Do you have the custom of marriage between cousins?

@daliaj (5689)
India
February 12, 2010 3:46am CST
My friend is getting married to her first cousin next month. She says that it is her custom to search for a husband within the family, first. If you can't find a suibtale person within the family, then only you are supposed to find a guy outside. I can't take this. My custom doesn't allow me to marry people withing five generations from me. Marriage between relatives is not healty. Do you have the custom of marriage between cousins?
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• India
12 Feb 10
Well, marriage between relatives is not allowed in my religion and customs and rightly so. Even science prohibits such marriages. The thing is generations to come are affected by such marriages. Certain diseases like Hemophilia have higher chances to show up in people of next generations. Some people are carriers of such diseases that do not get affected by that disease but pass on the gene responsible of disease to next generation. If a person in a family is carrier of a disease that it is quite possible that some relatives will also be carriers. If two carriers undergo marriage, they both pass the gene of disease to their child. Due to this, instead of becoming carrier like his/her parents, he/she is affected by the disease. Many of these diseases are Lethal in nature. So such marriages can be threat to the generations to come. I am a biotech student, so couldn't help in explaining in such a way :P Happy MyLotting :D
• India
12 Feb 10
Eh? I thought I wasn't able to submit previous post. Sorry for the duplication. I write it all over again for no reason. T_T Second one is better written though :P
@saanjh (784)
• India
12 Feb 10
No, I belong to a Hindu family so my custom also not allow me to marry within five generation. I think it's a custom of Muslim religion.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
12 Feb 10
It is good to hear that you don't have the custom. I belong to the state of Kerala and Hindu families in my state have the culture of marriage between cousins. I think that these customs differs with respect to the place and irrespective of the religion. I may depend on teh caste too. Thanks for responding to the discussion.
@srganesh (6350)
• India
12 Feb 10
The awareness to avoid getting married within close relations is slowly getting down among the villagers now.They do a lot of things like this so as not to lose the relationship and money.Science is against marrying within close relatives.But our cinemas are trying to renew it again and again. In our area,this marrying cousins is not practiced a lot.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
12 Feb 10
It is very important to educate people about the problems of marrige between cousins. I also agree that media supports it a lot. Even now, in this age, there are movies that talk about love between cousins. I think media should be careful not to include these type of relationships, which will let young people fall in love with their cousin.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
15 Apr 10
In my society, marriae between cousins is very much taboo. Even marriage with second and third cousins is very much a taboo. However, once you get further removed than third cousins, it is no longer taboo in the social standard, but I still feel like it is taboo to me. I would never knowingly get married to someone that I knew that I was related to. I would rather branch out and mix more to assure that there are not genetically linked diseases passed on to my offspring.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
10 Apr 10
Well, i am the sufferer because my grandpa and grandma were close relatives and married. There are lots of genetical problems my mom faced. She even devloped the genetic pshycological disorders which my grandpa has. Doctors said its mainly due to close relatives marriage. I dont like it.
@Sreekala (22720)
• India
16 Feb 10
Hi dalia, In our state this custom is common among Hindus. Earlier, there was a system of nephews; means the nephews were getting the ancestral property so this kind of marriage will help to hold back the properties with the same person. If the person’s daughter is getting married with his nephew then there is no question of loosing the property. Cousin marriage becomes popular/ custom on this way. Now people are realizing the bad effect of getting married with blood relation. But still it is going on but seems very less than earlier.
• Bangladesh
16 Feb 10
Well, my friend. I'm a Muslim and the custom of marriage between cousins is allowed in our religion. Actually the prohibition imposed on this custom wasn't due to health reason. This custom has no relation with health. At the eve of human civilization, people had no other way to generate themselves except marriage in closee relatives. But later when the population increased and scattred everywhere, they wanted to increase their family relation through marriage in distant places. The leaders of the society thought that if we marry between our close relatives we won't be able to spread our genaration in far places. So, in this end in view, they imposed ban on marriage in close relatives. If we marry in a farther place we'll be able to get an easy access there. In this way human kind has spread all over the world easily. Actually there is no physical barrier of the marriage between cousins. There are lot of cases of cousins' marriage in our religion. Have a nice day.
