If You Caught Your Hubby/Partner Wearing Your Clothes How Would You React?

@Janey1966 (24126)
Carlisle, England
February 4, 2010 11:14am CST
I once saw a brilliant documentary about transvestites and how their respective partners coped with it, as, generally speaking, they aren't gay. That is the biggest myth of all about them. Anyway, what would I do? Well, for a start, John would find it difficult getting into my clothes as we are totally different shapes and he's a lot taller..but, speaking hyperthetically and if we were both the same size. If I did catch him wearing my clothes it wouldn't bother me one bit. I would do like the lady did in the documentary and "go with the flow" and even go shopping with him. Share make-up tips. Seriously, I would! I don't have any girlfriends so to shop with hubby...er, as a girl, would be ace! To be serious for a minute. What would you do if you caught your hubby in your clothes? Would you laugh? How understanding would you be? Now then, where've I put my knickers....
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19 responses
• Canada
4 Feb 10
Hi Janey, We have a famous lawyer here who's a man but now is a woman. He doesnt look like a woman and he's not a pretty sight all dressed up as a woman with long hair and make up and all. He's married to a woman as his "change" happened AFTER his marriage. She says it doesnt bother her at all. It didnt me at first but then as I got to look at him and you can tell he's a man dressed up as a woman, he has a low voice also so its very weird. I think only a mother could go along with this or someone who loves unconditionally. For me, I think id lose respect maybe. Why show yourself that way when you look .......like a clown!! Ive seen some TV and some look really good, those are the ones id like to share make up secrets with lol. I cant even have my husband wear my wool scarf if he's going out with the dog, so I dont think he'd want to wear any of my clothes....besides they wouldnt fit him lol
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• United States
6 Feb 10
I wold be upset because he didn't ask first! The cloths are mine , nit his. If he needs women's clothes then I would help him buy his own!
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
6 Feb 10
Sounds like a good idea to me. It would be entertaining in itself, wouldn't it, all the shopping?
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• United States
6 Feb 10
Wait a minute? I just thought of something. the way I dress, the roles would be reversed. I wear guy's jeans and shirts and even shoes! A true tranversite wouldn't want to wear any of my clothes, lol!
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
7 Feb 10
Haha! Excellent! Great deducing (word of the day) my friend. You wear his clothes so you HAVE to go shopping for his new girlie stuff. Brilliant!
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@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
even before the other sexes emerged, it's not unusual for the wife to wear some of the husband's clothing and vice versa. but of course, a purely female piece of clothing would be crazy on a man. what i am saying are, shirts and pants, coats and sweaters, windbreakers and pullovers, and a lot of clothing items that could invariably be worn by any of the female or male kind...
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
i think, it was even before the word got coined. it all started when men, seeing women in the cold, would share their outer clothings... just like a knightly act...
@hagirl (1296)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I believe I would laugh my *ss off because he alot more muscular then me so he would rip my clothes... I will have to say he has wore my jogging pants before because his was not clean.... It is OK if it is not the Hanes Her Way ones..... I just laugh at him and let him go.... He does not care... He just thinks they are a clean pair of jogging pants.....
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
5 Feb 10
I suppose you draw the line at skirts, eh lol.
@hagirl (1296)
• United States
5 Feb 10
You are right I draw the line at skirts and makeup... I think that is understandable though....
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
5 Feb 10
First, he is always bigger than me. So I wear his clothes. When I gain weight, he does, too. So I end up with his clothes. He's 5 feet 11 inches tall and I'm 5 feet 3, so he's going to wear what of mine?
