why do we always long for the things that we don't have?

Philippines
February 2, 2010 9:36pm CST
It could be anything. A few months ago I wanted an Ipod so bad that I even got into a fight with one of my sisters because she thought it was a waste of money. I bought it anyway and now I think I didn't want it that bad after all. In one discussion I read a single woman who wanted toget married and in another discussion someone wished that she's not married. It seems no matter how hard we work and how hard we try we just can't achieve that feeling of contentment anymore. And once we up our stakes it gets harder to meet our own expectations.
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• United States
3 Feb 10
I think a lot of it has to do with outside influence. Whenever I'm looking at stuff online, and I read all these great positive reviews about it, it makes me want it much more...maybe so that I will also experience its greatness or something, lol.
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• Philippines
4 Feb 10
I think they call it consumerism. Our decisions about material things are being manipulated so that it would turn out that you need something that in reality you wouldn't find helpful. Do we need the new Ipad? Or the latest phone model. That sort of thing.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
3 Feb 10
Hm, a very good question. It would make no sense to long for what we already have, hence our longings will always be for what we don't now have. Or...perhaps we're all just a little "fickle" that way lol. It's human nature. karen
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
Hello abitcurious, This is life. Some were not contented with what they had,and keep longing for things that they thought exciting or give them symbol. Some people are simple in many ways. Contentment is the main subject when it comes to longing. It is not bad to longed for things when it is really necessary. But longing for things which is unnecessary can lead into obsession and could be dangerous too.
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@kyel_11 (1069)
• Philippines
3 Feb 10
Do you know the song Vienna by Billy Joel? There's a line in here, "but don't you know that only fools are satisfied?" :) I just remembered it because it's one of the OST's of 13 going on 30 and I can relate this song to this topic. However, I kinda disagree with him that you're a fool if you're satisfied. Hmm.. Anyway, maybe that's one of the natures of a human. We tend to long for the things that we don't have like for example in the color of our skin. Some Filipinos want to have a white skin because we are brown, however the white people want to get tanned. We can just be satisfied in life if we have Jesus in our hearts. We will never ask for more :)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
I totally agree with you about the skin tone thing. I have this silent pledge that I'm not going to use any whitening product at all--maybe except whitening toothpaste. Those commercials that advocate skin whitening just makes Filipinas insecure about their natural skin tone. I'm not against being vain--it's perfectly natural for humans to preen--but I'm against changing what it is that makes us different from others.