Friends Come And Go

@neildc (17254)
Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
February 14, 2010 6:42pm CST
Hi Dear myLot Friends. Friends come and go. That is one sayings about friendship that usually goes in mind when one of your friends leave. I think it also goes on here. myLot members also come and go. After building the friendship, you get close and closer with your activities, exchanging ideas and problems. And suddenly, one will stop myLotting. One promised, that someday, sooner or later, he/she will be back and will again be at your side, to support you. And though you know, or you think he/she will do his/her promise, you will not expect it to happen too soon. But of course, it will be delightful to see him/her again. But what do you feel if someone will just surprise you that he/she is back? How do you feel that in coming back, there is no other person he/she tells that he/she is back? What a wonderful feeling, right? Now, let let's put it this way. Friend 1 is your referrer while Friend 2 is your referral. If they go, which one will you be more happy to come back? Does it matter? For me, I them both back and will never go again. I want to see all my friends here, back into business. I miss them all and it would be a great to see them back.
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@Allie_xoxo (1064)
• Canada
15 Feb 10
I dont think friendship comes and goes, not the real thing. The real thing only changes and anyone who leaves was meant to leave and it's okay.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Feb 10
but of course, it would be a bit discouraging to see them leave.
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• Canada
15 Feb 10
sure, in the short term feelings get hurt and things are felt and said but in the long run who needs somebody in their life bringing them down? (I'm talking about negitive people who have brought hurt of course.)
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Feb 10
it could be more painful to see long time friends go.
@salonga (28020)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
Well I have no referrer and no referral too actually so I could not answer your question exactly. But I would say that it is always a pleasure to see an old friend back coming again. I do understand those who could not come regularly or have totally left mylot. I'm sure they have good reasons. Just like me, I think I can't be very active again at mylot within the next few days. I will be missing mylot again.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Feb 10
again? can't you feel that you are one that i am referring to? and why it should happen again? are you going to concentrate in campaigning? just kidding. i still remember how active you were before. and i still cannot forget, you did more than 200 percent of your activity that made you such a great earning in a day.
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@salonga (28020)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
Well that is life. My friend I think I really have to campaign otherwise I might lose the chance to be elected for the Presidency! The country needs me because all the other candidates are good for nothing! Ha!ha!ha! Just kidding! Honestly, I really so enjoy myLot but you know there are some other more fruitful tasks to be given due concentration. You know if opportunities to earn more from regular job knock, then I have no recourse but to stop my myLot activities. A big project is ahead of us and I could not concentrate if I would not give up mylot for the time being. I would still be writing for reviewstream once in awhile but posting actively at myLot could not longer be possible. So maybe by next week I would be a very irregular member of myLot I will be missing all my good friends here. Anyway that is only temporary, I'm sure I will be able to go back to my active self again sooner or later.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Feb 10
i am also sure, this will only be temporary. you will still coming back to mylot and i have already seen it, as you have already done it. good luck to all your ventures outside mylot. i am still here.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
15 Feb 10
Friends do come & go on mylot & in real life. It is sad for this to happen but have always heard there is a reason for everything that happens but wonder sometimes what in the world that reason can be.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Feb 10
what could be the reason is only in their minds. i hope they will tell us so we can at least, help if we can. we can never tell, they have feelings for us so they leave and so they can fight the feelings.
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@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Feb 10
neildc I was delighted the other day to welcome an old friend who I had thought had left for good, she was always so full of fun and good humor and made my day with her dry wit. It does feel so good to be one of the first to know an old friend is back. I will welcome all old friends no matter what. I do not do referrals so thats no problem as I can make money without that hassle. So I do welcome all old friends back here.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Feb 10
it really doesn't matter if they are our referrer or our referral, as long as they come back, i also do the same welcoming to all of them.
