Letting pride stop you from going back to an old job!!

@lola1981 (103)
United States
February 3, 2010 7:30pm CST
As hard as it is nowadays to find a job i've thought about reapplying to some places i used to work at but i'm letting my pride get in the way. I feel like if I go back i'll be judged, critized or worse so it scares me. I've mostly worked at hotels in the housekeeping and banquet departments and I tried to get along good with my co-workers but maybe it was anxiety, depression, or smoking a lil pot everyday that made it impossible for me to even want to come to work. I was always dependable, helped others, and made extra hours so I know i was a good employee. I just dread the thought of going back but I can't stand to see my family struggle with bills so...
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@donna22 (1120)
4 Feb 10
I lost my job just before Christmas and if I was asked to go back tommorrow I really think I would because I enjoyed it and I also need the money. At end of the day, if you do go back somewhere you worked before and it does not work out, the fact is that you tried. You may also be at an advantage from the others who apply because you have the experience and you know the place. You do not have to worry about walking into a strange place and meeting all new people.
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
i guess being worried and being scarede really prevents you from seeing the posible out come. as for me, i have the experienced but not experience enough, makes me wonder if how am i gonna pull it through.
@Hiker769 (85)
• United States
4 Feb 10
I know how ya feel. I really liked my old job, then I came in on Monday morning, and wasn't clocked it 5 minutes when my supervisor led me into his office to lay me off. But he wanted me to be on call for snow removal! Needless to say I told him politely if he can't give me regular hours I can't be on call. After I was home for a few hours I was called to come pick my last check up, which didn't even include that 5 minutes! I reallly don't want to go bad to a boss like that( he said he wants me back come spring) but I can't find anything else, and definately not for the money I was making there. So I'm gonna try to make something online, and probably have to go back. But hopefully we'll both find something better.
@lola1981 (103)
• United States
4 Feb 10
Thanks and good luck to you!!
@MrKennedy (1994)
4 Feb 10
Listen, if you really need the money and know that if you do not find a job soon, then it will cause a whole host of problems in the future, then I say you need to swallow your pride just this once and return to the job. I mean, the welfare of your family is at stake here. Think to yourself, what is more important, saving a small ounce of pride that you will earn back in the long run or watch your family suffer and struggle?
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
Be very reasonable and logical -- ultraprofessional. Remind your superior of the quality work that you did and point out that the difficulties that caused any inappropriate workplace behavior have been resolved. Tell him that you've learned from the experience and are eager to once again work at a job you love. Tell him you feel like you can be an even better employee now. Best of LUCK!
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
Hello Lola, I have the same dilemna but not because i will be treated badly but because of the fear that i may not the same person or might not have possess the same edge as i did in the past. but you know, we just have to let it go and try that job again. sometimes pride doesn't really help us but only drag us into being more sad and depressed even more. let it go and i hope it would make you feel better.
@Ladyslipper (1330)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
I really don't know what's the right thing to say in this situation. It is because I have never wanted to go back to an old job. It is not because of pride but it is because before I leave my job I make sure that I'll be going to a greener pasture. I am happier now and get compensated real good in my new job compared to the previous one. If I will be in your situation though I would try to find a better job but if there is really no choice then I would go back to my old job. Sometimes we have to be practical speacially in these times of economic crisis.
• India
4 Feb 10
Actually an old job where you were comfortable is always better than new places where you kind of take sometime to settle down and you don’t even know whether you can ever settle down at all, inspite of all your efforts! But I also know how pride can come between practicality and foolishness and make us take the wrong decisions! People at the old place might think that you were not successful or that you could not adjust or were not upto the expectations of the new employers so that’s kind of demeaning, I know. Even then, you can always take a look at the options and since you know that you were always valued, it would be beneficial to the company too…so they should not create much problem.
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
4 Feb 10
this is a hard situation you are in. it is not easy to weight the things you want and the things that bothers you. i also tried to go back to a old work because of the pay although i know that i am no longer happy doing it. but a few months passed and i was offered to a much better job so i left. sometimes even it hasa good pay but you are not happy doing it, it is not enjoyable to go to work. if the pay is your reason then go and work, something good might come up to you too. goodluck my friend