When you DIE what do you want people to Remember about YOU?
By Bearballew
@Bearballew (1148)
United States
February 4, 2010 9:28pm CST
I thought about this a few days ago. Seems like weekly I'm hearing of someone close to me or those I love dying. I'm preparing for another funeral tomorrow of a young man leaving 2 boys and an unborn baby behind. It's becoming so real to me that my time is closer and closer. I know that as soon as we take our first breath we are in the process of dying. But it's getting closer and I started thinking, "What will people remember about me? What will they make sure my children... grandchildren know about me?"
I thought about our Saturday morning breakfast. It's been the same for years. I thought about how I would like someone to say that I taught all my children to read. I want my children to remember that we played hide and seek in the dark.
So what do you want people to remember about YOU? What do you think they will say? Will you start talking to your friends and family to let them know these things are important to you and to pass them on to the living?
Thanks for sharing!
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34 responses
@GardenGerty (157546)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I am wandering in the dark more or less on this one. I am in the midst of some family trials and it is bringing me down. I hope people would remember me as a friend and someone who was creative and enthusiastic, who loved life and all the people in it.
@Bearballew (1148)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I think you might be surprised at how many peole in your life ALREADY DO think that about you! Hang in there. Life is worth living!!
Bear
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I've already talked to my sons about what is important to me when I die--don't spend money you don't have to, donate every part of me you can, burn the rest. I've recently started a journal so that they'll have something of me when I'm gone.
I'd like people to remember me as someone who made them laugh, cheered them up, taught them a little something every once in awhile but most of all I'd like to be remembered of the mother of two fine sons who turned out to be well adjusted men with happy wives and children.
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@Bearballew (1148)
• United States
5 Feb 10
wow... that was great. I want to be there when they proudly stand up there and talk about their great Mama!
Very cool that you've started the journal. I should do that. Great tip!
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@ErrollLeVant (4353)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I would like to think they would remember me as a dependable guy who liked to laugh, learn and love.
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@ErrollLeVant (4353)
• United States
5 Feb 10
i am a voracious reader, always seeking new ideas and thoughts
@Bearballew (1148)
• United States
5 Feb 10
That's pretty cool. What is your favorite thing to learn?
Bear
@Bearballew (1148)
• United States
5 Feb 10
That's awesome! What a great response!
Bear
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@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I have never really given it any thought, but to tell you the truth, I don't think I really care what people remember about me. I have done some things in my life that I shouldn't have done before I got married, and I am sure I have done some things that I shouldn't have done since I got married, but I have spent the last nine years of my life doing all I can to work and make a better life for my family. I don't have anything to prove to anyone, and I don't really care what other people think about me. Maybe I should give this issue some thought??? LOL
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@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
14 Feb 10
That I was a decent person, that is enough. I just don't want anyone to hate me. Hate is a very destructive thing, for both parties and everyone around them.
Sure it would be nice to be remembered for any acheivements I have attained, as well.
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@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
9 Feb 10
When I die I want people to remember that I was a generous person that gave her whole self or at least most of it to helping others making the world better.I would also like people to remember that I was a brilliant poet,but I am going to have to work a litter harder if I want the second accolade to become attached to me.
@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
6 Feb 10
I want people to remember as a giving person, that
I helped people in need. That I did what I could
to comfort people in need. That I taught my family
there are more important things in this world than
their selves. That I will be in Heaven waiting on them.
That I taught them how to trust and believe in
God.
Happy posting.
@shaggin (71663)
• United States
13 Mar 11
I hope someday that when I die people will remember me as a good person with a good sense of humor. The most important thing is that people remember me as a loving devoted mother. No one elses opinion on that will matter as much as my childrens opinion someday though.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
5 Feb 10
U know i think no matter what u want people will remember what they want to about u. someone who doesn't like u are not going to remember anything good about u. I just hope somebody remembers some good things about me.
@mentalward (14691)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I hope people will remember me as a personification of love. I've always tried to be fair in all situations, to put myself in others' shoes before making any judgment or criticism (and ONLY if and when asked for it), to help everyone I can and share what I have.
My oldest son has called me "gullible" but I told him a nicer word, just as appropriate, would be "trusting". He agreed. I trust everyone until or unless they give me a good reason not to. Sure, I've been used but I don't feel bad about it, at least not about myself. I feel good because what I did, I did from my heart.
I hope my philosophy of life will live on through my sons. They are both very kind, thoughtful and generous men. They're not quite as "All You Need Is Love" as I am but they're pretty cool in their own right.
@celticeagle (158876)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Feb 10
I want people to remember me as being a good person, mother and grandmother. I want there to be good memories, not bad. A warm feeling of happiness and positiveness along with the memories. A unique laugh and a wonderful way of looking at life. I hope my grandkids continue their lives with great strength and able to bare the storms. That is what I want people to remember about me.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 Feb 10
I want first and foremost for people to remember that I was a very giving and caring person. I've been known to give until I can't possibly give any more, I was born with a very kind heart. I also want my children to pass on that I loved them more than I love my own life. I'm actually in the process of recording as many of my memories as I can so that when my time in this world does end I am able to leave a legacy behind for my family.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
5 Feb 10
well..i am going on living my life, the best way I think, which is good for others...i mean i try not to be bad at least if i can't be good to anyone...just carrying out my responsibilities the best way I can...if God thinks that I have done good, then I don't care for humans.
@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I would like to remember that I was a person
who did her best, to help anyone . That I
taught my family the good things of life,
that it is not all about you, but about
the people you meet a long the way. That
I will be waiting in Heaven for them. That
I taught them to believe in God.
Happy posting.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Feb 10
That I was funny and that I have a good heart...
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I have actually thought about this a lot. I have children that I would like to remember me as being a good and kind person. Strong and independent too. I want them to want to teach their own children some of the things I've taught them. I have lived a fairly open life too so there aren't to many surprises for them to discover after I'm gone. I guess I just want to be remembered more than anything else. I hate the thought of being forgotten about.
@maria1081 (1251)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
When I die I want people to remember me as a warm person. I hope they can remember the smile on my face, my sincerity and my affection that I gave them.
