Do you judge people by their looks?

Philippines
January 31, 2010 4:09am CST
I don't know about you, but I sometimes find myself going the other way if I see someone that looks a bit off. It's maybe the way he's dressed or that crazy hair all over his face. Is this rude or just plain survival instincts kicking in? I mean if you realize that the one sitting beside you has blistering welts all over his body, would you stay on your seat or move far away from that man?
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@kyel_11 (1069)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
i can't help myself but yes sometimes i judge people on how they look. i know it's bad that i'm looking at the outside appearance of the person but i can't resist doing so especially when there's someone who's kinda looks weird. hmmm. and sometimes for some security or safety reasons, i stay away from the people who looks strange...
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Yeah I sometimes do that,too. It's more for security that I'm a bit aloof at these situations.
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
31 Jan 10
Well its one thing if they are acting crazy its another if they are just a bit unkempt or just not good looking. When it comes to acting crazy of course its survival mode that kicks in. If someone sitting next to you has welts or a horrible rash its not like you are going to touch that person so why not stay sitting next to that person. There are many people in the world that are not beautiful on the outside but are beautiful within, and that is what counts in my book.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Usually, we would only be wary if it's the first time we've seen them. Most of the times if we're given a chance to have a chat with them, biases do go away.
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@abee1020 (116)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
yes because that's the first thing you can notice to one person.. If I'm near to a person who looks weird and looks like criminal (sorry, too rude) I will definitely move far away from him.. but then, don't be too complacent to good looking people for sometimes their acts contradict their looks! be sensitive to that. :)
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
I agree, sometimes there are people in sheep's clothing. And other times there are people who are just misunderstood. But if I will only have a single moment with a person that looks odd, I'd probably we wary too.
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@andy77e (5156)
• United States
2 Feb 10
The reason stereotypes exists is because people fit the stereotype. You have a negative run in with someone who looks a certain way, you will unconsciously attach that negative event to the next person you see that fits that appearance. I find that people I get a bad feeling about, tend to turn out exactly as I thought they would. So the bottom line is, yes I do judge based on looks. My judgments turn out correct most of the time. Now the blistering welts, I don't think that would bother me so much. I'll keep to myself, and ignore him.
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@andy77e (5156)
• United States
3 Feb 10
Typically people are not aware they fit into a specific stereotype. It is more of a function of the world they choose. If you go down to the college campus near here, you'll see dozens of punk rockers. They all dress and act exactly alike. Yet if you ask each one why they are acting and dressing the way that they do, each will tell you they are being individualistic. While actually conforming completely to each other. They fit into a stereotype, even while in their own minds, they are breaking the stereotype.
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
Are people also aware that they are doing what is stereotypical of them? Or it just happens because that's what they have to do to fit in the world that they chose?
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
1 Feb 10
I do not judge anyone by their looks or color... If I am going to judge when I choose to it is usually do to their personality.... A good personality goes a long way with me.
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@hagirl (1295)
• United States
3 Feb 10
Give me about a week sometimes and the true people usually shows or comes out....
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
If only we have a chance of discovering the personalities of everyone that we meet. But in our busy world today, we tend to screen and just be friends with someone we were not wary of the first time.
• Pamplona, Spain
3 Feb 10
Hiya abitcurious, Well I would try not to make it obvious that he is making me feel uncomfortable. Whatever the person looks like it may be that he has problems and it´s not his fault so I would try to be as tolerant as possible.
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
Although I might be uncomfortable around that person, I make sure I don't let others see me that way. My reaction could also affect how others see that person and that would be totally unfair to that person. It would be cruel and childish to gang up on a person that you don't know anything about.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 10
I judge people by the way they look to a certain extent but there is a danger in doing that. I know that someone thought a man dressed in a tracksuit was the caretaker or the physical edcation teacher. No, he was really the head teacher. Thinking of headteachers one female head teacher came to school on a motorcycle. When I was a student teacher I met a student that looked really strange. She was really a clever and kind person. She looked more like what I imagine a criminal might look like.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
One thing that I noted in our judging people, it rally depends on our experiences and what we were told as children. We were brought up to be wary of strangers. We were also grew up with the idea that a good person looks or acts this way. Anything beyond that might be strange. I even think our preconceptions are affected by our parents, our community and other people we meet.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Looks is the first thing that you notice but can't say what he or she really is as a person. You can very well know a person with his attitude, maybe looks are still an advantage but only secondary. Sometimes those people with the ugly looks are more nicer than those who have good looks. It maybe because those who have good looks tend to abuse what GOD has been giving them.
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
I agree with you about attractive people abusing their looks. They tend to think because they meet a community's definition of what is beautiful, they have the right to do everything they want. It's a bit humbling for these people to meet people from other cultures because they do not meet that culture's idea of what is beautiful.
• India
31 Jan 10
ya i do, i belive that facial expression gives you a good idea what is going inside a persons mind.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
I'm watching this cool series, Lie to Me, and everything is about gestures and facial expressions and what are their meanings. I think I'm learning something from it.
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@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
I also tend to judge a person by there looks sometimes. i know it may sound mean but I cant help my self, I maybe so discriminating. If a person is not clean, neat and look so rugged I stay away from them because I will think of them as being a thief or a bad person.
