When you’re on a date, do you think the man should pay or not?

Philippines
February 9, 2010 9:45am CST
Hi mylotters, For me I don't think that man should always be the one to pay. Woman should also contribute sometimes with their date. Those man also need to save something for themselves so girls let us share sometimes with the expenses. SO when you're on a date, do you think the man should pay or not?
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• Boston, Massachusetts
11 Feb 10
Hi Health, We are still lovers or just being boy and girlfriend...he used to pay for our date. he loves treating me. now that we are already a couple, i pay the bill for ouor date since he remitted his salary to me. that's how confident he is that i can really handle the money, budget and spend it wisely. of course i give him his allowance every day and if he needs some more to buy something for himself and for us too.
• Boston, Massachusetts
11 Feb 10
[b][/b][u][/u]i mean...when we are still lovers... sorry for the typo error
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
10 Feb 10
yes i think its the man that should pay when they are going out on a date.its a sing that he can be a good provider for his family if he can pay for everything during a date and its a plus factor if you are also giving away some gifts for your date before you end the date.for me its not right to make the woman pay or even share on the bills on their date unless of course if they are already in a relationship where they can arrange things but on a first time dates and suitors it not right to make the woman pay except on an emergency cases.
@wishuluck (233)
• Lithuania
10 Feb 10
it depends on situation i'd say. but most of the times i think a man should pay, especially if he's the one who invited a women to the date.
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
It's understood to be the man as most of the time the man don't want the girl to pay out of their pride. However when you're on a relationsip already, it's alright if the girl would contribute. Though during my time dating with my boyfriend who became my husband never he allows me to pay any expense we incurred.
@toniaG (37)
• United States
10 Feb 10
Since he is the one taking me out and not me taking him out, I think he should be the one paying the bills
• Bulgaria
10 Feb 10
It depends. If I like the man, I can allow him to pay. Otherwise, I prefer to pay my bill. But I always show that I can pay. If the man says he'll pay the whole bill, then I can let him do it or not.
@gina86 (16)
• Mexico
10 Feb 10
I think if u ask a girl out, on a first date you should definitely pay. If you are in a relationship then both can contribute.. I just think its some sort of formality LOL, I mean if someone ask me out for the first time and then take me to a fancy restaurant or something and at the end expected me to pay the half it would be kind of awkward.. or at least you should be clear from the beginning... that's what I think
• Canada
10 Feb 10
I am somewhat old fashioned, and believe in the begining of a relationship, the man does pay, and cater the women around, but i believe at some point in your relationship, things become more equal, and that it should be both partners paying for the other. When it is a one sided relationship, then the man may feel obligated, or feel that his kindness is being taken advantage of.
• United States
10 Feb 10
i feel that if a man asked the woman out on a date, then the man should pay for the date. however if the woman is the one that asked the man out on the date, then the woman should pay for the date.
• United States
10 Feb 10
no i dont think a man should always pay. actually on my first date we split the bill 50/50 i told him that i dont want him to pay for everything because i mean we both ate the food so we should both pay for it.
• United States
10 Feb 10
I heard that the one who asked the date is the one who pays. I say you and your date should discuss who pays before going on a date.
@yamskee (830)
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
when it comes to dating, i have this principle that one should pay his/her own bills. i am just a student, i only get my budget for dating from my allowance, so is my other half. treating others using money from your parents isnt something to be proud of. and i dont want to hear something like "she never paid for anything during our date" or "she's just going out with me because im the one who's paying" and other things like that
• Philippines
10 Feb 10
On the first date, i think it is good if the man will be the one who will pay. Even on the second date, but when they got to know each other, they are now in good terms and good friends, it is okay to a woman to pay for their date. I would like to pay for a date but on the third time, but if he insist then that is okay. My idea is the man should always pay for the date, but due to economic crisis it is more advisable for them to share a pay for their date.
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
9 Feb 10
I think it should be a two way thing. Either you split the bill or you take turns paying. One time it will be him and then the female the next time. Or depending on who has more money and if they are generous then that person pays. The other thing we do to is whoever pays the other one would leave the tip. It should never be the guy or the female all the time. You are in this relationship together and it should be split down the middle has much as possible.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
hello healthbeauty, Well,i think it depends on situation. If the guy is still courting me,and he is the one who asks me for a date...i guess,it his obligation to pay for the bills. But,if he is my partner (had relationship with)then i guess,it is fair enough to give share each time we had a date.
• Indonesia
9 Feb 10
For me, who really love to eat in free, the man should always pay for the date. Hehehe.. Well, I think that is one way for man to show his gentle side, sorry if you don't agree with me. But for me, if I date or go with man, the man should pay for everything, from foods to transport. I don't want to spend my money just for a date.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
9 Feb 10
No, those days are loNg since Past. A women can share the bilL. tata.
• United States
9 Feb 10
I don't expect the man to pay. I like to go out just to enjoy peoples company. Even if it is a date, I don't expect it. I am my own person, I make my own money and I work my own job. I'm not one of those femininist because it's nice every now and again but I'm ok with putting money in to. I don't want the guy thinking that I expect him to pay for me because that gives him the impression that is how it is always going to be. And i'm not that kind of person.
• Atlantic City, New Jersey
9 Feb 10
To me it depends on who asks who and I also try to make it clear who is expected to pay, for instance: Lets say a guy askes me out for a "first date"- Because HE asked...I believe it is his responsibility to pay. If a guy and I decide we are hungry mutually (say we are on the phone) and he says- you wanna go grab something to eat...I would offer to pay half once we got there...because that to me isn't considered "a date" - its considered just what it is...getting something to eat. If I am in a serious, commited relationship I believe we should split the cost to whatever is our advantage; such as maybe I pay this time- he pays next time- OR If I pay the bill, he leaves the tip- vice versa. So in conclusion I guess for me it really is dependant on the situation at hand if I expect the man to pay or not :)