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
15 Feb 10
I agree with the response above. Real friends don't ever go far away. If they do then they were not really friends at all, just acquaintances I come and go but I am always here. I can't possibly be on all of the dicussions by all of my friends here but I do try and get to as many as I can and as often as I can but that does not mean that we are not friends. I don't ecpect anything from my friends either but that does not mean that we are not friends. It goes much deeper than that if it is real friendship. I still have to go and do a dicussion in your 'not interested' interest. I have not forgotten and I am still interested too
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Feb 10
well, mysd. maybe i am just getting dramatic sometimes. i just feel it's good to see them back, even i don't see them in my discussions. and actually, this is true. friend 1 is my referrer and friend 2 is my referral. i just being overwhelmed to see friend 2 posting a topic last night, after being absent for a year. while friend 2, i am still hoping to see her back cause one time she said, she will be back. i will wait for your not interested topic.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Feb 10
some real friends, Alice? whom i first met them, like you and diana?
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
19 Feb 10
excuse my wording too, Alice. sometimes, i really have bad construction of my statements here. you know people like me who are not English in natural way. we are just trying to make our English more English so we can catch up with English people. i hope i did not hurt anyone or something. but it's true Alice, you and Diana are just two friends here that I consider REAL FRIENDS no matter how far we are from each other.
• United States
16 Feb 10
Hi! On any site where you make good friends they come and go. I had a good friend on another site and she had family problems and she left and hasn't been back yet. I hope she comes back but I don't no if she ever will. Maybe in the future she will. But I have friends that I have made on sites and we chat through our email everyday or we talk on the phone from time to time. But I hope your friends do come back that would be nice for you to see them again.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
17 Feb 10
there are lots of them actually, they come here and go and never came back. but these two friends are so dear to me that made me think a lot of them more than the others. i am still hopeful for the return of my other friend. thanks for sharing.
• United States
17 Feb 10
I am praying your 2 friends come back and surprise you. That would make your day. I no what you mean when you say you have them on your mind a lot. I have a friend that I have been wondering about for a while now. Her and her husband were having problems then she never returned to the site we are on. I think about her a lot hoping everything is okay with her.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
19 Feb 10
i also hope she will come back to that site soon. don't you have any other sort of communication, say email or phone number, so you can check with her?
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
if you want to stay your friendship to be strong, make sure that you always have contact or communication to each other eventhough they we're far from you because communication is very important to everyone, in communication you will know every reasons or the explanation you want know why they go or left you behind. i'm doing this message base on my experience, i lost friends, and unti now i dont know the reasons why they left me, but in due time with the help of the internet i will search for them and ask the question in my mind the reason behind it why they left me? coz i'm the type of person who really treasure my friends, i really do and i miss them so much. i want to have a reunion with them, SOON, FRIENDS are the reason why i'm with them, how radical they are, for they're individuality, for they're ever loving heart,and i know it will never end, coz i die without my FRIENDS
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Feb 10
sometimes, life's really miserable with friends. and with them coming back, it will be a great feeling. i hope you'll find them like what happened to my friends, i searched for them in the internet and now we are connected. they maybe in far places from where we met, but the communication continues.
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
that what i'm talking about, your communication to each other, and soon not very very soon i can searched for them, and you're the first person to know it. thank's for the another advice, i hope someday will become friends
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Feb 10
why not? you can send me friend request if you wish to. by the way, welcome to mylot. and i saw your profile so i was able to know that you are also from the philippines. i hope you will also enjoy mylotting like we do. and also made me feel so glad to know that this is the first discussion you ever responded to. thanks a lot...
15 Feb 10
Hi Neil, I give a referrer to a friend once, she opened an account but has never been active, a complete waste of my time, but a friend that I made here on mylot became very close and the this person went away for a very time, then all of a sudden this friend came back, I was so very happy that this friend is back. Hugs. Tamara
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Feb 10
it is really a good feeling to see one friend coming back after a long time of being absent. i feel better to see them coming back, not only for the money but for friendship.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Feb 10
why not meet in the middle of UK, Alice?
