How do you handle this situation?

Bangalore, India
February 11, 2010 3:18am CST
Hi friends.. this is just my imagination question.. Assume that you need to attend a best friend's marraige.. but suddenly some guests comes to your house when you are about to leave for the function and no one else at your home other than you.. you have to attend the function but your guests are not ready to come with you for the wedding you are going because they are not invited and you cant leave them at your home unattended because its not fair.. so now how would you tackle this situation.. Please share with me..
3 people like this
24 responses
@Sreekala (23693)
• India
11 Feb 10
Hi Chaitra, First of all tell me, why you want to trouble us with an imaginary question? (lol). I think, it all in the hands of guests they should be generous enough and may allow me to leave because I am ready to leave. I will provide the necessary things for them in a hurry and may ask them to stay at home and I will be back soon. If they can’t stay then I may ask them to visit again with a prior notice so that I won’t be in such dilemma again. Actually it is a difficult situation, like in between devil and deep sea.
• Bangalore, India
11 Feb 10
Hi Sree.. Since no much work for me today I was idle from morning and was thinking about starting a discussion and I suddenly got this imaginary question and I thought let me have fun with my dear friends on mylot.. SO this is the reason I am troubling you with this question lol.. you gave an good idea.. and also I agree with you that any one who is going to visit others must give a prior notification to the person to avoid this kind of dilemmas..
1 person likes this
@Sreekala (23693)
• India
11 Feb 10
ha ha I too enjoyed your discussion that is why I took sometime from work and responded to you (in between work I am getting some free time). Ok dear let me continue to my work, see you on Monday then. Enjoy the weekend.
1 person likes this
• Bangalore, India
11 Feb 10
thank you dear.. you too enjoy your holidays.. have a nice time..
1 person likes this
@sunnycool (12736)
• India
11 Feb 10
Well here is my imaginative answer chaitra-----infact i would implement the same though-----i would make sure that they feel free at home and arrange them with yummy eatables and allot a couple of new movies and then move on to my best friends marriage----coz my relatives would wait for my parents for sure right but my friends marriage cannot be postponed for an hour or so or a day.so my preference goes to---hope you got me and it shouldnt be so tough to sort it out for an imaginative girl like you.great day.
• Bangalore, India
12 Feb 10
Hi sunnycool.. thanks for sharing your ideas.. its not tough for me.. its just a fun with friends here.. I bet you even you can enjoy reading few of the responses here..
@sunnycool (12736)
• India
12 Feb 10
owwwwww the word tough for was meant for your understanding of my view---i always enjoy mylotting
@valkerion (1831)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 10
If it is only for the ceremony, I would just tell my guest to hang in there, give him/her a couple of movies and some money to order some delivery food! I am sure he/she will understand the fact that I have to attend the wedding
• Bangalore, India
11 Feb 10
Hi Thanks for sharing.. Good Idea.. but still dont you feel bit guilt for leaving them alone?
1 person likes this
@valkerion (1831)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 10
No, I mean come on, by the time they cam unexpected they should understand that you had business to do because you didn't know that they will come. If you knew they will come, just tell em to postpone it for a day and come after the wedding
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
this calls for mind boggling decision. lol. for me, i will be honest and frank. i will tell them that i need to leave them and i have to attend to my best friend's wedding. i know they will understand. and of course, i will bring something for them when i get back to them.
• Bangalore, India
12 Feb 10
Hi friend.. Thanks for sharing your idea honestly.. happy myloting..
@dinunath (10)
• India
11 Feb 10
thats simple u just had to do only one thing just gave them a cup of tea .yes only think u have to do is just add two thinks thats upon to ur choice number 1-add some vim by doing that they will run from there as fast as u imagine or number 2- add some slepping pills so u will get time until they wake up ok. tell me hw did u like my opinion
• Bangalore, India
12 Feb 10
Hi dinunath.. welcome to mylot.. your ideas are tooo funny.. I could not control my laugh..
@vathsala30 (3723)
• India
11 Feb 10
Hi chaitra I will convince my guests that I will be back so soon as possible and first attend to them, spend some time with them and leave for the function and just attend to it and immediately return back home, explaining the host about my situation so that they will be pleased for attending their function and at the same time do not mis understand for not stayingthere for a long time
• Bangalore, India
11 Feb 10
Hi Vathsala.. Well said.. I appreciate your Idea.. Thanks for sharing..
@ava152007 (645)
• India
11 Feb 10
Hi Very good imagination!!!! If I am in this situation mostly I will call my freind for being bit late, second thing is try to convince the guest to attend the marriage for few hour, so that I can attend marriege as well as guest.
• Bangalore, India
11 Feb 10
Hi friend.. If the guest dint agree to come to marraige cause they are not invited then?
@neildc (17253)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
11 Feb 10
if i am not included in the entourage, i could just go to the wedding in a later time, say an hour or two late, will be fine. this is to accommodate the unexpected visitor. and when you already spent an hour with them, you can let them go, but no way, they stay alone in the house without any of your housemates to look at them. but if you are one in the entourage, you can tell them the situation. i know they can understand it, and they can just go back later or tomorrow. if the visitor is a relative, i guess you can bring them to the wedding.
