What you gonna do if your boyfriend be afraid to married?

China
February 1, 2010 11:59pm CST
My boyfriend is afraid to married caused by family environment, he is a good guy, he want us stay as boyfriend and girlfriend but not married. What you gonna do with this situation?
6 responses
@freymind (1352)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
it depends if you are in the right age already or if he is already stable emotionally, financially, physically and religiously. it all comes down to that. sometimes there are guys who are afraid that they couldn't control what will happen inside the marriage that is why they don't want to be into it. be careful with your man now... ask him these questions.. he's jeopardizing your happiness by making you wait and stay that way... you're not getting any younger... what if you've been with him for so many years then he just ends it like that... any reason will do but what will happen to you? what will happen to your happiness? Are you sure he thinks of you by not getting married and being in love with you for the rest of his life? think about it gurl... if he doesn't want to be married with you then he doesn't want to grow old with you... period... he just wants someone to be there when he needs you then drop you like a hot potato when he doesn't. its very convenient to do that when you are bf and gf... but if you are married he will have a tougher time to let you go... so therefore i conclude your bf just doesn't love you that much to risk his singleness... just leave him and find someone who'll want to be old with you.
• China
5 Feb 10
He just don't want be married, he is afraid of the unknown things coming with marriage. The point is we love each other so much, we don't want separate. We are longing live together in the rest of life with beautiful scenes. He really loves me, I can feel that.
@shan0822 (436)
• United States
5 Feb 10
it's kind funny, even you don't married, tere still lots of stuff unexpend will hapend, every day unexpend thing will hapend!
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
well maybe your boyfriend got some trauma by,as you have said,family environment.. if you want him to marry you,make him realize that not all family are like his family,it depends on how the couple handle the marriage.
• China
5 Feb 10
Yes, that's the point. I'd try that.
• Malaysia
2 Feb 10
i waited for 16 year n got married with him 3 years back ~ think if your love is worth waiting , me i was lucky but not all man r the same, as they can walk out anytime without marriage, the woman is at lost .. u get pregnantn is he going to commit to the child ? if there is any incident or accident to him or even to urself, both of u hv no legal rights over anything
• China
3 Feb 10
yeah, maybe I just need waiting, maybe the time is not ready for now.
@shan0822 (436)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I think first you should really consider this man, found what reason he don't want to marry, sometimes there is just a excuse. You could dicuss with you best friends or parents, is this reason can accept. Sometimes girls become blind when they were in a relatinship, so be rational. Most guys say they don't want marriage just beacuse deep their heart they want someone better. So think about it, is he really deverse to wait? I heard a story, the boy always tell the girl he didn't want married, but when they broke up, half year later, the girl heard the boy just married! Realtionship is so tough sometimes, but I hope your boyfriend is worth you wait! Oh, one thing forget to say, it also depend on how much did you want a marriage, if you didn't want so much, maybe you just partner for each other!
• Indonesia
2 Feb 10
I think i will leave him and find another guy that really loves me and want to spend the rest of his life with me by marrying me. If he doesn't want marry you, i think he's not too serious with you. He just wants to have fun with you. It's useless to be with someone like that. I think he doesn't want to have any responsibility with your life. But the decision is in your hand. If you feel comfort with this situation, so enjoy you relationship. But if i were you, I will always have this matter in my head, and i won't be able to enjoy my relationship.
@markmoney (2868)
• Philippines
2 Feb 10
I can't really find the reason of your boyfriend not to marry you. The thing that comes to my mind is that your boyfriend is not yet contented with you and not willing to be bound with you for the rest of his life. Maybe he is not yet sure if he can live with you forever. Because if he really loves you, of course he will be wanting you to be his wife. Marriage is important for your relationship to be legal. Convince him again and again coz I believe that lovers should really end up in marriage. Happy myLotting!