Are you a good listener?

India
January 31, 2010 10:15am CST
A good listener is considered to be good conversationalist. Good listeners have many friends. People like good listeners. Unfortunately some people don't allow others to speak, they will interrupt and keep on speaking. They will try to dominate. People don't like such people. I am a good listener. If the other person starts to tell something I immediately stop my talk and start to listen to them. How about you?
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Yes, I believe I am a good listener, that is if the topic being disscussed is interesting , informative, and educational. Especially if the speaker is a very good one, has good diction, with good sense of humor, the more i will be impressed and eager to listen. But if the speaker is not so good, but i still find the topic interesting, I will still listen.
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• India
1 Feb 10
hi, nicelinks if the topic is interesting it is easier ti listen. But we need to do that even if it is not.
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
I am a good listener too, in fact I always wanted to listen than to tell the story. If anyone will ask me to listen to them, I stop by and listen. Even it will takes a longer hours. But of course it is hard to listen to words that you have little interest on it, I talk once in a while like having questions on the part that I don't understand. My friends like to share their problems on me, because I listen I don't give them options unless they ask for it.
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• India
1 Feb 10
hi, grecy, nice to note you are a good listener.People would love you for that.
@vandana7 (66823)
• India
1 Feb 10
Hi vijayanths, may be you dont have a good voice, so you are afraid to talk. That is why you prefer to be silent. Kidding. It depends actually. I am a good listener when somebody is in pain. But I am not a good listener when I am in pain. I think I am so set on the solution that I want that I am not willing for softer way out. Not always, but sometimes. I do need to correct myself in many ways. :) As usual, your discussions are great. They make me examine my behavior, and think where I need to correct myself.
• India
1 Feb 10
My voice may not be that good as Kishore kumar or Kumar sanu but I bet you can't hate it. Ok, I will sing a song for you and upload in my blog soon. If I want you to listen to me shall I have to be in pain? Ok I will pay the high price for talking with you.. Nice to note you found my discussions at least great.thanks..
@vandana7 (66823)
• India
1 Feb 10
Well listening normally is no issue. :) At times it is. :) That is what I meant to say. :) No you should not be in pain. None of my friends should ever be in pain. Because I am enough of a pain in the neck for my poor friends. LOL. I really dont know how to go to blogs. :( Can't we have the links here? Your songs. I like Kishore Kumar's "Thandi hawa yeh chaandni suhani..", "Koi hota jisko apna...", and "Choti si yeh duniya, pehchaane raaste hain..." Of course there are other numbers as well such as "Pal pal dil k paas.." Kumar sanu - he excelled in "Kuch na kaho, kuch bhi na kaho". He never sang as beautifully, before or after, isn't it? But I leave it to you. You can try those yoddling numbers of Kishore kumar as well. They are also very nice. ;)
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
31 Jan 10
What did you say, Vijay? I wasn't listening lol. (Just kidding.) It is important that people know we "hear" them and listen when they talk with us, so yes, I make a point to listen well when someone else is talking to me. It is easy to tell when someone is NOT listening, and that hurts us or makes us feel of little interest. Good discussion topic. Karen
• India
1 Feb 10
I know very well that you are a good listener. I liked your humor Karen. I wish I can talk you in person and listen to you for hours. You are a wonderful conversationalist I am sure..
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• United States
2 Feb 10
Hours of listening to me would likely bore you lol, but hours of talking together would be interesting, I'm sure :)
@kalav56 (11502)
• India
1 Feb 10
I am also a pretty good listener Vijayanths.I also listen with empathy [always looking at things from their poit of view aand do not get judgemental.People normally feel comfortable talking to me .My son thinks that this is a rare quality/the way I relate to people.I also try to force myself to patiently refrain from talking and listen to the other person at times , when I feel like butting in.
• India
1 Feb 10
I know very well you are a good listener Kala. That is a special quality to view things from their perspective..You must have a great heart to do it. No wonder people share their personal matters with you either for venting out the emotions or to get your valuable ideas and advices. That is a great art and I am sure you are a master in it.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
1 Feb 10
I've been told that I'm a good listener when someone needs to vent or just talk. I try to be but I also want to help when I can but I first need to hear what the problem is so listening is very important. I'd hope someone would do the same for me in my time of need.
• India
1 Feb 10
hi,catsanddogs, nice to note you are a good listener.People would love you for that.Yes they will also listen to you hopefully.
@Buchi_bulla (8299)
• India
1 Feb 10
People say I am a good listener. Many try to share their personal experiences, problems and thoughts with me and confide in me. I never take tales to others. They also know that. My principle is give at least your ears to listen and shoulder to cry. Let the other person get some solace in your attitude of this. But unnecessary and repeatetive talks are to be curtailed.
• India
1 Feb 10
I know very well you are a good listener buchi. No wonder people talk to you personally as they find you very reliable. You are an asset to your family and the people around you.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
1 Feb 10
Well yes I am a good listener, but still though I don't like it if a person tries to control the whole conversation because then it will just get boring. It's like a person who likes to talk about themselves which can get boring if they don't let you get a word in. Still when my friends have problems they can always tell me because I will listen to what they say. Still though if a person tries to control a conversation I would probably stop listening. I would lose interest.
