For Crying Out Loud!!

@Janey1966 (24126)
Carlisle, England
February 11, 2010 8:23am CST
That is what you will say (or many expletives) when you read the article in the link below:- http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/somerset/8510091.stm I mean, for goodness sake, what's the world coming to? Fortunately, I don't live anywhere near Weston-Super-Mare and I would've thought that teachers in this part of the world have more common sense. It reminds me of the time when our boss at Lancashire County Council, Preston sent an email round banning Christmas cards as they would "clutter up our desks and cause offence to the Muslims." How many Muslims were in this huge office of 60 people? One! And she couldn't careless. Needless to say, this "ban" was ignored. Namby-pamby state, it does my head in!Does this happen anywhere else or just the UK, I'd really like to know!
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@derek_a (10902)
11 Feb 10
Well! All I can say is what a load of Politically Correct rubbish! Kids need to learn about the real world and rejection is a hard fact. When we get rejected from time to time when we are kids, we quickly pick ourselves up and get on with our life. I remember being hurt when I fell in love with this girl in my class when I was about 12 years old and she didn't feel the same way and told me to get lost. Yes, I was hurt and it happened several times as I grew into adulthood. Everytime I got over it and on one occasion I tried to run away! I came back when I felt cold and hungry though, and had a good talking to about being irresponsible from my parents. My Dad sympathised, but he said it happens. Rejection is part of growing up and a learning process and has made me what I am today. Hurt! No, I'm joking. When the time was right I met my wife and settled down for life. _Derek
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@derek_a (10902)
11 Feb 10
- Oh yes.. Go for it! I'd love to receive your card!
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@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
11 Feb 10
I didn't even get Valentine's Cards when I was growing up. In fact I was more worried about GETTING ONE because it would do my head in trying to figure out who it was from! I think Valentine's Day should be scrapped anyhow, it's a load of codswallop lol.
• United States
11 Feb 10
In our schools, the children can choose to give out Valentine's Day cards or not. However, if they choose to give them out, then they have to give them to every single child in the class and not leave anybody out. That is fair, in my opinion, because then there are no hurt feelings with one child getting more or less than another. They are not viewed as "romantic expressions of affection" but rather an expression of friendship, which is more appropriate given the ages of the children, in my opinion.
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@BarBaraPrz (20561)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Feb 10
"When Iiiii was a kid..." the kids gave out funny cards, not romantic ones. Often they'd have rhymes such as [i]Roses are red, Violets are blue, You look like a monkey, And you laugh like one, too. [/i]
• United States
12 Feb 10
BarBaraPrz, they still have the funny ones (or at least they did a couple of years ago), but I am not exactly sure that they are the same as the ones that you had. A lot of the cards are themed from popular cartoons, and they are funny/cute. I don't see a problem with that, and I think that the children should be allowed to give out the cards if they want to. We used to do a little "gift" with all the cards, too, like taping a lollipop to the envelope or taking some candy and wrapping it in red cellophane like a little pouch and tying it with a ribbon. The kids all loved that, and the teachers liked it, too.
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
11 Feb 10
Hello, Janey. What a load of rubbish. The reason our society is so obssessed with rights and so careless of responsibilities is because for so many years, we've been shielding people from the real world. If we don't ever learn to deal with disappointment and our path is smoothed for us, we assume the world owes us a living. When I was a teenager, I was disappointed because my best friend received two Valentine cards and I only got one. I complained to my mother, and she said, 'If you want more Valentine cards next year, make yourself more attractive to the boys. It's your own fault if nobody fancies you enough to send you a card.' These days, such a response would be seen as akin to child abuse, but it did the trick. From that day, I always made the best of myself. Now, at 57, I still get men asking for dates - and more - even though I'm spoken for. It's part of growing up to learn to deal with rejection, and to compete for what you want, and this head teacher is doing the pupils no favours.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
11 Feb 10
That's a brilliant response Sandra, thank you so much. You are right too. Wrapping them up in cotton wool from an early age isn't doing them any good and the education system itself also suffers as a result of all this PC rubbish. I am so glad I don't have kids, I really am! I'd be down there every day punching teachers, I'm sure of it!!Wow, I can't believe you are 57. I hope I look as good as you when I reach that age...only if I emigrate to Spain right? This country makes me feel older before my time, it's so stifling! You know what I mean?
