I am getting married

@SM5550 (118)
India
February 9, 2010 7:51am CST
I am getting married this month end and would like to know do i really need to leave my old boy friend after marrying the guy my parents want me to... I really love this friend of mine .. please advice as it will be appreciated
4 responses
@Galena (9123)
9 Feb 10
you're marrying the wrong person. you should marry who you love. if your parents think this other person is so great, maybe one of them should marry him. they have no right to force you to marry someone you don't love. what kind of a world is it where someone would consider just going along with marrying someone who is not the person they are in love with, just because someone else says so?
@SM5550 (118)
• India
10 Feb 10
Thanks for the encouraging words but I hope this words could reach my parents before I am married... I tried explaining them a cpl of times but to my bad luck they are no way in favour of me...
@Galena (9123)
10 Feb 10
is it actually legal for someone to be forced to marry where you come from? in the UK before you can be married you are individually interviewed with no one else in the room to confirm that you are legally able to marry and that you are doing it of your own free will. surely no one can force the words out of your mouth or force you to sign the paperwork. don't be forced into a loveless marriage. you would regret it forever. this is YOUR life, and if you don't stand up for it, then nothing will ever change. you are the one that will live the rest of your days with the choice you make. so don't let someone else make such an important choice for you. they are not you.
• Kuwait
9 Feb 10
hi there... first of all congratulations in advance for your marriage.. i feel you should not have any loving relation with your boyfriend after you are married to someone else... it happened with me .. but now i am a very happy person... if you continue to have any kind of relationship with your boyfriend after marriage... just keep in mind you are spoiling not one life but three lives... yours, your boyfriends and the one who don't deserve your husband... if you really love your friend its better you talk to your family and get married to him.. convience them saying you might end up destroying three lives if you get married to someone else other then your friend whom you love so much... life is not a game... you will need to spend the whole life with your husband ... think before you take any step...thats my advice to you
@SM5550 (118)
• India
9 Feb 10
Thanks Rahil... I really appriciate that but i have already tried talking to my parents but you know they are typical character... They are just not willing to understand
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
marriage isn't just about your wedding day,it goes beyond that.it is very important that you love the person you're going to marry so you won't spend the rest of your life in misery.i have read a phrase in an article,it said that a wise woman will marry for love,but a foolish woman will marry for a big house.try to ask yourself to which do you belong.if you believe in the sanctity of marriage then you will marry for the right reason.because marriage won't always be a bed of rose petals and happiness,there will be a lot of trials and struggles along the way and if you don't love the person you're going to be with,it will be so easy for you to give up.know what you want.if you're still doubting with your decision right now,be safe and say no,to save yourself from a life long misery.marry the person you love the most and you don't have to worry about yourself.
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
So you're going to marry somebody you dont love? I think that would be hard. If you are having some troubles already during this time even though you are not married yet so how do you think its gonna get in the future? I hope everything will be okay. I really dont know what to advice in situations like this because for me, marriage is a serious thing. Once you're there, there's no turning back. Good luck!