• India
1 Feb 10
yes anime that is the problem when we are good listeners. But still it is better to listen to people.
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
yes! i am good listener..that's why i have lot's of friend and also they trust me
• India
1 Feb 10
Very nice to hear that prodigaljuneau.I am sure People would love you for that.
@bingchen (1126)
• China
1 Feb 10
i think that i am a good listener.it become my habit and respect for others.when they want to talk,i often listen seriously and understand what he mean and finally i would speak what i want.
• India
1 Feb 10
Hi, bingchen, nice to note you are a good listener.People would love you for that.
• United States
31 Jan 10
I am actually a really good listener. If someone has to talk about something I will always be there to listen and to give advice when I am able to. Now the problem is that when I want to talk to someone most of the people I talk to immediately change the subject to talk about something else that has to do with themselves. That pretty much does annoy me because I want to try and get something out and then you have this person start to talk about him/herself. But I guess not everyone can be a good listener.
• India
1 Feb 10
yes, ayumitakashi , nice to note you are a good listener. People would love you for that. Yes I agree that not everyone can be a good listener.
@mjcookie (2274)
• Philippines
31 Jan 10
Blessed with an intuitive nature, I do more listening than talking. :-) I love to hear what people have got to say. When I listen I really look them in the face, and I love seeing the way they talk and their facial expressions. :-) I easily get carried away by people's statements. I am really annoyed by people who interrupt. That's very rude--it's a turnoff for me. It makes you feel like what you've got to say is not that important. I also don't like it when they pretend that they're listening, or when you're talking to them they're not looking at you. It ruins my day. I've known a lot of people who are that way, and sometimes it makes me just wanna avoid them because of their attitude because I fear that they would not let me finish again. I am not the person to talk a lot, so when I do talk, which is not so often, I want them to listen to me, as I do to them. =)
• India
1 Feb 10
Yes you are absolutely right Mj. Every one will feel the same like you.These are talking manners we can call them so. We need to maintain good manners while talking.
@vathsala30 (3723)
• India
31 Jan 10
May be I too belong to your group only. Most of the times, I will allow others to talk and I will listen. But if the other end is too boring and bragging type, to stop them from further boring, I start talking changing the topic so that they will keep quiet.Ofcourse nobody likes the people who will talk without any punctuation marks
• India
1 Feb 10
Hi, vathsala we sail in same boats many times and this is one more now.
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Jan 10
hi vijayanths I think I am becoming a much better listener and I do remember when my son was little how he would interrupt me and say, mom you did not listen to me, and I would feel really embarrassed as I had not really been paying so much attention to him as to what I wanted to say in reply. I then started to really stop and listen to him and my husband and any one else speaking to me. I realized how rude it was to shut off listening in order to formulate what you wanted to say in return. I applied the golden rule to this situation. I found that if I wanted people to really listen to me, I had to do the same thing, really listen to them. People love it when you give them your complete attention. and it pays off as they will also listen to you with full attention.So yes I am on my way to being a really good listener. and here in this retirement center a lot of people are lonely and just want to talk to someone who will really listen to them.
• India
1 Feb 10
Hi Hatley it is a surprise for me that you were not listening much before. Luckily from my childhood I used to listen well when other talk. So when I grew up I learned that we should give respect to the views of others whether we like them or not. So I let them talk as much as they can. Sometimes it is testing our patience too
@eshaan (6193)
• India
1 Feb 10
i too am a good listener, though i may not agree with the speaker all the time, but i have the power to listen to their points and find out good things from them...i can't call myself a good speaker, i sometimes feel that i lack words and can't explain what i want t say, so sometimes i fail to express my views in frontt of others.....
• Hong Kong
1 Feb 10
I am a good listener to be honest, and people love me for who i am. I always take their possibilities to consider it, so they will consider mine.
@kiran8 (15354)
• Mangalore, India
1 Feb 10
Hi vijayan, Most people are not good listeners, they would like the others to listen while they keep on talking. I am a good listener most of the time, but there are times when I do get carried away and speak exactly what I feel .It is not possible to be a listener all the time, you need to contribute too. But when someone wants to make a point and are talking sense I listen to them without interrupting, but when someone wants to go on talking about themselves without ever bothering to listen to the other person , then I may not really bother to listen....All the best
@cloud31 (5811)
1 Feb 10
I consider my self as a good listener than speaker,i can patiently listen to all my friends and other people who wants to share their views, If somebody want to speak with me i can listen to them with all eared, simply because when you listen to them its a way to understand the feeling deep within,I never interfere of anyone who wants to talk, simple as it is.Have a nice day!
@grace118224 (1040)
• China
1 Feb 10
I'm undoubtedly a good listener. I think it's polite to listen to others . Of course i can surely understand those who want to dominate in the talking because they are talkative and have many interesting topics. I'm a quite person and i don't chat much so i'd rather be a listener. However most of time when people finish talking i don't know how to make a sentence except "yes, well, or no"
@donna22 (1120)
1 Feb 10
I am a good listener. I have always been shy and think this helps to be a good listener because you prefer to hear other people talk rather than speak yourself. I much prefered at school when we just had to sit and listen to the teacher rather than have class discussions and stand up and talk about something on our own!