Tell me who you friends, to tell you who you are;can friends have bad influence

@icesmile (7172)
Romania
February 14, 2010 8:02am CST
This is a sayings of my country, and i am sure that in your country they say same"tell me what friends do you have, to tell you who you are" How true are these words? One can not choose your family, but friends did. I am a friendly, polite person, but very hard i make friends, for always i asking what i gives. Do you think anyone, even if it is a nice person, kind, and choose the wrong friends can change in what his friends are? Is a lack of personality to let your friends to computers you in to to something that you have not been? I want to hear your views because it's curious how people can change for the better or worse, when they let "friends" drive them life and views.
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• India
14 Feb 10
i think the saying is true on 50% of the times but it may not be a right one all the times . a friend may have a different character but you wont . for example my friends will smoke but i wont . like this i can tell lot of things we cant exactly tell about a person by just knowing our friends . ny friend will study well but i wont . so they cant think that i will be brilliant if he is my friend . its just a saying and it may be not right all the time .
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
14 Feb 10
You know, "no smoke without fire "... other sayings, I mean the characters, not habits, nobody can change me if I like ice cream, I eat whether a friend of mine one eats or not; but it can not change my character one, just to make me be more patient, or wise. So i will choice all time just friends with good characters, not if have green eyes as i have.
• India
15 Feb 10
Once again, I would not want to generalize really. first and foremost we have to remember that looking around us, we can see that friends for men and friends for us women are not the same…while men can afford to keep on their friendships for lifetime, women can seldom have that luxury. Various factors force a woman to move on in life and make new acquaintances … so can we ever judge a woman from her friends or lack of it? Apart from that, yes we tend to get influence by our friends but with most of us, that intensity of foolishness and blind faith reduces with maturity… However, there is some truth in that saying no doubt and we find people of same wavelength keeping together so yes, seeing the company they keep, you can say something about a person.
@jpso138 (7844)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
I think there is a truth to this saying. But of course it depend on the person. But most notably there are a lot who have been influence by friends and have become bad along the way. It is a matter of discipline and personality. The best way is to choose your friends wisely.
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
14 Feb 10
Hey icesmile! I never let my friends tell me what to do! I will let them give me their opinion to an extent and if they go to far I will stop them! It is my life and what I do with it is up to me! I never listened to my parents, so why would I listen to a friend! Most of my friends can barely run their own lives! They are always asking me for advice! You don't have to let people tell you what to do! Just tell them that you are not interested in their opinion!
@jaiho2009 (39084)
• Philippines
14 Feb 10
hello ice, Friends can be very influential,but it depends on a person if they can be easily influence with/by other people. If you think you are firm and you had disposition in life,you cannot be influenced by any bad influences. It's not who are your friends that makes a YOU. I only believe half of the saying. I had friends...lot and different kinds of friends. I had a friend who dresses very sexy,in the sense of something revealing..but she never influence me to wear her style,and so with other of our friends. She's the only one in the group,and we never discriminate her. I am not a person who judge a person by her friends...there is always an exemption to the rule. We can never say we are better than the others becoz we had a good set of friends and other people had bad sets of friends. people who judge people without knowing them personally are either jealous or insecured about themselves. Let's not judge a book by it's cover..it is more accurate than saying...birds of same feather flocks together. We can never apply some sayings in real life. It's a case to case basis
@pandaeyes (2068)
14 Feb 10
I was in trouble in school once and had to go and have a talk with two of the senior teachers. Once was quite an elderly lady and she asked me ,'who are you friends with in school' ? I told her their names and she nodded and said to the man teacher,they are very steady sensible girls! I think she was judging me by who they were and I didn't mind at all . I used to choose my friends by how much I respected them and so the way that they were perceived to be ,helped the teacher to judge my character. There is a saying here 'birds of a feather,flock together' which means if you are the same sort ,you will be together and i think that is mostly true. In the Shakespeare story of Henry V, Henry in his youth,frequents the taverns to learn about the ordinary people ,he befriends drunks and thieves and cheaters and sadly he is looked upon as a bad lot because he keeps bad company. All comes clear in the end, he becomes a good king because he has learned about all walks of life but he doesn't remain friends with the bad men,he has to abandon their friendship or lose the loyalty of his peers.