Do u have the habit of leaving ur children in your car while you're somewhere?

children - i saw children made to wait alone in their vehicles while parents are away
Philippines
January 31, 2010 4:34pm CST
With nobody to leave the children while parents go out to run an errand, they bring their children along with them. Sometimes from fetching children from school, I see children waiting for their parents in their own vehicles. Do you have the habit of leaving your child in your car while you attend to something nearby or inside a building?
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@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
no, i don't, especially when they are young. children, being children, should always be watched and guided. they tend to be overly curious and may tinker with things that my result in some kind of accidents. so, never leave your children alone in the car.
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
Hi Bystander, Yes, accidents and outside elements, too. There are a lot of bad people nowadays as compared in the past. We can never trust anyone now. When my children were small, I was always "hands-on" on taking care of them. When we were outside the house, I never allowed them to be out of my sight. When inside stores, I never let go of them.
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
but of course, as they grow already, we give them more freedom and allow them to move around... but as always, we're always there, even from a distance...
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
We pass every stage of life. It is part of growing up and part of our teaching them about ways of life.
• Pamplona, Spain
1 Feb 10
Hiya MMT, I have had to take my children everywhere with me despite all the comments that might arise. I found that when I had to take my Children with me in England I met with a few sarcastic remarks on the way but then you can get those anywhere. I also have got them here too. Have not had the chance to leave my kids on their own they will only appreciate that though when they have their own. I know a lot of people both sides of the ocean that have left their kids on their own I don´t actually know or bother if they were wrong or not. Everyone has their personal reasons for doing what they do.
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
Hi LAI, Well, in the first place, they are OUR own children. Whatever people say, it really does not matter to me, personally. Each parent has his own ways when it comes to children. Whatever works with one may not necessarily work for others. I had never left my children on their own, too. I was always worried something bad might happen when I was not with them or me not watching them.
• Pamplona, Spain
3 Feb 10
Hiya MMT, Me neither but the ways of the world are like that and you can make yourself bitter trying to change them too. My kids have gone everywhere with me until they were old enough to be and stand up for themselves of course. Mine from the age of twelve upwards have never wanted to go with me so much after that. Good sign of being independent sign of growing up quickly too. I have never had a "Grandmother or Father to leave them with wish I had of done but that´s the way it was. Take care now.
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
You take care, too! Stay well and God bless you always.
@asanlee (408)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 10
Hallo...I have never left them in the car , if there's no other adult in the car. I am afraid anything happen to them, and I have heard about such incidents that will make their parents regret all their life....So try not to leave them alone in the car!!!
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
Hi Asanlee, As it has been said --- better safe than sorry. I had never allowed my children to be left alone in the car. I always had these scary thoughts about bad elements taking my children away and then asking for ransom, or the children opening the car and going out to nowhere or maybe, the children quarreling inside the car and injuring themselves. This sort of things made me worry so, I tagged them along wherever I went.
@thebestmom (1105)
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
although i know this is dangerous, i am guilty of this. but i only do this if i kow that i will only be leaving them for a few minutes, 15 minutes the most. any time more than that i bring them with me.
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• Philippines
2 Feb 10
Hi Thebestmom, I am sure even if you left them during that period, I know you took all safety precautions in doing it. Personally though, I still wouldn't leave them alone. I would either tag them along or leave them in the house with someone I trusted.
@esjosh (915)
• India
1 Feb 10
No way, it is absolutely dangerous. I don't have any babby. But I strongly believe that leaving children in CAR alone is extremely dangerous.
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• Philippines
2 Feb 10
Hi Esjosh, I personally think so, too. I can never leave them alone anywhere. In the past, even with somebody to take over my watch for the baby, I still was not confident if I didn't do it personally. So, I was all the time keeping watch of them, be it in the house and more so, outside.
@StarBright (2799)
• United States
1 Feb 10
Absolutely not! Aside from the fact that leaving young children in a car alone can almost guarantee you accomodations in the county jail, it is not a safe thing to do. By having a hard and fast rule with my grandson, "You go where I go." we avoid issues of "Do you want to stay in the car while I run in here?" If it is particularly boring and long for him, then I reward him for good behavior and turn the outing into fun afterall. Along with the fact that accidents can happen even to a parked car, there are too many people lurking in the shadows waiting to do harm to children. I live in a state where pedophiles settle after serving time. There are 11 registered pedophiles that live within a 2 mile radius of my house. The expression, "Better safe, than sorry." comes to mind.
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• Philippines
2 Feb 10
Hi StarBright, Exactly. We can never take chances especially when it comes to children. We can never trust anyone now. The rise of criminality in our place is scary. Kidnapping is rampant especially in the areas of exclusive schools. Kidnappers target children of rich families. It is sad that even if ransom is paid, some still die in the hands of kidnappers.