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• Philippines
3 Feb 10
It's a bit confusing because we were brought up not to judge other people but our instincts seem to be reacting differently.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
I am sorry, but I have the tendency to do this. I make my moves sometimes on the basis of looks. I'd stay away from anyone who looks dangerous. Yes, I am just this way. Looks do speak a lot about one person. One time, I was waiting for a public transport. There was one coming and in it was a male passenger without a shirt on and holding many knives in the open. I refused the cab when it stopped. I didn't want to sit next to that man who had a lot of knives in his hands. What in the world was he going to do with those? In that sense, I was making judgement based on what I see.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Why would a man carry knives in public? If he's not a butcher then knives really makes him look dangerous. And without a shirt, too? I was just wondering if people like this are aware that they are projecting a really bad vibe. Isn't it common knowledge that knives look dangerous? Also, in our country, it's perfectly normal for guys to go wandering with their shirts off and yet you get strange looks if you're a woman wearing slightly revealing clothes. Weird.
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
1 Feb 10
Well I don't really judge people by their looks I always see how they act and how their personality is. Everyone has their own way of judging people and that's okay. If I was sitting next to someone that was a bit unusual I would probably stay there because then I would have to find a new seat.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
So practical:) Yes if its crowded wouldn't it be difficult to find a new seat? I didn't think of that. But next time I'm that situation again, I'd ask myself that. Thanks:)
@cintoy (1011)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 10
Everybody judge person by their looks. It's not only face and body but also the clothing and accessories he/she is wearing. it's true that we must not judge a book from its cover but in my opinion, if the cover is bad, no matter how good the book is, we will feel reluctant to touch or try to read it. Of course when we know that it is a good book, then we will read it. Same with people, you do not know how a person's inner beauty/ugly but no matter how beauty/ugly the inside, we will see the outside first. It's human nature.
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• Philippines
3 Feb 10
true. Even the publishing industry has realized that in order to sell books, covers matter:) I have also read about authors hiring others to pose for them so they'd be market friendly. sorry for being so literal. marketers also hire beautiful people to sell their product
@ipcarpio (19)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
yes!i often judge them by their looks..and i thinj im being kinda rude to them!haha..i often look at a pers0n and making c0mment*of course i keep it to myself lol* like why d0es he looks like that?or why does he act like that..he look s.t.upid..i even make a prediction that a certain pers0n wouldnt be and will never be my friend.but when we got along or he open a c0nversation..we become close friend!this just mean that you couldnt judge other people like that!haha
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
amazing. I actually avoided someone for a long time because he claimed that he knew what my future was. I was like so challenged, that I didn't speak to him until I have achieved everything that he said I wouldn't be able to do. We're friends now and we really enjoy taunting each other how we came to be enemies before we got to be friends.
@luvmysons (497)
• United States
31 Jan 10
I think everyone judges someone they dont know by there looks.. Obviously if someone has blistering welts over there body I would probably move away since it may seem contagious.LOL However I have so many different friends some that are thin, some that are heavy, some that are beautiful and some that act wierd, But to me they are all beautiful sweet people. SOme I judged before I knew them and they turned out to be the very opposite. But I do judge before I meet them. It it even possible not too??
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
I think there's no way we could help ourselves from judging. It's like our own built in screening equipment. But what's hopeful though, we really are very capable of changing our perception of a person if we get to know them. We just have to develop an open mind.
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@epicure35 (2814)
• United States
3 Feb 10
I think we all judge people by the way they look to a degree. There are two words that come to mind - propinquity, and commensulism. The first is who you are comfortable being near and the second, who you can eat with. Both imply a level of comfort in association. While judging people by physical appearance may seem shallow, and, at some levels it is, that's not totally true in every case. There are some books that you can, indeed, judge by their covers. Some people do not go very deep and are just what they appear to be, both the good and the bad. Physical discomfort around some people may also be spiritual discomfort, as we sense something repellant, even dangerous and evil about some people we meet. This is a self-protective mechanism. One's countenance, especially the eyes, is a good barometer of what's inside and, as you indicate, survival instinct. It's important to be discerning in these matters and have good judgment.
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@alfroi635 (297)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
Honestly, sometimes I judge person by their looks but I know It was wrong so I never did it again in my life. I usually smile at anybody who looks into my eyes even if we don't know each other.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
It really depends on your personality right? If you're nice, you'd be easier to approach. Good for you!
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@danitykane (3183)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
hi abitcurious! hihi! yeah, it's like an instinct or something. I sometimes, find myself scared to some strangers that I normally see on the street, thinking that they might do something bad on me. I know that it is not right to judge someone base on their looks but I can't help noticed some fellas who looked creepy and weird. hek! haha! But in general, I don't classify any person because of their appearance. I've seen a handsome kidnapper on tv and I thought he was a celebrity or something. Haha! I just trust my instinct and act normal. lolz.. Happy Lotting!
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
aha!!! you're the type of person who gets onerous looks from 'manongs' right. That could really be a challenge. Specially with you trying to overcome first impressions. Well, good luck!!! I hope these men don't hamper enjoying your 'gimiks'.
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• China
3 Feb 10
yes,I can't help judging people by their looks.If a stranger who looks kind and not quite sharp,I would like to talk with him,otherwise, I have to keep a distance to talk carefully.It's just human nature,and the first impression of a person is very important.
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@mero22 (20)
• Egypt
31 Jan 10
hi abitcurious, i agree with you that all of us judge from the first vision because there are many things appear from persons lat us attract or Alienate to him first of these things is his appearance which include 70% of its personality when i meet some one for first time i can determine many things at his personality not from its clothes only but also the way he speak with determined his personality.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
If only we're given a chance to talk to everybody we meet, then there would be no misinterpretations in this world.
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