16 Feb 10
Hi Alice, i am very excited about it and it all depends on which part of the UK but it won't be difficult as I would just get a train to meet this wonderfull friend of ours who is so special, it will be a once in a life time unlesds I win a Lottery, lol! but it won't be impossible to meet you hun, I'll just jump on the plane, and it won't take long on it, you'll never know, I might just do that, love ya. Tamara
• United States
15 Feb 10
yes its nice to see friends come back even after difficult situations-they come into your life for reasons and leave also for the same- some friends are too matter of fact and dont realize the damage they do-others do and dont care- i lost one of my friends recently and i got tired of being afraid of saying how i feel she got mad when i told her she was wrong and she really proved to me-that being right all the time is her lot in life esp when she tries to tell me about my own husband- i simply corrected here and told her in nice way she was incorrect yet if i tried to tell her how i felt about her hubby she would be insulted and furious- i can see why she doesnt work as a teacher-today you have to have flexibility and respect people's feelings in both directions- shes funny/ gifted talented and insulted me so much-if she reads this =i hope she realizes her remarks were uncalled for and cruel- telling us we have no brains to get out of the rain as she stated was inappropriate and shocking- we have been friends for yrs- i can see why she isnt close to anyone!like mother like daughter ??the north country b----! as she called herself when first met her yrs ago-if being right and the fact she doesnt like being corrected when wrong would destroy a relationship then friends we arent! i know she worried with hubby on lay off money etc but we are also-friends need to be supportive with each other esp now- wanting her back as a friend? nope if she chooses to be like this i dont need the aggravation and heartache- breaks my heart she can throw a friendship away but she did this to us once before- sad i think- hope god shows her the way and she realizes i am not the bad guy and was trying to set the record set-shes so argumentative- not good.
• United States
15 Feb 10
may i add i do miss our great talks via emails -her perspective was always so helpful and she made me laugh so much when i wanted to cry- if writers edge out there hope she reads this god bless you for all the great yrs -would want that back for sure!
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Feb 10
i also remember years ago, meeting a friend in the internet. she was living with an american guy in the US, and she is one of us, i mean a filipino. months passed, we became so close, sharing problems with each other. we wanted to meet in person, if she could visit her relatives here, i would meet her. we already had a lot of plans for the future, regarding our friendship. one time, i had commented something about their relationship, with the american guy. i can't understand, she just left. and i told myself and my wife about it. my wife said, she's not really a friend to you. i mean, friends are friends. if they will listen to our problems and gives suggestions, trying to get solutions to it, they will listen and will not treat a suggestion or comment negatively. if they won't listen, they are not friends.
@summer77 (415)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
Oh neil, you got a bit touchy about those people, I'm not saying you don't have, i'm just telling what I perceive. ;D Well, for me, I don't miss really any of them, since the one who refer me is a friend of mine already and our house is just a stone through theirs. And those I refer, the one is a an old friend already so we still get in touch a bit and the other one is a friend in facebook, sometimes we comment each other there. :) But my 2 referrals didn't even make a question or respond, maybe they find it hard to use but I told them they will just ask me if they need my help, I dont know maybe they are just busy. And my friend who referred me stopped because she said she got tired, but i think anytime she'll be back besides she referral points from me. hahaiz... 0_o Well, I do hope sooner your friends be back. I do wish too that mine will be back, too, especially my referrals. LOL =)
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Feb 10
hahaha, who will not get touched with both of them. friend 1 is the one who brought me here. we never really met personally but from one social site where we first met, we get closer through mylot, a nightly chat session, texting, video calling, what else. she is my best online friend. http://www.mylot.com/dhangski friend 2 on the other hand is my sister, biologically, siblings, we are. i invited her here and so she sign-up. got active for a while and gone. and last night, she has a dramatic re-appearance. http://www.mylot.com/katpuchboy
@summer77 (415)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
:) now here's the elaboration of the story. I do understand. ;
@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
17 Feb 10
Hi best. Frankly speaking, I'm really teary-eyed and so touched with this post of yours. I never left you or any of my friends here. I do come here every now and then, I just don't post, I just read your discussions. You know what I've been going through, you're "THE" only friend that I can confide with. I told you once in the other site that I promised that I will be back here, I will keep that. I never broke a promise to a friend, you're my BOF remember? I just have to clear my mind on certain things that's happening with my life so I can have my mind working again. I don't want to have my comeback post to be a very dramatic one, I wanted it to be a happy one. Ok, back to the topic, on my comeback, I want to see my referrer Long Bangod, posting here again, I will not say that I want to see my referral because he is really active here, and that's you my BEST... P.S. you know where to find me..HUGZ always!!!God Bless
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
19 Feb 10
i know you never really left me best. i know you are just there. but it is just a different story if i can see you often on this site. you know, MISSed our days here, SO MUCH. mylot is, i can say, the ONE site that really brought us MUCH CLOSER to each other.