@MrKennedy (1994)
12 Feb 10
That's just downright idiotic in my opinion Kids need to learn that during life, they will be rejected and turned away by many people. We should let them understand this rather than cotton-wrap them and make sure their feelings don't get hurt. It's a tough world sometimes, and the sooner people understand that, the better in my opinion.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
12 Feb 10
Well, yes, as someone suggested earlier why don't they introduce "friendship cards" so the whole class gets them...or, better still ban it altogether. You are right though, at Mum's school (as an example) it's sickening the amount of political correctness that goes on. She is in charge of the dinner ladies and witnesses allsorts in the dining-room. Sometimes little kids run up to her and throw their arms around her, something that is discouraged by the powers that be. But, what is she to do? Turn her back? She is in her 60s so looks like their Grandma (although she wouldn't thank me for saying that) and the children love her. It's such a shame that she can't even wipe a child's nose without being labelled a child abuser.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Feb 10
Yeah, I saw this. There's concern over here that some kids will feel left out, so the teachers (in the lower grades anyway) usually require them to bring one for everybody in the class if they're going to bring them. That's a much more sensible approach, I think.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
11 Feb 10
I think Valentine's Day should be scrapped altogether. Not very romantic I know but then the young kids wouldn't get involved in all the stress that adults have created for them would they? I mean, I didn't even know what Valentine's Day was until I was about 10. I can't understand why the really young kids have to know about it. Keep them innocent for as long as possible, I say lol.
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@polachicago (19073)
• United States
11 Feb 10
I see the scenario. Lonely people in front of computers, no cards, no emotions, no love, no Valentines, no Christmas, no Holidays, no Partners. They will buy in the future artificial love....ROXXXY...as is on the market already for $7000...(they are working on male model also) No emotional trauma, ROXXXY only knows how to do small, nice talk...and is always politically correct.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
11 Feb 10
What a horrible state of affairs! I would hate to be growing up in this world now, I really would. Not allowed to play, not allowed to do anything. I walk past a primary school nearby and all they do is run riot, no ball games, nothing...and the people who are supposed to be supervising them are hiding in the corner out of the way.
@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Feb 10
hi janey well do I remember my childhood and the Valentine day thing at school, when the teacher would hand out the Valentines to us and I maybe got one or two, while the class model child,who really was a brat but sucked up to the teacher, got fifteen or more. I got to hate the whole thing and felt angry that some of us got zilch while others lorded it over us. I think the whole concept should be scrapped. people in love should damned well show their love not on just one day but all year round. here in the US its a big thing and mostly commercialized and again some are doomed to be hurt as hubbys now days specially cannot afford the expensive flowers or boxes of chocolates the media has made womanthink they must get on Valentines day irregardless of the fact hubby may be out of work and almost broke. NO Valentine's day has come to me to be something that should be phased out. too many get hurt
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
11 Feb 10
I can see your point but in my day we didn't even have that system at school. As far I as I can remember we had them posted like the adults' cards would be posted. I don't honestly remember seeing cards at school. The scenario you have pointed out is the other end of the scale, isn't it? But you see it for what it is; the pupil sucking up to the teacher, that's all it is, therefore more cards. I do agree that the day itself has become way too commercialised and people shouldn't take it too seriously. I mean, I won't be bawling my head off if I don't get a card from hubby...and as for flowers, I got them before we wed but not now!
@BarBaraPrz (20561)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Feb 10
First the Grinch steals Christmas, now he's after Valentine's Day? What's next? Hallowe'en? (Don't want to upset the pagans and wiccans, now do we?) I think it's time the PC Police had a good, long look in the mirror and realise by "not offending" this group or that, they're offending another group-- the people's whose customs are deemed "offensive". ... sounds like the head teacher had a massive brain fart.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
11 Feb 10
Haha! I like it "brain fart" very good my friend! My Mum works in a school (as a dinner-lady and she's in charge lol) and she witnesses the stupidity of teachers on a daily basis. The little kids are treated like they are the best thing since sliced bread, even the nasty, bullying ones. "Gotta be treated equally!" therefore none of them ever gets told off! It's pathetic...oh, and the teachers are the ones who can't be bothered attending school when it's snowing. The kids always manage it! I feel like emigrating to Canada RIGHT NOW lol!