Too many kids

United States
February 6, 2010 1:49pm CST
I was talking to a friend and he was telling me about his cousin who has five kids between the ages 9 and 2 months old. To help raise the kids, the woman's mom and grandmother live with them plus they have a nanny. Recently the couple went on vacation but only took the three youngest since the other two are still in school. However, when they got back from the vacation, the parents complained to anyone who would listen how much they did not like taking care of their children- how hard it was, and how tiring it was. In my mind, I'm thinking there is so much wrong here. They were tired of taking care of three of their five children within a week. Wow! Just saying.
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@edxcast (1169)
• Ecuador
7 Feb 10
Hi vjenkins 5 kids too many? I dont know for me 5 seems such a little number. In my family we are 8 siblings(i have 4 sisters and 3 brothers).I guess sometimes is a bit tired for my parents, but i think they did a nice job.
• United States
7 Feb 10
I didnt mean to offend you. i'm sure your parents did do a good job raising you and your siblings. my question was more like was having 5 kids too much for the couple i was talking about. my grandparents had seven kids and i believe they all turned out great. i know a lady who raised 13 children successfully. then again, i also know of couples who are struggling to take care of 3. i guess what frustrates me is that this couple have five who they have practically handed off to the nanny and are ready to have more.
@edxcast (1169)
• Ecuador
7 Feb 10
offend me? lol i even though about that. Dont worry you didnt offend me.
• United States
7 Feb 10
oh good :)
@jugsjugs (13045)
6 Feb 10
I have six children and there are times where as i get very tired as well as never seem to get time for me not even of a night time as some of them are not good sleepers as well as one of them has adhd and is always on the go.There are alot of people out there that feel hard done by as they have children and the way i see it is that they had the children so they should look after them as well as keep an eye on where they are as well as what they are getting up to.I do not think it is fair to the children if they are being left to other people to look after neither is it fair on the person that is getting left with the children.
• United States
7 Feb 10
six children? wow. more power to you. i agree that it is not fair to the children having someone else taking care of them. i know that some parents get nannies when they are really busy and want an extra pair of hands but i always remember that my grandmother raised and took care of five children while being involved in a lot community affairs and organizations. she handled it all without all the luxuries we have now. oh well.
• Indonesia
7 Feb 10
I have six siblings, and my mother was taking care us by herself. I can't imageine how tired she was raising us, but i think it's not wise to give your children to others. It is not good for children because children have to live with their parent to learn from their parent how to live and so many ideal that the parent can teach to their children for living.
@shan0822 (436)
• United States
7 Feb 10
I think they should full resposibility for their kids, they can't just let their parents and nanny to take care of it! I think every couple should be thought throw before they plan to have kids. It is not right just give them born but let others to take care! How can they didn't realize that taking care of baby is huge job when they have their first and second kids! If you can't take care it, if you feel tired just don't give yourselves more responsibility, stop giving birth for 2 or 3 years. It just not right to let parents and nanny to take care of kids, they should full responsibility.
• United States
7 Feb 10
I do wish they would take more responsibility of taking care of their own kids. Maybe they will. Who knows. Here's to hoping.
• United States
7 Feb 10
I know families with 5 and 6 kids, and while they struggle sometimes they never complain to anyone. They're both very loving families, and despite their size they're close. I don't think 6 kids are too many if you are able to care for them and you love them. If someone can't afford to take care of them, and is going to complain and struggle taking care of them, then they shouldn't have so many in the first place.
• United States
7 Feb 10
I agree with you completely. The sad part is that the couple can afford their kids. He's a very good doctor who makes a lot of money. It just seems like they don't want to/know how to care for their kids without others to help them.
@lpreeves (118)
• Australia
7 Feb 10
I think you should plan how many kids you have by the amount of money you have. For example, Brad and Angelina have like a zillion children. But its ok because they have the moeny to look after them properly and have help but they dont neglect them. I dont think people without much money should have lots of kids because they won't have the best childhood if they cant get everything they need. Im an only child and wish I did have brothers or sisters to grow up with but then i also enjoyed having my own bedroom i did have to share (plus im a bit spoiled!) :D
• United States
7 Feb 10
Thank you for your response. I can see your point because children do take a lot of money to raise. By the way, I grew up as an only child too and I have to admit I'm a bit spoiled ;)
@kaylachan (4776)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
7 Feb 10
People shouldn't reperduce if all they are going to do is complain. Now I understand the need to vent, but at some point there is such a thing as taking it to far. To me that's what's happened here. Of course I could be wrong and I sure hope I am, but regardless of this fact people should learn to put their pritorities in check. If you are going to have that many children, and don't want to raise them yourself, that's just plain lazy.
• United States
7 Feb 10
Unfortunately you are not wrong. They were complaining about the work it takes to care for the three children. Who knows how "horrible" it would have been for them if they took all five.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
I think those couple needs more child training. I can't imagine a parent complaining how tiring it is to take care of their own child. Who asks them to had 5 children anyway,and the guts to complain. I had 3 kids and i am proud to say that..i raised them by myself,without any help from my mom or any nanny. Now my kids were grown ups...and i never been tired of taking care for them.
@vandana7 (69084)
• India
7 Feb 10
Exactly, if they are tired, why would any one else do it for them? Should anything bad happen, people would not be too kind to all the kids! Why cant people be realistic in these times? In the good old days, there were no medicines so mortality rates were high. Probability of some children surviving prompted people to have more. But now, we have so many ways and means to keep children alive. :) Why cant people have fewer children? :( They would then be more open to adopt the children out there in orphanages.
7 Feb 10
lol this is nothing my aunt is 34 years old she has 8 kids and is pregnant but she takes care of them alone and she still has time for her self i dont know how she doesnt i cant even take care of my 3 year old neice
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
7 Feb 10
From a single mom who raised 4 kids on my own with not anywhere close to the help that this couple is getting then I have to say that I don't have an ounce of sympathy for them but I do feel sorry for the kids. If these parents need and have this much help and support and are still whining and complaining then it is just sad that they continued on to have this many kids. They should have got a clue much earlier on that parenting wasn't what they wanted to do. It's just not fair to the kids who did not ask to be born.
• India
7 Feb 10
five kids?? i think its too many and really hard to bring them up... but still life will be beautiful with babies... i think a maximum of two would be better for everyone... don't mistake its my personal view... cuz in this century its not an easy job bringing up 5 or more children as women are also working its not fair to tell someone else to look after your child...
• China
7 Feb 10
Five kids?OMG,too many!It is really hard to bring up children,but the life is full of happiness because of the babies. I love little babies,but I just want two at most.
@coffeebreak (17820)
• United States
7 Feb 10
I love kids, but could only have 2. However, I believe that a couple should only have as many as they can afford to support properly and personally handle. All these families with a dozen and more kids... the kids end up taking care of themselves and other, the older ones care for the little ones..more than either parent does and that shouldn't be. They are kids to, they shouldn't be raising a kid at their age. Plus, they get a tax deducation for each kid and with so many, they deduct more than I earn! I don't think parents should rely on relatives, nannys or other care takers for their kids unless it is day care while they work. If they can't handle the ones they have, they shouldn't have more. Hire household help, maid, lawn service etc, but take care of your own kids.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
7 Feb 10
I think this parents should not had no many kids close together and thye have three people living with them to help with 5 kids! Yikes! I think these parents should of though this through before having kids! It sounds like they didn't relize how hard it was going to be and if they did after one or two thye should of stopped there! Instead they have 5 children and don't want the responsiblity og raising these kids anymore! If not that they need to take vacation without any of the kids! Another story of parents getting over their head wish they could get out of it!