reason of not having a child?

Kuwait
February 10, 2010 8:52am CST
there are many couples in the world who lack the ability to have children... i really don't like it... in some cases there is problem with the female and in some there is male... i know some couples not having any problems... still they are not having childrens... what could be the reason to it.... can anyone knowing share me the reason to it please.... the medical reports are fine and positive... i know its in gods hand... still just needed to know what could be the problem.
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• Bulgaria
16 Feb 10
It's possible that the problem is psychological. I've read some time before that sometimes it happens for some reason the woman to not accept the idea to have children or to be pregnant to a subliminal level. In that cases there can be many spontaneous abortion. So it's possible there to be insemination but at a very early point the body throw it out at the time when normally the menstruation should comes and the woman doesn't even understands that something was happen. And another reason is the couple just to don't want to have kids and to shut up the mouth of the curious and impatient relatives just saying the baby doesn't come. But I guess that's not the case so that they've made medicine tests.
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@junrapmian (2170)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
Maybe, it's not yet their time to have children. Everything happens for a reason. If medical reports are okay, there's nothing to worry about, just wait, in God's time, children will come. Just keep hoping.
@maximax8 (27943)
• United Kingdom
10 Feb 10
I know ladies that have tried to get to pregnant but it didn't happen. Then they got pregnant when they gave up trying. One lady tried for eight years then gave up. She had identical twin boys. Another lady tried to get pregnant but couldn't. She and her husband went on vacation and amazingly she came home pregnant. So for these ladies stress prevented them for getting pregnant. Once they relaxed they both got pregnant. Some ladies might have a medical problem but are successful when they have a test tube baby. My cousin tried to do that but she had heart problems. She had to give up trying to have a baby. My mom's friend tried to get pregnant and she couldn't. She and her husband had fertility tests. If turned out he was unable to have children. So they adopted a baby girl and then a baby boy. A few ladies concentrate on their career and decide they don't want children. I have three children.
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@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
18 Feb 10
There are many couples out there who don't wish to have children because they either know they won't be fit as a parent. They could be selfish people who just want to live child free because they know they will not be able to give up their lifestyle to accommodate a child. Some just don't like children at all and don't desire them. I believe to each its own. If they don't want a child so be it.
@jhoanee (598)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
i knew personally some of the couple who are trying very much to have a baby. theyve been married for more than 10 years and until now they are still trying to have even just one, im praying with them that god will give what they had long been waited for. i know they will be a good parents. i think with them their problem is thru his husband's sperm count, its below the normal count of sperm. they are taking medicines to correct this problem, i just hope everything will have its reward sooner. and also the wife had a problem with this ovary the doctor says it was due to his highschool days where she was an active player of softball and then when she got a job in a manufacturing company most of her working time spent sitting which causes her ovary not working properly. i also knew a couple who just easily can make a baby i think the wife got pregnant almost every year. now they are having there 8th baby, which is a big problem with them coz how can they give all of them a proper education even food while the husband dont have a permanent job.tsk tsk...sometimes we think life its unfair but i guess everything has its reason and that reason only GOD knows and its for us to find that reason or ignore it. each couple had different reasons for not having children and for me the best thing to do is consult the right person for that problem coz they are the one who knows whats the best thing to do and most of all the best way to do is dont lose hope and always pray to GOD.
• United States
14 Feb 10
I know several couples that do not have kids. The common issues outside of fertility are MONEY, comfortable with current life style, and day care costs. There are just so many financial and time constraints with having a family as well.
• Indonesia
10 Feb 10
maybe, the woman wants to cacth her career so she "delay" to be a pregnant woman, and also some families don't have the time cause of their activities to take care of the children.....
@hvedra (1623)
10 Feb 10
I think sometimes stress has a lot to do with it. When someone is stressed it isn't a good time to have a baby so the body refuses to do it. I can think of someone I know who had to deal with a very toxic and stressful social environment and had been trying to get pregnant. Once she left that environment she was pregnant within a year and has just had her baby. Perhaps the worry over not having a baby makes the stress worse. As the other poster says, a lot of women get pregnant when they stop trying and stop worrying about it.