listening when people's talking
February 11, 2010 5:18am CST
I am watching apprentice season 2 again. And there's Andy statement that really cool according to me. he said "There are times when you should just listen instead of keeps on talking." (more or less, he spoke like that..^^) I think we should listen sometimes instead of just talks, talks, and talks but fail to listen to those around you. what do you think?
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18 Feb 10
I am the total opposite. I usually just listen and don't talk. I am someone who talk less.. Quiet person in fact. Which makes me quite a boring person at times... Both listening and talking improves conversations and relationships, this is what i learnt from my boyfriend.
26 Feb 10
Maybe you can give me tips on what to talk about... LOL... haha... One tip to listening is be interested in what the opposite is talking about. So far, I am lucky to find the subject of the conversation interesting, but i usually do not have any additional inputs myself, thus always the quiet person. No matter what I read, never seems to be able to use them in real life conversations... Any suggestion? LOL..
• United States
14 Feb 10
There is a good reason why we have two ears, and only one mouth. We should listen twice as much as we speak. If we only speak, we do not learn anything new, because we only hear ourselves. If we listen, we hear what others around us know as well.
12 Feb 10
The act of listening and finding meaning between each word being uttered takes a certain kind of attitude. Anybody can stop talking and pretend to be listening but instead thinking of words to say to the speaker. And so the discussions or arguments lengthen. Not call knows how to listen because they refuse to listen. I agree with you that it is a good exercise that we lean how to listen. Listen to the people talking. Listen to the actions of people. Listen to the feelings of others. have a god day mylotter!
12 Feb 10
My father used to cut me off in mid sentence with 'listen,you might learn something'. I was little and a chatterbox. I think he was right because when you are quiet and listening, you pick up on so much, it might be the way a person says something not just what they have said. My daughter is the sort of person who rushes into things and then evaluates the task after she has done it, I was like that once but I have learned that you must stand back and take it all in first and that includes conversations. You have to have all the bits of the puzzle before you can make the picture.
12 Feb 10
It has something to do with our attitude, because our characteristics do influence the way we respond to other people. The first example is the ego, the belief that we know better than the other person, and our opinion is more valuable than the other person's point of view. We have to learn to be humble even if we are correct, by accepting the fact that the other person may have something to say, something which we have never heard, or thought of before. The second example is patience. Without patience we tend to act in haste, thus not giving the chance to other people to complete their turn. There are other examples, but I believe the above are important in order to have a successful conversation or discussion.
• Garden Grove, California
11 Feb 10
hi cintoy you make a really good point.Iused to be bad at listening til my young son had said, mom you never listen, that brought me uphort as I did find I spent much time formulating what I was going to say that I had stopped listening before the other person had quit talking. thats unfair of a mother or any one else for that matter.we should listen to all our children have to say before we start talking to them.we learn so much more when we are quiet and paying attention to the other person speaking than in just talking non stop. lol.