People don't help others these days, they only do favours
February 17, 2010 10:44am CST
First of all let me clear the difference between help and favours, as told by my friend. She said helping someone means 'not expecting anything in return & being self-less' while favours means 'expecting something back for something you had done & being selfish'. She said if I was doing her a favour "I don't want favours from someone". My question is nobody helps anyone,everyone does only favours (my belief). So, to the opposite party how does it matter? As it is he/she wants their job to be done, for that moment it doesn't matter if it was a help/favour. Isn't it? And, one more thing, I would definitely like her to help me back when I need something,so I am not helping, it is a favour. Can someone explain this question or rather confusion, do you believe my belief is right? If you know the other person is not helping you when he can, you won't bother to help him or even do a favour, isn't it? And, If it is stranger I would help him if possible and I can't expect this stranger to help me back, right?
17 Feb 10
Helping someone is like respect. If you respect someone then you expect respect from him too. Likewise if you help someone then you assume that he will help you back if you need any. But today if you help someone they forget about it in seconds. Its frustrating... therefore people now don't help... they do favour because it becomes a probation to return the favour. I think doing someone a favour is as good as helping someone...
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17 Feb 10
I think a lot of people don't expect anything in return for helping someone. It's just a knowledge of it being the right thing to do. I have friends who are the most selfless people I know. They're always taking people in for tea and offering them guidance without any strings attached. They believe they were put on this earth to help other people and they're unshakable in their belief in unconditional love. There are a lot of selfish people out there, but there are a few rare gems too. You can argue the specific terminology with good points on both sides, but it's not as important as the simplicity of kindness that we should all aspire to.