Why guys think that when they cry others might think he is a gay?

Philippines
February 5, 2010 10:57am CST
Hmmm There are people who thinks that the guy is a gay when he cries. I think this is not fair for them. They are also human who needs to cry when they are hurt. I do like guys who cries and tell what they really feel. I am happy when my friends go to me and cry because I feel that they can trust me and can help them. So guys when you are hurt just let it out like girls. Just let others think whatever they want to think. For guys: Do you keep your feeling when you are hurt? Or are you a type of person admitting that he needs the help of others and cry?
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11 responses
@Trojin (188)
• United States
5 Feb 10
I agree completely. I hate it when people say guys aren't suppose to cry or it's stupid to cry. If I'm hurt, heck yeah I'm gonna cry. And I'm a big dude who could... well.. bash your face in if he wanted. There's no calling me gay if I cry. Even my girlfriend has said guys aren't suppose to cry. Though... I know she wouldn't call me gay for crying. She knows I cry sometimes and recently she's been really supportive about it. Helpful. Now... For me it depends on the person. I don't let anyone but my girlfriend see it when I'm hurt or upset. With everyone else in the world I just automatically put a smile on my face and pretend like the world is sunshine.
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• Philippines
5 Feb 10
Well that is a positive way to lessen the pain just smile and work things out. Glad that your girlfriend is supportive. Thanks for the response.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
5 Feb 10
There is nothing wrong if a guy shed some tears. You have to let it out, no matter what gender. It is unhealthy to bottle up that emotions. When i see a guy cry, i leave him untill he feel up to talking. Go ahead guys, cry all ou want, that only makes you human.
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
Yes I agree with you. Do not keep your emotions sometimes it will lead to depression just cry all the pain like girls did. Thanks for your response.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
5 Feb 10
My pleasure. TATA.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
5 Feb 10
Tears come from a persons emotions, and have nothing to do with sexuality.
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
Yes your right. Thanks for the response mipen2006.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
Well,for me...i admire guys who can cry openly. It only means...that guy is brave enough to let his feeling flow freely. I never think that a crying guy always mean that he is a gay. You are right..men were also human...they also feel the pain when they get hurt,so,what's the problem if they cry their heart out like women do.
• Philippines
5 Feb 10
yes you are right. I hate people who are judgmental. Anyway thanks for your response. :)
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
I don't know why they think that. Maybe because some people are so judgmental. There is nothing wrong about crying even he is a guy. Every people hurt or feel pain because we are just human we are not perfect.
@hexeduser22 (5854)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
I'm not afraid to cry. I cry when I feel the need to. Sometimes it's a way to release the stress and the heaviness we feel in our hearts. The saying boys don't cry is just a saying now or just a song sang in the new wave era of music. Those men who don't cry are pretenders and they can die easily because of heart attack
6 Feb 10
For me those who think a guy is a gay when he cries are retarded. Humans have emotions, so it's perfectly natural if they cry.
• Boston, Massachusetts
6 Feb 10
Hi Health, I don't think this still applies up to now. people are free to cry when they feel like crying male or female. people are empowered now and crying is not anymore a gender issue. i appreciate guys who's so comfrotable with their sexuality and being...if the3y want to cry go...not anymore an issue friend.
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
I know a guy that can cry, of course all of guys can cry and they cry. Some of them do not cry because it is unnecessary and they don't feel like showing it to a cry. They still can bear it inside. For me it is okay for them to cry and not to cry. But I admit sometimes when I see a guy crying it makes me hurt to see them, i really feel their pain. I saw a friend who is a guy, who lost a father before Christmas. I saw him mourning and when his father was laid to rest, he cried like he was dying. I was crying too, I feel his pain. And I never wanted to see him like that again. As of now, i wish he is already moved on from it.
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
6 Feb 10
There is nothing better then when a man can cry. I think its such a great thing when a man can show is feelings openly without fear of people making fun of him. When I see my Dad cry I see a man who is comfortable in his own skin without fear of what others will say. It just makes a man to me more at ease with his feminine side. A man who is to macho and would cry in front of anyone is to me a weak man with not a bit of substance.
@marguicha (90222)
• Chile
5 Feb 10
That is just a cultural item, like so many others. Some men that cry are more "manly" than insensitive cowards who evade hurt and pain. I think homosexuals have a great load to carry, mostly put on their shoulders by these people who are owners of the ultimate truth and are so eager to put "names" to anyone that´s different from them. Take care!