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
5 Feb 10
I've absolutely no idea! He could buy stuff and keep it hidden in drawers maybe? Sorry, I didn't mean to make a joke about it.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
5 Feb 10
Oh, my, don't worry about making a joke of it. I discussed similar topics with my husband. He is turned off by men wearing women's clothing. My wearing his clothing does nothing for him either, but his clothes are more rugged than mine and make for working in wild raspberry bushes, a less skin ripping sensation, so he understands. Our society doesn't mine women wearing men's clothing, but seems to have a problem with the other way around.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
5 Feb 10
Let me see. If he rips them, he pays for them. Anyway I am larger then my husband and the clothes would fall off of them. I also feel very uncomfortable wearing jeans with the button on the wrong way and I doubt he would look good in ladies clothes. I would be rolling on the floor laughing my head off. Cannot imagine, he with his hairy body and all.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
5 Feb 10
Well, yes, that would be a sight wouldn't it? I've noticed that even female jeans have the button on the wrong side now, it's very annoying!
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
10 Feb 10
It would be make one wonder if the lady was particularly flat and straight down. With someone like me who is curvy and hippy, I would know that the pants were made for women, but those who are straight hipped, well they might wonder whether they were wearing unisex pants.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
4 Feb 10
Well, that would really look funny. Me and my hubby are almost the same size and i think it would be a disaster as he would not fit into any hotpants of mine. Just imagine, no, i don,t think so. After i laughed my butt off, i will slap him silly, as it is my clothes and i do not wear his.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
4 Feb 10
Not even his jeans? I think that's where the expression "boyfriend jeans" comes from cos many women like to wear their "other halves' jeans?
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
4 Feb 10
Unfortunately his hips are broader than mine. And i have to keep pulling those jeans up. Believe me, i did try it once, but to no avail. And yes, he doesn,t mind those broader hips, it looks sexy. TATA.
• Boston, Massachusetts
6 Feb 10
Hi Jane, I know my hubby so well that he'll not go this far as it relates to wearning my clothes. just in case he will, i will find it funny and even ask him to try some other clothes of mine and see what fits him right...what color matches his skin tone and also the style. it will be a fun time for both of us. i will treat it as his "MOMENT". so, no problem with me. i am exposed with gays, transvestite, transgender and even lesbians...i have lots of friends who are gay and this is not anymore an issue for me. i will be a supportive wife.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
6 Feb 10
I just KNEW you would be Winky, the amazing woman you are! I believe you too when you say that you would find better clothes for hubby that fit him better. That's so sweet. You wouldn't want him to look stupid would you, my friend. You want him to look his best and feel comfortable, no matter what he is wearing. An inspiration to us all. You're the BEST!
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
6 Feb 10
I'm old fashioned for a 32 year old. I long for the days when men were men, and women were women. I'm not attracted to similarities, but differences. I have no interest in a women dressing up as a man. So if you sport the idea of having a guy that acts like a girl, so you can share make-up tips and such, that's your call. For me, tom girls are on my banned list. Only women who act like WOMEN.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
6 Feb 10
The question wasn't about women dressing up as men, it's about men dressing up as women, but thanks anyway for your comment.
• United States
5 Feb 10
I have caught my WIFE wearing My Underwear to Shorts/tee shirts on many occasions and each time I say to her, "HEY Man, take off my clothes and put on your own! OH HELLZ NO, U Have On MY DRAWERS TOO??!"
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
5 Feb 10
Haha! I like it my friend. Double standards isn't it I suppose?
@dksemke (66)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I've got to say that if I caught my husband in my clothes and he didn't immediately tell me that we had just been invited to a "Come as Your Spouse" party - I'd laugh it off, more out of shock than anything, but it would start to bug me and I can't think of an explanation that wouldn't be disturbing. I know that I would start quizzing, making comments...trying to get a response that I would believe was the truth. Then I'd bug him to get help and I can see the entire relationship start to go downhill. Maybe it's my own insecurity with my sexuality or some other politically correct attitude, but I want the guy to be the guy and let me be the girl. Yes - double standard because I wear his sweatshirts, but that has been socially acceptable at least since the 50's!
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
5 Feb 10
Haha! You should read about the transvestite that has contributed to this discussion. He seems relatively normal to me. I must be the tolerant type.
