Do you get angry quickly?

@Pose123 (21667)
Canada
February 7, 2010 12:22pm CST
Anger is a problem that affects many people, and it is especially so when one gets angry quickly. In a reading for such person Edgar Cayce once gave the following advice; "Do not rail at anyone. Do not hold grudges. Do not hold ANY of those tendencies that have for so long made for disturbing conditions in your experience". It seems clear that the person to whom he was talking was much like many of us. Dispute the fact that we get the same result every time, we continue to do and say the same things over and over again. It appears almost impossible for some people to catch on and try another approach. Who has noticed this in themselves or others?
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
10 Feb 10
It takes a lot for me to get angry I will take a lot for a long time and then I have to admit that I can get angry But once I have had my Say that is it over and done with my Son is like me, My Daughter is the opposite she can get angry just like that lol and blows there and then, but you always know where you stand with her
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
11 Feb 10
Hi gabs, Thanks for sharing. Blessings.
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@phoenix8606 (4978)
7 Feb 10
Hi! no, I do get angry very quickly, because I always try to give a meaning to the things that happened, because if i really get angry quickly and I think it will be very disappointing for me, because I always have been a calm person, who tries first to calm down the situation and then if it is impossible to make something else, but not to get angry!
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
9 Feb 10
Hi phoenix, It seems that you have learned the wisdom of being calm and not letting your temper take charge. Others around you will learn from your actions. My own father was also such a man and was held in great respect by all who knew him.Thank you for sharing. Blessings.
9 Feb 10
you're welcome Pose! We are here to share with the others, aren't we? :) Yes, stying calm in some situations is better than getting angry, because anger can brings you only headache :)
• United States
7 Feb 10
It takes time for me to get angry, but I witness some of my friends have a short fuse. Me personally, it will take a series of events that get on my nerves for my fuse to blow. However, there are some things that I'm short-tempered about, but overall, my anger state is average. I don't like holding grudges because it brings me down as a person. Happy mylotting!
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@noorasie (686)
• Pakistan
8 Feb 10
No I am a cool person and always keep myself cool. To become angry at once is not a good thing. Although I believe that there are certain things those make you annoyed. Or sometime, when you are in a fix, even routine things make you angry. This is the point when the temperament of a common person is judged. Becoming angry at once also refers to the state of mind and body of the person. I mean ... a person with cool mind and calm body... never become angry all of a sudden. It also refers to blood pressure level of the person. Homeopathy offers very good medicine in a condition when a person is irritated by small things.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
9 Feb 10
Hi Tbarker, Thank you for your response. I agree that we should never hold grudges and we must also find ways to curb our anger. Blessings.
• Canada
28 Feb 10
I feel angry when anger is necessary, but I do not react to it. I simply deal with the situation, and then do whatever I need to do to get justice.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
28 Feb 10
Hi danishcanadian, Thanks for your comment. Blessings.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
12 Feb 10
Anger can totally destroy you ,and it usually harms you more than the person that you are angry with. This is why is essential to refill yourself with joy instead of anger.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
12 Feb 10
You are so right! Thank you mirita. Blessings.
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• Hong Kong
8 Feb 10
i am angry always so quickly, any conditions of day nor night even when i wake up warningly, they all sad at me now. i feel bad and lonely..
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Feb 10
Hi john, Thank you for your comment. If you want to change try positive thinking, it has helped many people. Listen to what you are saying as you talk to yourself and try to make changes. Blessings.
@eunice22 (27)
• Philippines
8 Feb 10
yes...i am.. but i hate my attitude..
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
9 Feb 10
Hi eunice, Thanks for your comment and I hope that you will find your way to conquer your anger. Different approaches work for different people. I suggest you read some of the other responses here as many are quite good. Blessings.
• India
8 Feb 10
hi pose.. actually its a good topic to discuss.. i am a short tempered and i get angry very very quickly.. i ve been frustrating sometimes and i do regret and feel sorry for the persons to whom am showing out.. thanks for this.. hope i ll reduce my anger soon...
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
9 Feb 10
Hi thunderbala, Thank you for commenting. I suggest that you check the other responses here as some are quite good and you may be able to find something that would help you. Blessings.
@qamarep (4449)
• Pakistan
8 Feb 10
yes i be angry quickly specially if something is done against my wishes.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
9 Feb 10
Hi qamarep, Thank you for commenting and have you made any efford to control your temper? Blessings.
@saanjh (784)
• India
8 Feb 10
No, I'm not a short temper girl so I don't get angry quickly. But If some body irritates me again and again then I feel really angry.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Feb 10
Hi saanjh, Thank you for commenting. Blessings.
@siliguri (4224)
• India
8 Feb 10
Ya, i'm get anger very quickly. Basically i get anger when someone use abuse word while speaking to me. Very often i get into the fight u can say it is my one of my weakness i can't control my anger.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Feb 10
Hi siliguri, Thank you for responding. I think it's important to find a way to control our anger because of the deadly effects it can have on the body. We are all different so we must each find our own way. Blessings.
