How do you deal with people who can't control themselves when they're get drunk?

Philippines
February 14, 2010 9:21pm CST
We are having good time with my old pal from highschool the other day. It is valentines day and my husbands best-friends birthday at her bar plus it was chinese new year. We really are having a good time that night. There is a band playing beside the bay at the back of our friends bar and they are really good. They where playing disco songs and you'll get in the mood to dance when you hear them. One of guest is from our lower batch in highschool, we welcome them at the party. We even give them free drinks. And a night full of fun. This young guy from our lower batch talked to my husband and told him his nothing and he wants to fight with him and want to taste his fist. We were all surprised! My husband as he is now was calm and told him to just party. But he did not stop trying to get hit. And so a fight happened and the party was ruined by a guy who cant control himself when his drank. We talk with his friend recently and he told us that he did not remember what happened that night because he is so drank. Talking about kill joy people, how would you deal with them when you get to meet them?
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• United States
15 Feb 10
I am kind of horrible with drunks. I tend to treat them like they're five years old... I have discovered phrases like "Come here and sit down," "Get down from there," "Don't talk to strangers," and "No, that's icky," tend to apply to both groups in a lot of situations. This is why I try really hard not to be "the sober one."
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
16 Feb 10
I had one party years ago where I offered a woman a sippy cup. She seriously could not hold onto her drink! I finally grabbed a drink she was holding and went to the kitchen and poured it into the sippy cup and handed it back to her. The next day that was all she remembered....me making her drink from a sippy cup.
• United States
16 Feb 10
That's fantastic.
• United States
15 Feb 10
Lol, I just thought of something funny. I was going to post that I do not deal with them I just stay away from them. But I remember the only time that I have been around one this past year. It was my mom's brother. No one can stand him when he is sober so just imagine. So we are sitting at the kitchen table playing Monopoly. He starts talking crazy junk, then he sits his head on the table. He falls asleep, and after about ten minutes he falls down to the floor. He does not wake up, still sleeping away. Of course we take his money and stick it in the free parking. Then we distributed his properties between us three. We finished the game and went to bed for the night. Left him in the floor and woke up the next morning he got up and left. Have not seen him since. Though my mom said that he called and asked for my phone number so he could come hang out with me and she told him that I did not have a phone. Lol. I have moved since then.
• India
15 Feb 10
there are two ways of dealing with a drunkard who wants to create a nuisance..one avoid them altogether,run away from them if you can..But if the person insists on a confrontation,then give him/her a piece of your mind,ask them to be quiet or get lost.If they still remain a problem,get physical or if the person is too much for you to handle or if the person is a woman, call the police.I recently had a problem in a cinema hall with a drunkard sitting behind me and my friends placing his leg on our shoulders.We asked him decently enough to put his legs back in place.But he continued his nuisance and we just got physical with him.He was shoved out of the theatre and nobody said a word,the security thanked us
@spalladino (17925)
• United States
15 Feb 10
I definitely wouldn't offer this guy a drink if I ran into him again...or allow him to hang around with my group. Some people get nasty when they drink too much and it's their responsibility to see that they don't, even if that means not drinking at all. Unfortunately, most people who lose control when they drink make excuses for their behaviour and they continue to make fools of themselves.
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@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
That's very very chaotic. I was also a heavy drinker before and lots of times my friends usually gets into trouble.. What i do is just stop it as early as possible but if it can't be helped I just go home.. I don't want to get trouble myself and my mom's gonna kill me.. LOL.. Now I have been clean for two months... I don't want to be in that situation again.. ...;)
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@udayrao2 (782)
• India
15 Feb 10
In case they become out of control there are 2 things you can do - ask the drunk to leave and if he is not in a state to understand, ask his companion to take him away, that you can do if the party is at your home or if you are the host - that much right you have. and if the guy wants to fight and create a mess either throw him out or have him thrown out or call the authorities - these drunks normally go out of hand because no one has challenged them so far and no one has shown them their place when drunk. I too hate drunks when they ruin the atmosphere - if they are quiet and sit calmly by themselves that is another matter And if you know that person creates a problem or you know beforehand never invite such persons.
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@Mady2791 (547)
• United States
15 Feb 10
I think they are good people but I can't be hanging out with them on parties etc because that behavior is not acceptable.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
16 Feb 10
hi there maariashieryl, well a lot of people can't control themselves when drinking. That being said, you guys fed him the drinks and you called im a "lower batch" whatever that is so it appears that you set yourselves up. My guess is that he has always been treated as a "lower batch" by your crowd and maybe already had some pent up anger???Not sure what a lower batch person is so I'm not sure my response is applicable here.
• Slovak Republic
16 Feb 10
it has happened to me a lot when at parties.There are some people that i know that are like that.the best way to handle them is to lighten up the situation. give them something to laugh about.if that does not do the trick ..then walk up to the guys friends and tell them the issue..it has worked for me many times. if the guy who is behaving bad is your friend then tell them to hit you instead.they will never do it but it will divert their mind of the topic.since they are so drunk they wouldn't remember what the issue was at first.
@timasma (123)
• Poland
15 Feb 10
Some people really lose control with drink, they cant just enjoy the moment and have fun, instead they have to spoil everyone's fun. I usually stay away from people like this because I know they have no control. If I were you next time you see him tell him how you feel and how he spoiled everyone's night. And tell him next time to keep away from either you and your family and friend or the drink. Tell him he cant be trusted when drinking and for that is best if he keeps away.
@iharidh (309)
• Indonesia
15 Feb 10
My friends keep telling me that there are two kinds of people when it comes to drunk. The first type is the calm type. they won't argue much what we tell them. But the last type is the opposite one. When they drunk, they start to mess up. I was told that it kinda funny to watch the calm type of drunken. But I was told too that I have to avoid the last type of drunken. Unfortunately, there is no way we know which type is someone without trying the first one. And that's the reason why I never been close to someone drunk.
• China
15 Feb 10
I think the best way is let him or her get rid of drink...
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
I know my friends and I know who's like that when their drunk, What I do is.. not to go where they go.. hahaha I mean if I'm gonna be with a guy like that - It's better to just go home and watch movie than spendin' time with them, Not all of them are like that course' but it's hassle, instead of having fun, you and your friends are busy talkin to the guy just to calm down. or maybe escorting a drunk guy home who pick fights to who ever he sees.. jeezz..
• Namibia
15 Feb 10
Just ask him calmly to behave or he is no longer welcome in the group. If he does not respond ask him to leave or let a few of his friends or members of your group escort him calmly out of your presence. If necessary call some security or the police. A night in jail will probably bring him to his senses.
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
15 Feb 10
Being around drunk people is not the most fun thing in the world. There are those that are goofy when drunk and cannot be controlled. Then there are those that are a bit violent when drunk and rally cannot be controlled. I just distance myself from these type of people. Let someone else handle the situation and hope they do a good enough job to whether the storm. Trust me, there are times where drunk people frustrate me where the only situations that come to mind are violence. A group of sugar crazed three-year-olds are easier to handle than most drunks.
@mariechin (428)
• Philippines
15 Feb 10
Be their guardian angel or mommy like type. be firm.
@Rhazelle (356)
• Canada
15 Feb 10
Do unto him what college frat boys do unto each other when they're drunk! No seriously, take a video or something of the event and then show it back to them when they're sober. Likely everyone will get a good laugh out of it, and the drunkard will learn to be more careful next time to avoid the same humiliation again.