What makes a woman unattractive to a man and what makes a man

By Bala
@balasri (26554)
India
February 12, 2010 11:07am CST
unattractive to a woman? There can be a lot of reasons depending upon a person’s taste and choice. I am looking forward to a lot of interesting responses.
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@angelsmummy (1700)
12 Feb 10
The thing that makes a man unattractive to me is a wife-beater, there is no need for it! I dont go for looks (although my fiancee is gorgeous), I go for personality and there is nothing more unattractive than a person with a nasty personality!!!
• United States
12 Feb 10
I agree! personality supercedes physical appearance
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
12 Feb 10
I am definately with you on that it don't matter how good looking a man is if he is aggressive and mean that all just makes him ugly
@balasri (26554)
• India
13 Feb 10
I too can agree with you all ladies.A defective attitude of a man is really can be repulsive.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
14 Feb 10
I don't like it when my husband wears a dress pant with a t-shirt. I think it'll look better with jeans, if not change the shirt. My husband likes me in joggers and sporty clothes which I don't mind but he doesn't like it if I have an ugly blouse or colorful non-matching accessory. In personality, he doesn't like talkativeness which ignores logic, me logic which ignores feelings. So these unattractive factors at first were present for us, they helped us to laugh and become better later.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
15 Feb 10
I am happy that everything ended well happily.
@thuhuong (828)
• United States
15 Feb 10
Once you include love in a man and woman's heart I think the unattracyive factors can be dealt with a more lenient matter.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
16 Feb 10
Simply put Love is blind.Isn't it?
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
14 Feb 10
Well ! I feel that a man may find a nagging woman unattractive; a woman would find a man unattractive if he threatens her security in any way.[this can be achieved in a number of ways.]She would find him unattractive if he is brutal.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
14 Feb 10
Right.A man is basically supposed to give all the support and security to his woman. If this fundamental quality is not found in a person he can never expected to be attractive to any woman. Now I know why I find my wife very attractive.She doesn't know the meaning of nagging at all.She must be the most understanding and supporting woman in the world.I owe her everything for what I am today.
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
14 Feb 10
That was a great comment and I am very happy for you and your wife.THe reason I wrote the forst part of the answer was that my husband says thatI would never nag and would be at peace with myself at all times and that is my biggest pluspoint.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
15 Feb 10
You and my wife will hit it off very well I know.A satisfied mind which understands all the situations in the family will never even think of nagging.It shows your maturity and how much you care for the family values.I am happy that you are my friend.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
13 Feb 10
Well, usually I dislike men who are lazy and expect the lady to be the one to support them. I don't like stingy men either.
@balasri (26554)
• India
13 Feb 10
Your husband must be a very brisk and generous person Mirita.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
13 Feb 10
Yes, my husband treats me like a princess ,and I can feel the love the he feels for me. My two boys have a wonderful role model to follow. In other words, we have a wonderful marriage based on respect and love. I also work to help the family ,but he is still the main provider. Maybe, I'm still somewhat old fashion.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
14 Feb 10
I am so happy to know that Mirita.
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
16 Feb 10
This is a really subjective topic like what you have said. There are a number of reasons for every person. So Ill just respond in the way that I can.LOL What makes a man unattractive to me.. I dont have much of a preference with looks. The only thing that I ask is that he be taller than me.^_^ As to the attitude and personality, I really dont like potty mouth's. I can stand hearing curses as long as they're not overused or are said in an appropriate situation. Respect also comes with that. Personal hygiene is important to me so a man with non-existent personal hygiene is unattractive. Hmm, that's all I can think of right now. This surely has been a challenge thinking of things that I think is unattractive. I really dont look at that. When one accepts the other, the things that makes one looks unattractive just disappears. That's just what I think anyways.^_^
@balasri (26554)
• India
16 Feb 10
That is a great way of looking at this issue.Well the most unattractive person can become so attractive and desirable with a single heroic or noble act.I like this point very much.
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@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
26 Mar 10
Glad to have successfully made the point across.^_^
• Bangladesh
14 Feb 10
Hey friend. I think false pride, arrogance, rude bahaviour, immorality etc. make both a man woman unattractive to all even after how good-looking he/she is. Because I believe the beauty of a person depends on his/her manner, not the outlook. So, we should maintain in good behavoiur in order to stay acceptable to others. Have a nice day.
@balasri (26554)
• India
16 Feb 10
Bad behavior and attitude really make both the sexes unattractive.
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• Bangladesh
17 Feb 10
Hey friend. I think you've got the thought. Thank you very much for supporting my response. Have a really nice day.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
16 Feb 10
Character or attitudes. To me, even how handsome the man is or how beautiful the woman is, if their character is bad, they are unattractive to most people. Looks is captivating for sure in the first glance but once the bad character is exposed, everything is lost. Beauty doesn't attract anymore.
@balasri (26554)
• India
17 Feb 10
That seems to be the opinion of majority of mylotters who have responded to this discussion.Nice to know that our friends do not adore beauty blindly.
@GreenMoo (11842)
14 Feb 10
There´s no one thing which makes a person attractive or unattractive to me. Personality has got to be the biggest factor though, so if I don´t like the way someone behaves on first meeting it´s unlikely that I´ll ever find them attractive, no matter what they look like.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
15 Feb 10
Whoever said that 'the best impression is the best impression' must have had an awful experience with the personality of the person at the first meeting.