• Hungary
8 Feb 10
That certainly is very true. I mean human nature will remain human nature. Anger is unfortunately part and parcel of our everyday lives. The fact that we live in societies and that the latter are constantly changing does not always help matters. I was someone who used to get angry very easily. The simplest of things could easily tick me off. I would either snap at someone or just start shouting. I was told that you have to think positive, you have to keep calm, forgive and forget . I tried a host of tools to tryto mnimize my angry outburts. Unfortunately they did not really help. I started reading some motivational books just to try and see if I could glean anything at all from them and I was quite lucky to stumble on a book by former US navy Seal Richard Machowicz.I used some of the techniques that he mentions in the book and over a certain period of time I could see a noticeable difference in my behaviour. I used something called self talk to get myself out of this mess. Basically what it is is that we are all having conversations with ourselves. Hence that is why some people will have positive self talk and some will have negative self talk. What you have to do is focus on the positive self talk . If you have had a bad day for example, the idea is not to blame X, y or z. But rather try to walk back to where it went wrong and how did it happen. Once you identify the cause then you need to start taking matters in your own hands., try to say things like ok, now I will take charge , I will do this way, or I will do it differently, etc etc. The more you do such things, the more you will be successful. You will not have time to get upset. Hope this helps.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Feb 10
Hi khoshlen, This is an excellent response, thank you for sharing your experience. I feel certain that you are right about the self talk, and keeping it positive. Blessings.
@gracce (335)
• India
8 Feb 10
Fortunetly i can control my anger, but one of my friend can't control her anger, i think to be angry is the other thing but one should not show it to the other person around him/her,as they forget the things but the one who is hurted by them might not be able to forget his/her anger.I will prefer to stay away from that type of angry people.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Feb 10
Hi Grace, Thank you for your comment. You are indeed fortunate to be able to control your temper, there are many who can't. It can be a big problem for some people who, like your friend don't have the same control. Positive thinking has helped many, but others have had to seek professional help. Blessings.
• India
8 Feb 10
I don’t hold grudges against people…I forgive, forget and move on. I may not interact with that particular person in the future (types who are best avoided) but I certainly don’t let the anger simmer within me continuously…BUT…I cant control my anger of the moment. It just has to get out…no amount of clenching my fists, no amount of biting my lips, no amount of counting ten…nothing works! So in a sense, I have not been able to control anger. I get angry very quickly (tho working on the time span) and once there, the steam has to be let off, if only by a scream.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Feb 10
Hi sudiptacallingu, Thank you for commenting. There are many who have promlems controlling anger, but at least you move on which is good. Blessings.
• India
8 Feb 10
Hi I'm 20yrs girl from India and very short temper girl. My mom used to tell me that control yourself but i never control my anger. Whenever i become angry i used to throw things and i never listed to any body. And i do a have this disadvantage getting temper.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
9 Feb 10
Hi nirishasol, Thank you for commenting and you must find your own way to control your temper. As you get older it may become easier for you. Blessings.
@binagupta (628)
• India
8 Feb 10
when some body is lying and i come to know about that then i get angry very often, i never like to lie the people and i also expect the same but i always try to control my anger and never let that person know about it
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
9 Feb 10
Hi binagupta, Thank you for responding. Blessings.
• China
8 Feb 10
I am easy to get angry in every situation.If something let me uncool I will angry quickiy.I know It is a bad thing but for me,It is difficult to change it.I don't know what to do with it.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
9 Feb 10
Hi fairytale, Thank you for your comment, perhaps you should try positive self talk or meditation, that sometimes works. There are many people like you but the same thing doesn't always work for everyone. You will find a way. Blessings.
@tuyakiki (3026)
• India
7 Feb 10
Holding grudges against somebody is really bad. It may cause many risks and trouble.I even find few people,just get mad without any proper reasons.These can be a symptom of any serious disease. I also get mad sometimes,but it certainly depends on the situation that I am facing. I also become calm quickly. However,I don't hold any grudges against any person. Well,Be happy and don't get angry.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Feb 10
Hi tuyakiki, Thank you for commenting and I agree. I too tend become calm very quickly, however, I haven't been angry lately and that feels even better. Blessings.
@verabear (797)
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
I know I;m the first one to say that we shouldn't generalize women to be moody when they have their period, but I know I'm like that. I get angry quickly when I have my period or the days leading to it. Sometimes I just can't help it. When I notice it though, I try to hold my tongue so I won't say anything I would regret.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Feb 10
Hi verabear, Fair enough, thanks for responding. Blessing.
@lelin1123 (15644)
• Puerto Rico
7 Feb 10
I don't tend to get angry very easy. I'm a nervous type person but it takes alot for anger to show up for me. I like to be in a peaceful atmosphere and I definitely don't like confrontation of any kind. I believe when people blow up all the time they need some type of medicine or mental help.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
8 Feb 10
Hi lelin, I think you're right that people who blow up all the time need help. Thanks for your comment. Blessings