Long distance relationships - how can you be sure he/she isn't cheating on you

Croatia (Hrvatska)
January 31, 2010 8:31am CST
I'm sure lots of you have or had a long distance relationship. I was wondering, how to prevent that feeling of doubt and how to(if possible) be sure your partner isn't cheating on you?
8 responses
• India
31 Jan 10
I really dont think long distance relationship ever lasts.Its not only because of the cheating factor but the distance factor.A relationship can only blossom if two people remains close.Otherwise there is no chance
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
For some maybe but I do believe that our relationship will last even though we are in a long distance relationship as of the moment. Of course, we will be together in a few months or years later when everything is ok. But as of the moment we need to make sacrifices since this sacrifices is for the better for our future.
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
i am into a long distance relationship right now because my husband works abroad. it is really hard to tell whether your partner is cheating or not, but as long as i know for myself that i am not doing that thing, i felt safe. although sometimes, i used my instinct but before i accused him of anything, i make sure that i am holding a proof like wrong send text messages. but i trust my husband, i am sure that he loves me and won't do anything to hurt me. i always told him that if ever he will have an affair or fall in love with someone, he should not hesitate to tell me, because although it will be painful, i am going to accept it, and i will let him go for him to be happy.
@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
For me, for as long as your love is true then I guess the relationship will last. I am confident that my boyfriend won’t cheat and he is true to me. We are in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years and up to now our relationship is strong. We always communicate with each other and still share the things that we experienced everyday. Of course, it is really difficult with this kind of set-up but we need to do some sacrifices since this is for the better of our future. What is important to our relationship are love, trust, communication and open with each other. I know that he is not kind of person who cheat and I know that he loves me and same thing he believes to me.
• United States
1 Feb 10
You can never be one hundred percent sure about the other person. You can only trust that they are being faithful. You should go with you gut instinct. If you feel he is cheating talk to him about it. If you always feel negative things about his fidelity you shouldn't be with him.
@soulist (2987)
• United States
1 Feb 10
Long distance relationships take a lot of trust. I have no doubts that my boyfriend are loyal to me. We are constantly talking and he tells me how much I mean to him and makes it a point to make me feel like he is being loyal and know he is loyal to only me. I trust him completely and I know he would never cheat on me.
@ainee82 (618)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
There are no assurance in any relationship. Whether you are married or not yet married... whether you are far away from each other or living together. There's always that chance. But I'm not telling you this so that you'll be more worried and be paranoid all the time. You see my point is that we have no control over it. But we have control over our feelings and emotions. What I can tell you is that to follow your instinct. But at first know how much you love your partner. Once you figure out how much you love him/her, learn to trust your partner AS MUCH AS you can. Sometimes it is hard. We all have to take the risk. Nevertheless, we must prepare ourselves that if it does happen, be sure to be STRONG. But until then you must have FAITH. FAITH in your partner that he will be faithful and loyal to you. A constant open communication will help each other to stay loyal. I hope this helps.
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
Some people just don't believe the long distance relationship. I know it's just really hard to keep up the relationship especially the temptations are just around the corner. It is a test of faith and loyalty. But I believe if you love a person so much no matter how far you both are, it won't be a hindrance. You will find ways by any means to work the relationship out. Trust is also important in this situation. And in this kind of situation, both should be working to keep the relationship and if 1 person just cut the cord, it's just not going to work cause the other person just gave up. So before going to put yourself in this relationship, make sure that you're ready for the consequences and heartaches. And it's seriously hard.
@max1950 (2313)
• United States
31 Jan 10
point blank......if i had to worry about that i wouldn't have one.