Love is a decision

@laydee (12814)
Philippines
February 14, 2010 6:36pm CST
With all the topics I have opened so far with regards to love, it's quite redundant that I still would open such topics. But admittedly, I'm not (and never will be) an expert on love. It just fascinates me to know that slowly and almost every day I learn from it. My relationship isn't close to perfect, I didn't not get to celebrate Valentine's Day, I even cried half of it. But, it's neither one of us' fault. I don't want to go further with that topic. Today, I'd like to talk about what love is for me. I like looking at couples. I've always appreciated couples, specially those who are mature and no longer 'in the clouds of lust, fancy and infatuation'. I like looking at couples holding hands - not for the show, but because love has grown between them. I like couples who, when talking, you could still see how they are looking at each other as if every word is a precious gem. I may never be that girl, or may even be forever an spectator, but I won't hold it against anyone. Love is a decision. A decision to spend time with someone, not because you have to, but because you want to. A decision to choose to give effort to show that someone that she is special. A decision to celebrate love even when it's corny or overly commercialized because it's fun to sometimes laugh at yourself for doing such a thing. To all who were brokenhearted or to those who were alone on such a moment, I tell you, love is a decision. But it isn't only you who decides. For you who are happy and loved, cherish the moments because you are one of the few who get to feel that way, in a world full of hatred and pain, kudos to you for having the chance to be loved and to love.
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@raynejasper (2326)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
..hi.. absolutely right.. love is something you have to carefully decide.. It is not because you feel you are attracted that you already conclude that you are inlove.. most of the time, we are folled by mere attraction and love.. and that causes pain to us most especially ladies.. That's why it is important that when we decide to give our love, we should see to it that the person is worth it.. that the person's love toward us is certain and not added with vain intentions.. sometimes, guys have the tendency to play with ladies' feelings.. one thing more, we won't always expect our relationship to end in marriage.. so when we give our love, we have to leave something for ourselves so that when our relationship fails, we can still find the strength and love towards ourself to continue living despite being hurt.. it is better to love and be hurt than not to have loved at all.. to all guys, be very considerate with our feelings as girls.. we are sensitive and breakable..lol..
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• Philippines
16 Feb 10
i agree with you. love is something we have to decide, so carefully. we have to decide to whom, how, to give and share love. not an obligation to love because the other party feel attracted to you. it is up to the person to reciprocate it back or not.
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
Yes. The risk there is because we cannot force the other person to love us the way we love them. It's up to them if they reciprocate that love or throw our hearts to the dogs. It's indeed a risk, but regardless how many times we get hurt, it seems that we never learn and go back to loving when our heart feels like it once again.
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
yes, love is a decision. it is a matter of choices. for me, it is a decision because if we decide to love, we have to live and stand for it. it is not enough that you love, say it and do it with overt actions. giving effort makes the love grows stronger. stand and live with your decision. to love, to hold, to cherish, to forever.
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• Philippines
16 Feb 10
you mean we are obligated to love? i guess decision comes first before that obligation. love is a decision. a will that god gave us the choices to choose, options etc.
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
13 Oct 10
I think it only become an obligation if you're not really in love with the person you're with. Love makes things lighter.
@sublime03 (1811)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
I have to agree that indeed love is a decision. I say this because you choose to decide whom you want to spend your whole life with. You decide on if you will make an effort to learn more about the person and just accepting who he or she is with all the faults. Love is difficult to decide on but with the right tools you should be on your way to wonderland.
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@jcj_111776 (3220)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
Love is a decision indeed. The time to decide if you are ready to take that big step and face the consequences of that decision. It may be a happy-ever-after for some or it may be another chapter in their lives that they want to forget because it simply hurts to remember. I had my own sad chapter. For awhile, it made me decide to turn my back on love. Because I was afraid and I wasn't sure that the right man is out there. For two long years, I was lonely. I couldn't look at any couple especially those who are not hesitant to let the others see their love for each other. To see them was heartbreaking for me. Because they made me remember why I was lonely. But then, love made me decide once again. The day I met my husband, was the time my life was changed. I was afraid, yes. But I was more afraid of letting him go and find myself lonely again. And it may sound corny, but the love I have for him made me decide to take that next big leap. Whatever consequences, I was ready to face them.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
15 Feb 10
I agree with you the people who have the loved we all look for are so lucky and should cherish the time as it can fade so quickly...I believe when one is in love that is when we are truly happy, I wish it was all more simple and I wish we all could have it.
• China
16 Feb 10
Love is not an easy thing, acclimatise to each other which need a long process. Year by year some lovers' affection for each other grow stronger while some lovers break up in the end owing to the affection become dull. As the saying goes, "some people break up due to they understand each other, and some people are yoked in misunderstand."
@mariechin (428)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
Yes, I agree with you, I think love is spending time together and still seeing all the happiness and love on the air without the lust thing or infatuation. I mean taking care of each other make each other grow with love.