Boredom in a relationship...Is it normal?

@cloud31 (5807)
February 12, 2010 1:46am CST
Being bored in a relationship doesn't mean you don't love your partner anymore..Sometimes maybe your getting too much time with each other..You still love each other but why sometimes seems you feel bored with what you usually do with him/her, you feel she/he changed,or maybe just because you've got nothing to talk with her/him anymore.Does both need a space? Is it right not to get too much which each other all the time.?.How to cope up with this feeling? Share your opinion and views..Thank you and Happy Lotting..God bless!
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18 responses
@MrKennedy (1996)
12 Feb 10
Boredom is perfectly normal in a relationship, and quite common. No, it doesn't mean you have stopped loving one another, it just means you have fallen into a monotonous routine. You need something to spice things up a bit, or even perhaps spend time apart. Do this, and I promise you that you will realise how much you love and miss your partner
@cloud31 (5807)
13 Feb 10
This is a nice idea and it makes sense when feeling bored into a relationship..Thank you for your advises and Have a nice day..happy lotting! God bless!
@raynejasper (2326)
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
..hi.. yes.. sometimes, we feel that.. That is why it is also nice to miss each other.. I mean it is also nice to gie some space to each other.. sometimes you're together, sometimes you're not.. this is also true with married couples.. that's why sometimes, one partner will go on a vacation and sometimes, the other also.. it is a way of letting our partners miss us for sometime.. and you can do other things aside from what you usually do in order to rekindle the fire and your relationship will go on.. just don't let your boredom overcome your feelings towards your partner..
@cloud31 (5807)
12 Feb 10
hi rayne, Thanks for being here again,and for sharing your opinion, i agree that even a married couple will feel the same.So most probably it has to be taken a sincere consideration making a bit space to make yourself miss your love ones.Partner need to think of something new to make the relationship stay close as it is.. happy lotting and God bless.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
Boredom is quite normal in a relationship and usually creeps in when there is nothing left to do or say. There should always a constant effort to open up communication with your partner, to induce interest or do things out of the ordinary. Even if you do not have anything to talk to, just a simple smile or hug creates a spark of assurance. Spending a moment of silence is a good way of having space as merely enjoying his/her presence without having a conversation.
@cloud31 (5807)
12 Feb 10
I agree of what your view is.. I believe partner can make a better relationship spending a silent moment together without any doubt that they can make the best of it.There might be a boredom for a moment but Love can conquer all. Thanks for posting...God bless!
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
When your bored in your relationship it doesn't mean that You don't love your partner anymore. If you feel that your relationship is becoming a routine. Like saying I love you all the time. Making love is not an exciting thing anymore, the sparks are not there any more. THis means your feeling bored with your partner...huhuhu The best thing that you could do is tell your partner about what your feeling.So that he won't be shocked why your acting so weird lately. You need to make time for your partner a call in the phone would be good and tell her. You miss her just get intimate. Do something different break the things that you used to do. Do something that you've never done before together. Think of the times when you were just starting, the things you love about. Keep the communication open so that you will know what's wrong every now and then.
@sublime03 (1816)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
I think it really depends on the couple on how they make their relationship not boring. There are times that we may think we are not interested with each other but we have to remember not everyday would be interesting because of the changes that happen each day. I think coping with each others differences and facing each day with a more positive note which makes a relationship rule out boredom.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
13 Feb 10
I'm pretty sure that everybody gets bored in their relationship. Still people see it as a reason for breaking up, but that is not the truth. Just try to hmm well probably go to theme parks and fun places. My mom and dad they always also have their own hobbies that they do when they feel bored it's a way to relax.
• United States
12 Feb 10
I think this kind of things happen when both persons don't have other interests outside of the relationship. In order to avoid this problems both persons should have other friends, other interests in order to nurture the relationship with outside information and experiences, and don't fall in boredom. In my opinion, those ones that gets into those problems should take couples counseling, these people can take you to the root of the problem and give strategies to solve it.
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
Yes, it is very normal and their are times it comes to saturation like seeing each other seen like a routines as the excitement usually happen only when the relationship is still fresh and usually it wilted out when their is nothing new going on as the excitement fades. This situation becomes a challenges as two people engage in relationship need to think of other ways to makes their love last by keeping a new ideas and sentiments which arouse closeness or else no matter how strong the bonds their are lot of challenges which comes to test the patience of those people in a relationship.
• India
12 Feb 10
dear friend in relationship boredom type of word don't exist if this thing comes in our life we can't bear it for more time it may be mutual understanding of relationship.
@allknowing (53552)
• India
12 Feb 10
If one spends quality time there is no need to get bored but if one is in each other's skin all the time one is bound to get tired of each other. Giving space is the secret that guarantees a longing for each other.
@illfavors (592)
• United States
12 Feb 10
It's normal in all relationships, it happens occasionally. The best thing to do is have time apart from each other, or have activities that your partner isn't apart of. That way you have plenty of space and things stay fresh.
@jhen913 (15)
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
yah i feel that way too sometimes..we've been together with my BF for seven years already and there are times that i don't want to see him for a while or don't want to talk to hm or sometimes when we're together i just feel so bored with what we're always doing..i think the best thing to do is give yourselves a little time for your own..just wait to feel that you miss him/her so that when the time that you see each other again the passion is alive again..you know what i mean..
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
hi there clouds, you should both find away to enjoy together with each other company. I also feel bored sometimes , we been together for 7 years but Most of the times I missed him even if we see each other so often. Every moment we have with each other we make sure we show our caress and passion with each other.. Make some exciting moments and always surprise each other so that you will not feel bored.. make a difference always but be faithful LOL Happy Mylotting
@thebeave (31)
• United States
12 Feb 10
Routine is a better word to use than boredom. We are creatures of habbit and we tend to fall into a familiar routine any time we have the chance too, this does not exclude relationships. This definately does not mean that you do not love your partner, however, maybe you should think of something different to do to spice things up a little. This can definately be fun if you have fallen into a routine. A romantic night together or just getting in the car with no destination and a full tank of gas. It's definately worth it to do once and a while.
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
yup, it is normal that in a relationship there will come a time that you get bored. i think too much of togetherness or maybe too long being together is to be blame. maybe that the reason why many couples breakup, because there's no more "fire". but i think you and your partner should deal with it positively, meaning find other means and ways to spice things up in the relationship. maybe you need to go vacation. many options are there to choose.
@jules67 (2791)
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
It is good once in a while to stay away from each other. Even here in our house, there are times that I needed to be away from the sight of my parents and vice versa. It is possible that you get too familiar with each other and it already eats up the excitement that brings surprise in a relationship. Adding spice will bring back the love in a relationship.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
12 Feb 10
I'm a firm believer that no matter how much you love your partner a couple CAN NOT spend every waking hour with each other...Each person needs their own friends, hobbies and space in order for a relationship to work long term AND a couple also needs to have variety....If you are doign the same thing every day/night or weekend etc for months on end of course you are goin to get bored...I think couples should always try new things together, shake things up a bit every so often ya know..then not only is it NOT the same old same old but it also opens a door for fresh conversation, excitement to try additional new things and so on...AND shaking things up doesnt mean just on a day to day basis..in the bedroom I think that things need to get spiced up every so often too...
@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
The feelings is normal but do not worry because it will pass through every time you feel that way try to unwhind & stay away from him for a while. But I did not mean to give up the relationship just be alone for a while not too attached to him do not worry.