Should friends tell each other bad words?

@ANIME123 (2473)
United States
February 1, 2010 9:34pm CST
I don't think that it's very nice when friends do this. I certainly don't like being told bad words because it hurts my feelings. Sometimes you don't even know if a friend is being serious, but is just acting that they are just kidding. I have not ever said bad words to my friends. I just don't like to do it. Bad words can be really hurtful. I love to say nice words though and compliments because that is what makes someone happy. It makes them feel better about themselves. I think it is direspect to say bad words to your frined. What do you all think though should friends tell each other bad words??? Shouldn't friends be caring towards one another.
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14 responses
• Indonesia
3 Feb 10
I don't really like to say bad words, even though my friends always do that. But if my friend say those bad words, i just think that they r only joking. And i never say back those bad words to my friends. Because i'm afraid to hurt them. We never know what people keep in their heart. So its better for me to say only nice words. But i never be angry if my friend do that for me. Im a flexible person.
• Jamaica
3 Feb 10
i do not think friends should tell each other curse words. i believe that it is unhealthy for the friendship. Friends must can find another way in which to solve their differences or even relate with each other than resolving to use curse words.
@Ladyslipper (1330)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
Hi anime! I believe it depends on how the word was said. I am not also sure what you meant by "bad words." I don't want to give a wrong conclusion. I want to share you something though. I have been friends with different types of people. I've been friends with a person who has always been nice to me. However, in the end it turned out she is only a friend in good times. Currently, I have three very close friends: one of them is gay and then two girls. We always tease each other and we sometimes tell bad words to each other. Let us say for example, I would tell them that there is one person I really hate and then I did something nasty to that person. They would tell me, "You know what you are so mean! You're a b!t(!!** girl!" And I would tell them, "Yeah right, because you three are also mean and b!t(!!** that's why!" Then, we would end up laughing at each other. We also have an endearment for each other which other people would not call an endearment. We sometimes call each other witch, ugly, etc. However, it does not hurt us. Why? Because our friendship has been tested a lot of times. We are like family. We knew each other's family and our moms treat each other like their own children as well. We've always supported each other. That's the reason all of us are now holding positions in our company. We are all partners in everything. We work in the same company. Three of us started as staffs and the other one a Supervisor. We pull each other up. One of us is now a Manager and the three of us are now Supervisors. We love and care for each other and no matter how many bad words we tell to each other it will not hurt us because we trust each other and we all knew that those bad words are just simply a tease and our way of saying to each other I love you and I know you love me back.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
2 Feb 10
Hi, ANIME123. No, friends should not do this. It is mean and ignorant. I had one of my friends call me a female dog before. She cursed at me. And from that I knew right then and there that she was no friend of mines. All of my other friends have never cursed at me. Just only her. I still communicated with her after that episode. But, I have stopped because she is no good for me. She plays too many games. And she does not like to pick up the phone when I call her. The last time that I talked to her, it was in May of last year. I am not going to call her from my home phone number either. Nor will I call her from my cell phone number either. She is like bad news to me. I love her dearly but she leaves me in a state of confusion.
@Mady2791 (547)
• United States
2 Feb 10
I believe there are other healthy ways, not to mention ENJOYABLE, to play/joke around without cursing/bullying your "friend"(ha!)
• Hong Kong
2 Feb 10
i do not like bad words maybe i will not do that to my friend because low profile person do that as their own way, and i am not like that...
• China
2 Feb 10
if its all done in good fun i don't see anything wrong with it
@kyel_11 (1069)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
If it is for each other's personality development, why not? I mean if these bad words intention are like constructive criticisms then it's okay for me. I think it's good to hear those words coming from your friends instead of hearing them from other people. BUT if it is like swearing your friend as an expression only, this is not acceptable for me. It's not really helpful to swear your friends with no reason at all. For fun? Duh! It's not funny anyway.
@Reedshao (24)
2 Feb 10
Real friends will never be affected by casual bad words.Sometimes if you do something wrong or something unproper,bad words can make you sober...
• China
2 Feb 10
Hi,Anime,I think you must be a serious man.I don't want to hear the bad words,and I also don't say bad words to my friends sometimes.But if I am joking with my very good friends,I don't take care what they said,because it is not serious,we both don't take care,so it wouldn't hurt both of us.It is just a joke,you mustn't like joking,I think.
• India
2 Feb 10
no buddy using bad words is not a good way... but when u really know your friend the best way... u can understand what he/she is trying to communicate... i dunno from where those bad words come from... my friends don't bad words when it comes to intra gang... but we do abuse people who we dunno when they actually you know get too much into privacy or rash driving... or when they hurt my friends and stuff like that...
• United States
2 Feb 10
To be honest, my friends an I joke around a lot...We don't use obscenely bad words, but it's nothing too hurtful. And we also say nice things as well, but being a guy, I think it's just in our nature to act that way when we hang out and stuff.
@Mady2791 (547)
• United States
2 Feb 10
I don't like it. If both people are ok with it then go ahead and curse your heart out.To me it seems if you let this person call you/or say to you all kinds of words you fall into two types of friend-relationships. If you answer back the same way you fall into the hostile-aggressive. Yeah, you might laugh about it sometimes but eventually you will get in a confrontation. If you are the passive friend and let this person curse you around then you fall into the bully-friend boss/abuse you around type of relationship.(unhealthy,and draining). Maybe I'm thinking like an old granny but all that behavior is kind of high schoolish to me:( I graduated from high school a looooong looooong time ago. I'm not a teenager, I'm a grownup. I want a grown-up friendship type of relationship which can also be fun enjoyable without the stupidity. For me if there is not respect, there is no friendship, period.
@Hatley (164484)
• Garden Grove, California
2 Feb 10
anime123 no real friends, good friends do not use bad words with each other even in kidding. if this person does that to you you tell her or him to knock it off or you can no longer be friends. My best friend in all the years i have known her has never used bad words with me,nor I with her. they hurt just like you said, and friends do not intentionally hurt each other. My best friend sometimes is blunt when I have goofed off and ate something we both know is not good for me blood sugar level.but its not bad words, its more like teasing but with love and caring behind it such as shame on you, I just dont know about you, then a gentle hand on my arm, and she will say. well I did that too just last week. so guess we both better be good. teasing is one thing amime but mean unkind words do not belong with good friends at all.