• Bangalore, India
11 Feb 10
Hi neildc.. Thanks for sharing your idea..
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
11 Feb 10
I would, attend the marriage and make the visitors understand my priority and urgency. I am sure they would understand. And of course before leaving for the wedding, I would arrange for food and comfort for the visitors. And if they are staying for a few days I can always make it up and f not, I would probably invite them some time later once i am through with the marriage.
• Bangalore, India
11 Feb 10
Hi mimpi thanks for sharing your idea dear.. dint seen you long time here.. where did you disappear?
@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
how about calling a best friend or a relative that lives nearby? if i were your unexpected guests i would really feel bad if i learn that you forgo a wedding that you really need to attend. besides i came unannounced so might as well bear the little consequence that comes with it.
• Bangalore, India
11 Feb 10
Hi Ritchelle.. it sounds nice that calling a best friend or relative to attend guest so that you can also attend you friend's marraige.. Thanks for sharing..
1 person likes this
@srganesh (6349)
• India
11 Feb 10
chaitra!It is quite easy.Ask the relatives to just relax and you can be back soon after attending the friend's marriage.It is their fault to appear all out of a blue without prior information.things would be worse,if you have to go out of station by that time.I hope everybody should hold the responsibility of informing their arrivals as guests.
• Bangalore, India
11 Feb 10
Hi srganesh.. I agree with you that one should inform others about there arrival before..Thanks for sharing..
1 person likes this
@shibham (17025)
• India
11 Feb 10
Hi chaitra, if there is a marriage and i have some guests in my home, then i hav 3 options. Firstly i shall call my friend for being late. Secondly i shall call anyone family member to come home as soon as possible and thirdly i shall arrive in ceremony after my guests deparature. Lol
• Bangalore, India
11 Feb 10
Hi shibham.. nice ideas friend.. thanks for sharing..
1 person likes this
@magic9 (981)
• China
11 Feb 10
So the wedding can not be called off and the guest has to be attened to. Well, I don't feel it a good way to leave the guest alone at home. Since he or she is not on the inviting list, I would take him or her to some nearby places and recommend some good place to walk around, and then after the wedding I would come back to fetch him or her. What do you think? Can you think of any other ways?
• Bangalore, India
11 Feb 10
Hi magic9 its a good thought but you know in India marraige takes a lot of time to perform customs.. Some people will have marraige customs for even 2-3 days so then how can it be possible?
1 person likes this
@sknsknskn (393)
• India
23 Feb 10
talk to your other friend and tell her what really happened
14 Feb 10
Hello Chaitra001...May i join in solving the dilemma that you posed here between attending the wedding or attending to my unexpected guests...That situation might be difficult right but I'm going to make it easier by calling my friend which you have mentioned "MY BEST FRIEND" n and tell her the situation ...Heheh I'll sound naughty here but i think i mean i'm sure my bestfriend won't let me be absent on her special day .So I'm pretty sure that she will tell me to tag along my guests to her big celebration...(giggles) Oh, if ever she's to busy to answer my call , then I'll call her mom or anyone closest to her to relay my message and I'm sure I'll get the same response from here...What do you think of my idea?
@eshaan (6193)
• India
13 Feb 10
both things are unavoidable, you better try to make the guests understand that ..she is your best friend...and you need to be present there....so it will be good, that they join you to the function, if they are understanding people and good enough then they will surely help you...and if they are not thinking it proper to go..then they will tell you that they will be back at some other time...or if they are trusted ones, then you can leave them at home, till you return from the party...the guests will never become unwanted if they are clever, they can entertain themselves somewhere else, instead of being burden to you.
@slbwyc (67)
• Singapore
12 Feb 10
i think since i promise my friend to attend his marrige, i will do definitely. i will apologize to the guest and explain to him the situation. if he decide to leave, i will say sorry and welcome him when the next time he comes. if he want to stay and wait for me, i will offer him some way for entertainment like K box or computer games. if he want ti stay back and do not like the feeling of being alone, i will call some of my friend come and stay with him
• Slovak Republic
11 Feb 10
well a good idea will be to tell the guests to come with you a nearby place to the venue of the wedding. then when the wedding is over u can meet the guests there. explain to them that you have to go to the wedding and that its will only take a little time.try to make them understand your situation and make them feel wanted.
@iceydon (342)
• Philippines
11 Feb 10
As you have mentioned your guest had just suddenly appeared with no words from them that they 'll be coming. Attending your bestfriend's wedding I assumed has been planned for a long time. Your attendance had been scheduled already. So with such situation it is very clear that if I am in your capacity I would prioritize attending the wedding. The sudden guests could understand your predicaments if you will not attend the wedding. And its important to point out that its no just an ordinary wedding. Its your bestfriend's weeding.
@BlueGhost (130)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 10
Well i think i'm just have to apologize to them that i couldn't accompany them,, then go to my friend marriage