5 Feb 10
Like most transvestites I have been one as long as I can remember. I told my wife before we married and she said she would rather I did not but she would accept that as part of my character. When I was slimmer I could wear her clothes and she let me wear her nurses uniform at times. As you can see from my name I have been trained as a maid and at times I have worked as a maid mainly for two ladies who live locally both of whom my wife knows. I have made a TV program about being a male maid and my wife and daughter were in the program. Just about everyone we know knows about me working as a maid from time to time and that has never been a problem
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
5 Feb 10
I'm so glad a transvestite has responded to my discussion and you are most welcome. I really mean that too. Your response has given me an insight as to how you both cope with it all...and quite admirally, I must say. Working as a maid is a fantastic way of you being able to dress up as one too. That's brilliant! Was your programme about maids on the telly? I bet it was on Channel 4!
@BART78 (2932)
• Canada
5 Feb 10
i had a bad experience of wearing my wife's bra, just to make her smile cause she's mad at me, while she's dressing up to go to work, she hit me with her shoe that almost broke my ribs, but she's smilling though..
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
6 Feb 10
Haha! I'm trying to think what my hubby would look like in my bra...probably not very good if I'm being honest! Glad your antics made your wife smile...but hitting you with her shoe. Ouch! It wasn't a stilletto was it? Double Ouch!
• Australia
5 Feb 10
After being married to my wonderful husband for 50 years (next month) I'd know it wasn't him. I would 1000% (no that's not a typo) guarantee that he wouldn't do it - not even for a fancy dress party.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
5 Feb 10
Congratulations in advance! 50 years! Wow that's amazing. Well, Mum and Dad have been married for over 40 years and I'd like to think that Mum knows Dad better than anyone. I can't see him in a dress somehow lol...not at 72!
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
4 Feb 10
well Ive seen it before, no ny girly clothes but my pyjamas. I think I would be shocked though, only cause its most deffinately not something id ever expect. I think Id probably sit him down and ask him alot of quesions after that
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
4 Feb 10
Yes, I suppose it would take a lot of explaining and it would be a shock, I must admit, if I ever saw hubby in any of my clothes.
@benny128 (3621)
4 Feb 10
I guess from a male point of view, I think the female would have to be open minded, I have dressed up in drag for stag do's and daft nights out and my ex used to howl with laughter. Not sure how she would react if I was wearing her clothes on a daily or weekly basis. Though I do agree with guys not being gay and guys that do that I think can be 100% male, we all have our preferences. Some people like wearing make up some don't, some guys like to wear shoes some trainers etc etc Its just another personal choice and if people were more open about it both male and females then it would be a lot more accepted. Plus women never get accused of being not a women if they wear men's clothes, so a bit of a double standard he he he take care
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
4 Feb 10
Well that's very true. It was ages ago I wore a skirt and that was on a night out lol. Is Eddie Izzard a transvestite? I'm not quite sure about him. I do know he's not gay and women seem to adore him (me included) because he's so funny. He looks so normal somehow in his high heels although that massive run he did...I don't think he wore high heels for that lol.
@cloud31 (5811)
4 Feb 10
Well It won't bother me at all too,he can wear my shirts doesn't matter unless his going out and hes going to wear my skirts, oh that's another thing, i will surely get mad, there might be something wrong with him..hahaha.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
4 Feb 10
Could have a laugh about it I suppose. He wouldn't be able to go out playing snooker anymore though...it's a man's only game in the Clubs lol.
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
4 Feb 10
I was able to see it on BBC. One of those moments last week when I was able to watch TV for 45 minutes. Anyway, I have learn a lot and question a lot. Yes, they are not gays but....not 100% man either. They are trap in between. I can understand, but I wouldn't like to have partner wearing woman's clothes.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
4 Feb 10
I must admit, tolerance would have to be sky high wouldn't it...but it is a toughie. If it was now and again I would probably be ok about it, but every day could create a bit of friction!
@doormouse (4619)
4 Feb 10
i would just stand there and laugh,i wouldn't be able to help myself,i wouldn't mind as long as he bought his own clothes and didn't wear mine