Do you babysit for your grandchildren?

United States
February 17, 2010 9:40pm CST
Do you watch your grandchildren while your son or daughter works or goes out? Is this a mutually satisfying arrangement or do you feel like you're being taken advantage of? Do you watch the children full time and get paid? Are you retired or do you have a job of your own and babysit during your free time? In my situation, I live with my daughter and granddaughter. I work during the week and on weekends I watch my grandaughter while my daughter works, and a couple of evenings a week while she takes a class. Sometimes my granddaughter's other grandmother will take her on the weekends IF she is not busy. But if she's not available I am the default babysitter. I love my grandaughter, but I'm very frustrated with the arrangement. My teenage son and I will be moving out sometime this year and I am tempted to not do it anymore, but at the same time, I used to work weekends when she was growing up and know it is nearly impossible to find regular child care on the weekends, even if you can afford to pay for it, which she can't. Is taking care of your granchildren the biggest joy of your life, or would you refuse to do it even if your child couldn't find a babysitter?
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@Hazelrose (2185)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
Hi rapunzelcat,Yes I do,at this moment my grandchildren are with me,because their parents are in their works.So I take care of them.It is a pleasure for me taking care of my Grandchildren.while they were sleeping I'll take my time to be here working in mylot.Good day.
• United States
18 Feb 10
You sound like a good grandma! Have fun with them.
@Hazelrose (2185)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
Not so,but I really tried my best to be a good grandma as much as I can.I really love my grandchildren and I always want to be with them.
• United States
25 Feb 10
My mom loves keeping my 3 kids and i have a 9,7, and a 2 1/2 year old. And has begged me to keep them. She loves it its like quality time with grandma and grandpa and they see it. I use to live my mom and dad before i got my apartment and my mom would cook for them alot and take them to town play games with them. It was like a vacation almost it seemed to have the kids with her. And im glad they love havin the kids with them cause the way i see it people dont have forever and in the blink of an eye your time can be up and you may never get those chances back. I would take advantage of having my grandchildren if i had the chance i know my mom and dad does. my mom and dad have just stopped by to get the kids and took them to park outta the blue... I definitely wouldnt consider it babysitting your own grandchild to me its more like caring for a loved one..
• United States
1 Mar 10
Thank your for your response. It sounds like you and your kids are very lucky to have such a great relationship with your mother.
• United States
20 Feb 10
I think it would be very kind if you would continue to watch your grandchild after your move. It doesn't sound like you have her very much as if you work a 9-5 job odds are your granddaughter would only be up a few more hours after that. I have in-laws who are recooping w cancer and can barely get by themselves to take care of their daily needs. My parents have both passed away. I have no child care other than my hubby. If I had someone to watch my kids and for cheap I'd be very grateful as I need a full time job and the few hours I get at my pt job around my hubby's hours are barely helping with things. I hope your daughter does appreciate your help with your granddaughter. I know I would appreciate it!
• United States
23 Feb 10
Thanks for your input. I'm very divided on what to do about it. Sometimes I feel burnt out by it yet I know what it's like not to hsve reliable child care at times. I wouldn't want her to put my granddaughter in an unsafe situation because no one else would help out.
@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
18 Feb 10
I watch my one grandson while his parents work. I have since he was born, and now he's a first grader. I have a huge old farm house with an upstairs that is like an apartment. I'm no longer married, and since I'm disabled enough to not be able to work, or do a lot of the harder household chores, I asked them if they'd like to move in. Since their second floor has a living room, 3 bedrooms, and and office room, etc, we really don't see each other constantly, so it works out well. I gladly watch my grandson while they work, it brings joy into my life. We all work well together here, and I am so grateful for all of them. I don't feel taken advantage of at all, and conversely, neither do they. We are all a very 'close' family, and I'm glad I can be a part of my grandson's life; we are much closer because of it. My (ex) inlaws only ever watched my girls two times when they were children. They only lived 15 minutes away. They always said they felt that they raised their children and once was enough. As a result, they never really knew their grandchildren, and their grandchildren really never got to bond with them. I'm not saying I would have asked them to watch them while I worked, but once in a blue moon would have been nice;-) I think you'll find everybody here has varied opinions on babysitting the grandkids. But you know, if you feel stressed about it, then maybe it's time to make different arrangements and have a talk with your daughter. No matter how old we get, we still get to choose how we spend our time, and it sounds like yours is pretty much taken up. Especially since you still hold a job and all. You definitely deserve some free time to do things you want to do on the weekend. I hope it all works out for you:-)
• United States
18 Feb 10
It sounds as though you have the idea situation for watching your grandson! I'm sure your family appreciates you a great deal. Thanks for understanding my point of view!
• United States
2 Jan 11
That's sweet! And, I'm sure you do your best. But, you do have a life and hopefully it works out for you. I don't have grandkids, cause my daughter is only seven years old. I wanted children much earlier in life, but wasn't able to have a baby until my thirtieth birthday. For many years, it was a big sadness not having a child. Now my life is very serene and blissful, even with a frantic energy ball first grader running around inside the house. When she is older and having kids of her own, I will be more than happy to babysit.