The guy wants to make friends with me who once hurted me
February 5, 2010 7:55am CST
He was my first boy friend, we knew each other five years ago through a classmate of us.Actually, I do not like him. After a long time's associatin, I found that he was so mean, even I used my own money he also prevented me from spending it. I can not bear it, so we broke up. One day, he called me that wanted to make good friends with me, but I rejected to.I will never see him again.
5 Feb 10
Relation is not a firm and rigid thing. All relation varies with time. It is you who have to take decision on this matter. You can consider on reestablishing of that relation and you may firm in your former decision. And the reason you shows as the cause of breaking your relation indicates that that guy is a very noble person. Now you know the best for you.
• Garden Grove, California
6 Feb 10
hi bluerainhong I am not sure what you want from us mylotters,do you want advice? As the way I see it I think you are right,he was making a power play and starting to sound like a woman batterer. This kind of behavior starts like that then if you marry this bozo or live with him, he will suddenly not want you to go out, not trust you with other men,he will want to control you in all ways, now once he gets to that step, then if you cross him he will likely hit you. no split with him as he sounds like very bad new.Your instincts are right, you should not like him as he is not good for a sweet trusting young woman. You need a boyfriend who will treat you like you deserve to be treated and never think of trying to control you in any way.
6 Feb 10
Hi,Hatley, thanks very much,your advice is welcome. The one your analyzeed seems a little terrible for me. You see ,like you said, I do not want to be controlled by some guy and who I needed is the one that trust me. I like freedom. Happy Every Day, my friend. Thanks again!
• United States
6 Feb 10
If I were you, I think I can not befriend with him anymore. I don't think the ex can be a friend. But I think he prevented you use money maybe because his eperience, maybe he just want you have notice that money kind importent in one's life, you should not just buy everything you want, sometimes you should save it for future! So I didn't think he is mean just beacuse of that. But I believe if you have different face, it's kind hard for you living together, so just do what you wan do in your life.