do you ask for the contact number of your friend's partner?

Philippines
February 10, 2010 8:57pm CST
One of my best friends and I were supposed to go out for a swim with her boyfriend today. But since she hasn't been replying to me, I suddenly wished I have her boyfriend's number so I'd know if there's a change of plans. urgh. But oh well, I just thought it was awkward to ask for the contact numbers of my friends' partners for some reason. How about you guys?
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
Hi hannanable!^^ I don't normally ask for my friend's boyfriend's number. Just like you said, it would be awkward. I just ask for it if necessary like in emergency situations when I can't contact my friend. I just ask around if anyone of our other friends have the boyfriend's number. Sometimes I don't have to ask because my friend would contact me using her boyfriend's number, and then I just save it for future use. At times, I don't really want to ask for it. I have this friend whose boyfriend doesn't mingle with us and make friends with us. Thankfully, no emergency situations have arisen that I might ask for his number. So in the whole period of their relationship, I didn't have her bf's number. If ever there was an emergency situation, I think I would have been stubborn and won't ask for his number. It would have been super awkward since he's not very friendly. .
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
I totally agree with you! It's weird isn't it? As much as we care about our dear friends we really can't bring ourselves to give a damn about their partners unless it's a common friend even before they got together. LOL. Anyway thanks for your reply, I appreciate your time. :) Happy mylotting! :
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
Yeah, you're right! Unless the boyfriend befriends us, we wouldn't really care. I personally think a boyfriend should make friends with his girlfriend's friends and get along together. After all, the boyfriend and friend are both parts of the girlfriend's life. Right?^^
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
hello.. hanna.. I have the number of my best friend's boyfriend with me.. but I will only text him if i ask about my best friend and he will only text me when he will ask if me and my best friend are hanging out together.. there was a time when my bestfriend's mom call me because she was asking if my bestfriend is with me and that time I am in my house so I decided to call her but her cellphone can't be reached no wonder her mom can't call her so I decided to text her boyfriend and I was relieve that both of them were together hanging out so I call back her mom and informed her.. and her mom was also relieve.. happy mylotting :)
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
that's the most valid reason to have their partner's number, that's why I've been thinking if I should get it past the awkward stage. yeah well, maybe i should just get the number from my best friend myself. :)) thanks for replying and happy mylotting too!!
• United States
11 Feb 10
If she is really one of your best friends why would she not reply to you? It's hardly necessary for you to get your friends boyfriends number. Myself, I think it would be inappropriate for you to have his number. Maybe you are interested in your girlfriends boyfriend. Friendships are hard to come by and should be charished. And trust needs to be earned in friendships. Are you being trustworthy? Are you really her friend? sorry
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
LOL. I think you over analyzed the matter. Her, not replying, was no biggie. It happens all the time. We do it to each other when we're too lazy to reply, and both parties understand. She's not only my best friend, she's pretty like my sister, we've known each other since we were four, and I don't think there's anything that we could do to each other that would make us love each other any less. I mean we could hate each other, but it's impossible to get out of each others' lives. Not that we'd dare to even make the effort. :) And no, by principle I live by an unwritten rule that a friend shall never risk losing the friendship to choose love. THEREFORE, it's not an option for me, to like guys my friends likes or have liked. Not to mention the fact that I'm the kind who takes relationships quite too seriously, that I've never even dared getting into one before. LOL. So no, I'm not interested with my best friend's boyfriend because he falls short on MY standards. I really just find it awkward asking for his contact number because, aside from being my best friend's guy he's actually none of my business 98% of the time, the 2% are those times when I'm impatient with my best friend's apathy on replying and I need someone else to bombard with messages. LOL. I do cherish my friends, I hold their best interests at heart, and to give credit to our sixteen years of friendship, I do believe that we wouldn't last that long if I wasn't trustworthy at all. Anyway thanks for your reply, I appreciate your concern. Happy mylotting. :)
• United States
11 Feb 10
yes i would ask. actually i have all the contacts of my friends bf/gf. becasue i hate it when they dont pick up my call. so i always call their bf/gf to know where my friends are. for me i dont think its akward.
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
good for you! ; thanks for your answer, i appreciate your time. happy mylotting! :)