@RawBill1 (8542)
• Gold Coast, Australia
14 Feb 10
That is a bad practice to follow. Not good at all. I cannot believe that people would want to marry their family before choosing outside the family. Don't they realise that this type of thing is not good for the human gene pool and that babies can be born deformed or mentally retarded! There are a few islands that I know of here in Australia where a lot of this family marriage has gone on. Norfolk Island has a population made up of mostly people with the surname Christian and French Island have lots of people called Thompson! I think that your five generation custom is a good idea!
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
13 Feb 10
The christian belief is second cousins or first cousins once removed. Which would be two generations.
@cortney09 (1346)
• United States
13 Feb 10
We don't have that custom in this country, as far as I know. I don't think that it's a good idea, especially if they are blood relatives versus by marriage. I am not one who likes to judge, especially since I feel like it's not our place to do so. I don't think it's a good idea for blood cousins to have children though as all the health problems that can easily come with that.
@harmonee (1236)
• United States
13 Feb 10
We do not have that custom here. It might acutally be illegal to do such a thing. My mother grew up in Kenya however, and there, if you married a woman and she passed away, you then took her sister for a wife.
@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
13 Feb 10
In the states it is frowned upon. They always make jokes about people in a certain state marrying their cousins, but I don't know how true it is. I always thought it was against the law because you can have children with problems, but I guess not. I do know a lot of other countries do this all the time (like the royal family in Britin) at least they used to.
• Boston, Massachusetts
13 Feb 10
in our country it's not advisable to get married with your cousin. but there are reported cases that cousins got married. there's a belief in here that when cousins get married there will be a problem with pregnancy and having a child. if they will be blessed with a child--the child will have abnormalities.
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
Oh nope, we dont have that kind of custom here. That kind of relationship is highly discouraged to actually forbidden. Though I can understand why some cultures would accept that kind of connection. However, as you have mentioned it is not healthy. The offspring of two nearly similar genes would have complications and the child has a high risk of being abnormal. Just the thought of that is enough to keep family marriages from happening. Still, there are customs who prefer this and we just have to respect the traditions that they have been used to. It is what makes their culture and what makes them unique.
@slbwyc (67)
• Singapore
13 Feb 10
No. i am chinese. in the ancient chinese custom, it is most likely for cousins to get marriage as they grow uo together. however now few cousins will get to marrige. because they are too used to each other and they are more like friend rather than couples. by the way, to marry with cousin is illegal in china and such a marriage is disapproved by the chinese government
@qamarep (4450)
• Pakistan
12 Feb 10
yes we have custom of marriage within family its only unhealthy if you are doing it from many generations once or twice is ok
• Philippines
12 Feb 10
It is forbidden in my religion but in some cultures in my country it is allowed like those belonging to the muslim and maranao clan bothe believers of Islam so it is allowed even as still a child they were already have an arrangement for both parents that each of their children would married each other even as a first cousin. They do it so their family wealth stay and would not be gone by letting a non blood to mix with their so call royal blood and also it have to do with being a reputable member of the society with high status. they like it to remain. while those who live in the hinterlands like those tribes belonging in different groups they also permit marrying between cousin but in my religion being a Roman catholic it is forbidden since the blood relation they believe if two cousin married each other like those first cousin they have abnormal children or produce offspring with full defects like those with different body malformation , being mongoloid or with cerebral palsy so it is forbidden.
@habby69 (122)
12 Feb 10
i cannot say we have this custom..we know its unhealthy.and we try not to marry in relatives .but there come many conditions in which people have to marry first and second cousins and they do so..
• India
12 Feb 10
Well, we don't have a custom of marriage between relatives. Even science prohibits such sort of marriages. Chances of certain diseases like Hemophilia increases due to such marriages. Some people are carrier of such diseases. A carrier is not affected by the disease but pass the gene for disease to next generation. The problem with marriage between close relatives is that both bride and groom can be carriers of such disease. If two carriers undergo marriage, their child will not be carrier like them but will suffer from the disease. Many of these diseases are Lethal. So such marriages can prove to be lethal to next generations. I am a Biotech Student so couldn't help explaining that ^^ Happy Mylotting :D
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
12 Feb 10
Personally, I do not think it is at all appropriate to marry one's own cousin. I know there are populations where this is practiced, but I am sure these populations are more prone to having genetic problems than populations where inter-marriage between cousins is banned.