that you would not want to get in your life. Poor health,lack of intelligence, fear, lack of enthusiasm, poor personality, lack of self confidence. But we do get them whether we like them or not. These negative elements would certainly affect our lives adversely. Which of these negative elements do you think would affect your life most? Suppose poor health is what you dread most that will be the first in your list and similarly place the other elements in the list as per your order of preference. Here is my list in order of preference. Poor health- This is the base , I would never like to get poor health-this tops my list Fear- is the cause for all failures- so this comes 2nd in my list Lack of intelligence- Intelligence means a lot to me Poor personality Lack of self confidence lack of enthusiasm What will be your list?
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@vandana7 (62567)
• India
31 Jan 10
Hi vijayanths, when you know what is right and which brings peace to your home, but are unable to do so because your loved one would not hear of it, what do you do? What would this inability be termed, fear, lack of intelligence, poor health, poor personality, lack of self confidence? The negatives of my entire life is emanate from that one sentence.
@vandana7 (62567)
• India
31 Jan 10
If I defy, I lose the loved one. :( If I dont, I suffer and have a fearful fate awaiting me. Is it worth losing the loved one to escape that fate? I dont know. Procrastination, love, fear, lack of confidence, lack of ambition.
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• India
31 Jan 10
Hi, Vandana, I think it is managing people. Getting things done from people. If you want to get your loved one do what you like you have to get it done by going in his route. It takes a lot of patience and sacrifice though. Again it is easy to preach(I do that thought follow only some times, hehehe) Or you should learn to ignore whatever he does with out hurting him. You should not take his actions to your heart. You can take them to your brains instead. Why do you include love in that list, wondering?
@vandana7 (62567)
• India
31 Jan 10
Well, I love my papa, but he is very very hard to convince! The only way is to defy him or fight with him. That doesnt make me happy but it is like I dont have a choice. :( Wish he could understand me better. :( Some frustrations, lol.
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@bingchen (1126)
• China
31 Jan 10
i think that i has lack of self confidence.it have affect my life.why did i say like this.because i find that i have intellegent and quickly finish anything.but i am very since grief.i always think that my friend and colleagues look down on me and make me not have confidence to face the reality and my life and close my heart in my case.i dont be willing to make friends and alwayse live alone.what i do only let me alone.this character make me shame.i make an attempt to change my character and improve confidence to face life.i think that it is important for me.someone said:the character decide the person's fate.
• India
31 Jan 10
hi, bingchen, Self confidence is very important. One way to improve confidence is gain knowledge in the field you need confidence.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
31 Jan 10
Lack of finances and associated discomforts have always been my problems which have helped creating negative outlook towards things and events.As for one need to be comfortably settled in life if at all negative thoughts are to be effaced.
• India
31 Jan 10
Lack of finance will do a lot of harm to the life sukumar. Yes, it is difficult to remove the negative thoughts from mind.
@esjosh (915)
• India
1 Feb 10
Hi Vijay, I scare of the Poor Health only. That is it, the rest I can give fight but when it comes to health I just have to follow all the instructions of my Doctor......
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
I don't to have a poor health and poor intelligence too, I don't want to suffer from health problems. I am very fortunate of having a healthy mind and body. About poor intelligence, I am sure I am not intelligent kind of person but I can use my brain and I can decide. I admit I have lack of confidence sometimes, but that is not a problem to me, I will gain it when I badly needed it. That two negatives, are what I don't want to have. And hopefully some people will not have too.
@visalusha (132)
• Australia
1 Feb 10
First in ranking - poor health (no doubt) second - Lack of self confidence (I feel when this is missing then everything is missing) third - Fear (When we overcome this we can find many ways to come up in life) fourth - Lack of intelligence (I have put this in the fourth place because when we have confidence and we overcome fear it's for sure that we have got intelligence. There is no man without intelligence.It is only us who have to bring it to existence) fifth - Poor personality sixth - Lack of enthusiasm
@Buchi_bulla (8299)
• India
1 Feb 10
Health is the most important requirement for anyone. In Tamil language we say, without wall no picture. First your body should be healthy, they only you can achieve anything well. So my list is 1. Health 2. intelligence 3. wealth 4. enthusiasm 5. fear
@KrauseHome (34994)
• United States
1 Feb 10
For me there are many things that can Scar me, but thru the yrs I have learned that in a lot of ways, it is really up to me what I do with the things I have been given that help to determine who I am and will become as well. Here is my list: A) Lack of Self Confidence - Because it can Stop me from being able to achieve B) Fear - One of my Big ones that can Stop me from wanting to reach out and go higher... Career wise, etc. C) Poor Health - This used to be number one, but since I have a lot of Health issues I have since learned to work around them and as long as I keep in control they cannot deter me too bad. D) Lack of Intellegence - This is what helps keep me motivated and pursue something when dealing with my Health issues ... When I ever loose this I am in trouble.
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
31 Jan 10
My list will be as follows/ Poor health--Without health nothing can be achieved.[Recently my sisinlaw's daughter passed away[she suffered from ill health for almost 32 years since she was born] Lack of intelligence-Without inteeligence nothing can be achieved.THis is God given . Fear-we can overcome this with proper prayers and faith-it is self made. Lack of confidence-can overcome this if we have the others and are given the right encouragement. Poor personality-if many other qualities are there the personality shines irrespective of outward beauty [people respect skills in this world--however , this does not mean wanting to be ugly. Lack of enthusiasm--can be overcome with proper attitude . So, essentially what I mean is that natural gifts are health and intelligence.Of course if by personality you mean this refers to physical attributes then this is also important and it would come up to 3rd in the list.