@LadyDD (519)
• Romania
14 Feb 10
When is a man unattractive to me? There are many reasons indeed in my case. But the two most important are drinking and violent habits. A drunk man makes me sick and I cannot stand violence of any kind, even in speaking. Maybe I'm too sensitive!
@balasri (26554)
• India
15 Feb 10
Who will like a person who is not himself and totally lost?You are right.
• United States
14 Feb 10
what makes a man unattractive to me? Dishonesty and arrogance.i can't stand liars and men who are so full of themselves there is no rom for anything or anyone else.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
15 Feb 10
Only a man who is not confident in himself will lie around.It sure is unmanly.
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@andy77e (5165)
• United States
13 Feb 10
Tattoos and piercings of any kind. Automatic turn off to me. Neon, or un-natural hair colors. If you show up with purple hair, I'll find someone else to talk to. Being a jerk, or prissy. Any attitude of self-importance, or arrogance, is a automatic disqualification. Acting un-intelligent. If you start speaking using the words as if you were 10-years-old "like wow, like I was, like at the store, and like said something like way cool!" I'll find something else to do with my time, than talking with you. Finally, a disrespect for God. If you go around cursing or acting like God does not exist, then I may talk to you, but I will not be interested any further.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
14 Feb 10
Way to go .A great response.You definitely deserve the BR.
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@kiran8 (15364)
• Mangalore, India
13 Feb 10
Hi balasri, it is certain personality traits that make a woman or man unattractive and I feel that physical features have nothing to do with it.I have seen scores of couple where one of the partner is very average looking or sometimes looking unattractive to an average looker, but is considered very attractive by the spouse simply because of their level of compatibility and comfort level with each other...All the best and have a great Sunday
@balasri (26554)
• India
15 Feb 10
It is the care that each of them shows on the other that makes them attractive to each other.A selfish man however handsome like a Greek God will never attract a woman. At the same time the most beautiful lady with a foul mouth will make any man scuttle away from her.
• United States
13 Feb 10
I'm a woman..a man who is too full of himself is very unattractive to me. A man who talks constantly, just about himself, and rarely asks me about what I'm up to, really turns me off. A man who imposes himself on me, who seems to think he can dictate to me where we go, what we do, etc., is a jerk. A man who thinks his needs are the most important thing in the world, is most unattractive. I could go on, but I won't.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
15 Feb 10
A selfish person is never liked by anyone.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
13 Feb 10
A man with poor hygiene and a bad attitude especially a self absorbed one is very unattractive. I particularly dislike a mean spirit as well as pettiness and immaturity. I don’t place physical appearance at the top of my list because anyone with the above negative qualities can be very good looking but to me there would be no attraction whatsoever.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
15 Feb 10
Right Paula.I remember this quote as I read your response. “The greatest treasures are those invisible to the eye but found by the heart.”
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 10
A nagging woman can be off putting to any men. Most men can't stand women who nags and also those who are demanding. Men wants to have their own space. I can't stand and overly jealous man.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
15 Feb 10
Right, the breathing space is mutual.
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
Hmmm. If a man is disrespectful, or one of those who looks at women like they are prizes or things, then definitely that's a total turn-off. There's actually a lot of things that can make a man unattractive, but I guess the number one reason is their attitude. I mean, women don't like men who are egoistic, and power grabber, and those that only cares for himself, and only wants women for the fun of it and not for what they feel.
@balasri (26554)
• India
15 Feb 10
A and who doesn't respect a female is not a man at all.
@salonga (28009)
• Philippines
13 Feb 10
I don't really look at the physical appearance of a person. I look at the inner beauty rather than the physical. Of course that is despite the fact that I have been blessed by a good looking husband. Well what would really turn me off is if the man is smoking or any other vice that I would see from him, I always want my man to be a model of self discipline and righteousness and ! Also I don't like talkative man, boastful, rugged looking. I always like my men to look decent and speaks decently too.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
13 Feb 10
I would also like to see such an angelic person very badly in this chaotic world.
• Estonia
12 Feb 10
I am a man, so I will speak about the women. I think that a woman must be feminine. I don't like women who are ill-mannered and behave like men. I recently had an awful experience when I was on the party in a local pub. I was on a balcony and there was a girl standing next to me. Suddenly, she spitted down from the balcony, down to the dancefloor, where people were dancing. I felt so disgusted of seeing that. I think that women must behave properly, in order to be loved by men. But I also don't think that men have right to behave like a pig.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
13 Feb 10
It was really disgusting for a lady.
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
12 Feb 10
I am a female and the first thing I notice about a man is his fingernails. If they are dirty, I am real turned off. If the nails are long and unkept, that's a big turn off too. Doesn't take much to scrub them and keep them trim. I also notice teeth. Only really bothers me if they are missing are very decayed in front.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
13 Feb 10
I can imagine the row of men who had proposed to you with their hands outstretched to show the cleanliness of their nails.
• Taiwan
12 Feb 10
I am definately with you on that it don't matter how handsme looking a man is ,you talk and know hime for several days ,the face ,the voice is not important ,but the attitude ,the love in his heart,the worm in his heart ,it will change your thought about him
@balasri (26554)
• India
13 Feb 10
How can anyone disagree with your opinion about this discussion.Great.