@atv818 (1988)
• United Arab Emirates
16 Feb 10
Yes, they do come and go. That's why you have to be careful in telling all you're secrets because you'll never know how long the friendship will last. They might turned out to be your best enemy only in disguise. I was badly hurt by best friends twice so if I were you, just don't be so attached to them. Never hurt to be careful.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Feb 10
i know that. even if i make a lot of friends, not all that i have i will share them all. i always keep some space or something. it is really painful to have a best friend turning worst enemy. it's just like a nightmare to us.
@hora_fugit (5442)
• India
15 Feb 10
Referrer referral don't matter for me. But if my friends make a come back after long time, it'll be pleasant surprise! There are some friends from my initial days who are not seen here anymore. And I don't even know if they promised to come back, for it was me who just went abruptly.. No one was here to greet me back!
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Feb 10
oh, okay. so are you coming back now for good? welcome back! but anyway, if you are really here for some other reasons, you are always welcome to share them here with us.
15 Feb 10
I have recently returned to MyLot after a considerable absence, and I was so glad to see a lot of my old friends still here. I never had a referrer so just coming back after a while is a joy
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Feb 10
oh i see, so welcome back goth. i can't remember you in my friends list so i guess i should request for it. i think tamara and littleowl are also from your place, am i right? do you know them? they are also my friends here.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
15 Feb 10
It will be great if you have lot of good friends here, and over time, you built the friendship with them. I will miss them all if they don't have time to come here to join our discussion here. I found many people are friendly and they really helpful to my question. If they gone, I will miss them.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Feb 10
it could be okay, if the friendship was built only over time but if it is a long term friendship already, you will surely miss them a lot. you are true, there are many friendly members here and they are really helpful to each other.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
hello neil, I missed my referrer,she is not active in here now. She comes one day last December and now she's gone again. I know she's busy with her new job,but,i still wish and looking always for her to come back and be active again here in mylot. Friends really come and go..some stays and some gone for good. And it hurts when one friend whom we had a close attachment suddenly out of sight. Well...nothing stays forever..only the word forever will remain forever. Cheer up anyway..keep smiling my friend
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Feb 10
yeah, some stays and some gone for good. and that really hurts most, if they were one who got so close with you. i just hope that when they decided to come back, it would be for good.
@jugsjugs (13045)
15 Feb 10
I think you are right there that alot of friends come and go in real life aswell as on the computer as in on this site aswell as other social net work sites.When the friends come back on the net or when you bump into them it is a good feeling as you know that they are ok.I think that in life alot of people change friends aswell as they get other interest and what with all the pressures in life alot of people seem to have less hours in the day to socialise aswell.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Feb 10
it's really a good feeling to see them back again. most especially, if you know that that they are around not for the earnings, but for the friendship.
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
You're right, friends just come and go without even letting you know. Sometimes, you feel lonely if you don't hear from them anymore, but sometimes it doesn't matter, after all, you have a lot of friends in myLot. Unlike family, friends will not be forever there for you. You're asking who I will miss so much in case my referrer friend and my referral leave. Well, I would love to see them back again, because they are both my friends. But if I have to choose among them, it depends on how we got along when they were still around. The best thing is to treat them equally and just enjoy each other's company.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
16 Feb 10
yes, that's true. we love them both, all of them and should be treated equally. thanks for the nice response.
@Rhazelle (356)
• Canada
15 Feb 10
I have no referals or referees. But I guess I would say the same, I would want both of them still here if I could help it. I will actively poke and prod them until they come back!
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Feb 10
it would be a great feeling to see them both come back.
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
I guess people have their reasons why they leave. Maybe they got busier or have other things to do. It is sad though when you don't see eye to eye on things. I guess if it were me, I would give some room for them because people may sometimes be shy to tell what their current state of affairs are. They would not want to tell someone if they are in debt, are broke, or any reason for that matter. But it is also great if they come back. It is true, that people come and people go, but no matter what, we must remain the person that they knew before.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
15 Feb 10
and when they come back, they will see the same person they left behind?