• Australia
1 Feb 10
I don't have any kids yet,but that sure sounds like a bad idea especially in summer. Personally I hated it as a kid when my parents left me in the car.When they said 5 minutes it sure as hell was longer than that.I guess it's okay to leave your kid in the car ONLY if it's a real emergency.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Hi Chatelaine, It is never good to leave children unattended. In our country, they are exposed to kidnappers and robbers. We should never leave them. Also, some children leave the car even if instructed not to do it. So, it is always better to tag them along, whenever possible.
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@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
31 Jan 10
When my kids were young I didn't drive but I would never leave them in the car to run into a store not for a minute. My daughter now has a 3 year old and she only leaves her when she is going to the Redbox machine to return a movie. Its right outside the store and the car is parked right infront of the machine. Otherwise, she always takes her inside the stores or any other errands she needs to accomplish. The thought of coming out of a store and finding either a child or both the car and the child gone is just to horrifying and I don't understand why people continue to do this.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Hi Lelin, Yes, the thought alone of finding they are gone when we get back to the car is really horrifying. It is never good to be careless on matters which concern our children. Better yet, if we need to postpone doing work which would put our children to risk, we should do it rather than going through the risk.
@Mady2791 (547)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Only when I forget my cell or some other thing hehehe(in the driveway or garage but I run in and out of the house..takes me a few seconds) But I always take the car keys with me in case they want to test their "driving skills" hehehe
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
Hi Mady, Maybe that was a very quick dash to the house and garage is just very near. And you took car keys with you and it made you confident that the child was safe. Otherwise, you could have carried the baby with you if it meant that you would be away for a longer time.
@Hatley (164777)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Feb 10
hi moneymakingtoday no no no. never ever leave your children alone in a car and go into a store.anything and every thing can'happen. They can in fact get the car started and cause an accident, or someone can kidnap them, or one can get sick.anyone can happen and often does. We never left our children alone int our car.we knew it was not safe. and in some places it is against the law. We saw the results of leaving three children under seven along in the car. Another driver lost control of her car, plowed into the parked car with the little kids alone in it and shoved it into the store. One child had a broken arm, one a broken tooth , and all of them were bruised and scared out of their wits. no never leave children alone in cars.
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
Hi Hatley, Parents should never leave their children on their own. I do not see why some have to do that unmindful of things that are possible to happen. Left alone by themselves, they are capable of doing several things. We know how active and curious children are. They might touch something inside the car which would harm them or might injure themselves in case they fight with each other. Worse is, kidnapping is rampant in our place nowadays. To be safe, we should bring our children along where we want to go and not leave them alone inside cars.
@ravinskye (8243)
• United States
31 Jan 10
My kids aren't nearly old enough to leave in the car if I go in a building that I can't see them from. The only time I've left them in the car is if I'm only going in for less than 5 minutes and I can see them. My daughter was in preschool and I had to drive her and pick her up. So I had to drag her two younger siblings and a little boy I was babysitting at the time. It was either leave them in the car which was parked right beside the school with all windows pointing out to my car, or drag 2 kids and one in a car seat into the school to get her which took less than 5 minutes. I live in a really small area so it isn't bad, but if I'm in town I'm too worried about leaving them in the car. But more so that people who are over sensitive on the subject will freak out and call the cops rather than the worry that they could be in danger.
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Hi Ravinskye, If we have to leave them in the car for a very short time and you still have the opportunity to see them where you are, that would be okay. We should not take chances and never leave them alone for longer periods of time. Kidnappings are rampant in our country. This is especially in places near private schools where the rich families have sent their children. We should always take the necessary precautions and install safety measures for our children's safety and well being.
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• Canada
31 Jan 10
My daughter is 10 now. If I need to go into a place like 7-11, I give her the option to come in or stay in the car. However, if I go anywhere that I can't see her, she comes with me.
• Philippines
1 Feb 10
Hi Mannylayne, She is 10 and she can at least be alone for a short time. Good idea to bring her when you go to a place where you don't catch sight of the car where your child is. If the car is parked right beside a store where we need something quick, it should be that you that you can see her where you are at all times. We can never take chances. Thanks for sharing.
• United States
2 Mar 10
We worry about kidnappings, etc but what about this possible scenario? Parent leaves their child in the car "for just a minute" to drop off dry cleaning, a movie, etc. Then something happens to the parent in that minute - hit by a car in the parking lot, sudden heart attack, etc. The child could be in the car for hours until someone noticed him/her. The child could die in minutes depending upon the temperature. Also -- this may be a little off topic, but worth mentioning if it would cause somebody to think for a minute: I frequently notice mothers leaving their child in the cart while they unload groceries into their cars. The parent doesn't bother to even hold onto the cart and often they leave the cart/child at the rear of the car while they go to the front. This isnt taking seconds, it's taking many, many minutes. Often they are on their precious cell phone. The child is the last thing they take out of the cart! While they are so busy unloading their precious groceries and talking on their precious phones, the cart could roll into traffic, be hit by a passing car, be grabbed by an abductor, and the list goes on. The precious CHILD should be the first thing put into the car -- not the last. Leaving the door open for ventilation of course!