Is it naive to be nice?

February 15, 2010 11:46am CST
My friend is way too nice to people, and she is forever getting hassle for it, people walk all over her and hurt her, but she is still nice to them. Now, she thinks I am not nice enough, because I refuse to be walked all over and treated like a second class citizen. Now I know I am cynical, but I really think she is naive to be so nice to people, or she has an ulterior motive for being as nice as she is. What do you think? Are you nice? Or do you cut people loose if they treat you badly?
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
15 Feb 10
Everyone has different levels of tolerance, in how we react to people. Some react quickly, others don't react at all...or at least don't seem to. People accuse me of being to 'nice' too, but believe me, there are limits. (Especially with you-know-who) Usually I'm nice for the sole purpose of not giving the aggressor the reaction they so richly deserve and are asking for. Depending on whether or not there's an audience, not reacting makes them look stupid and that's sort of payback in itself. What never ceases to amaze me are the people who treat some one badly, then turn around looking for a favor. I get a lot of pleasure in saying NO to those people, and explaining why. So, even 'nice' people have their methods on pay-back. We bide our time and nicely wait for an opportunity.
4 Mar 10
Like a snake waiting to strike? lol
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
4 Mar 10
Yes, but first we'll wait until we're done baking in the sun, and they just happen to be walking by. Opportunity almost always presents itself if we're patient.
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
14 Apr 12
I am nice. I am friendly (in real life). But I get the respect I deserve because I never let people push me around. I think it doesn't really matter if you're nice or overly nice, what matters is your character. If you are nice and people could just ask favors any time because they know you will not refuse, then that is a making of a pushover. Further, when one is overly nice and allows people to treat her/him like a fragile flower, and doesn't step up and be firm with the ideals, then you will be trampled around. One can be nice and can be firm at the same time. I always make sure I am that. Similarly, I do speak my mind. It will not always be nice or good to hear, but I know that the person deserves to hear it, that's why I say it. People should not expect to be treated like a queen all the time, they need to understand that like the ying and the yang, there will always be balance in everything. If it's always one-sided then it's not real. How is your friend? Have a great MyLot experience ahead!
• Malaysia
4 Mar 10
it is naive to be so nice. people known me as a nice person. but not too nice anymore. sometimes we have to defend ourself from getting heartache
@Hubfee (665)
• Thailand
18 Feb 10
Well, I'm not sure with myself but according to people, they said I'm a nice guy. hehehe Well, nothing is wrong about being nice to others. However, if someone treat me badly then I won't be real nice to them.
@sushie93 (1359)
• France
15 Feb 10
Everyone has his own personality, we can do nothing for that. When i was a little children, i was really nice with everyone, always say yes and fortunely, everybody respect me, they never hurt me. But today, i'm not a little girl anymore, in the past, i was shy so i didn't say nothing, i think it's why people think i was nice, today, when i'm not as shy as before but if someone treat me badly, i just make a angry face and didn't say nothing, because i don't want to create conflicts, the situation would be worst. But even, if i don't say nothing, i think to many bads things in my head and when i'm very angry against someone, i wish he die lol. XD I'm a little devil with an angel apparence...