Does Child Matters?

Philippines
February 18, 2010 2:04am CST
How many couple you have known that are living together without child? And how many of them that are trying to adopt a child to treat their own? Are those couple who are not blessed by little ones can be still called a family? Can this be a lasting relationship? What are the possible trials they would face in life? Sterility, also known as infertility is an inability to conceive a child after trying to do so far after one year. It can affect both men and women, with the cause involving either one or both parties. references: http://www.nativeremedies.com/ailment/signs-of-female-male-sterility.html
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@emerillus (477)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
I have a friend who wants a child but could not because of health issues. She and her husband are trying so hard to solve the problem and taking medication. They are married for two years already, and a child is very important for them. Whatever is God's plan for them, I hope someday they will have a child as they are very good people. They said they will turn to the powers of science as a last resort. for the meantime, they are still happy because they have good friends and a pet dog.
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• Philippines
18 Feb 10
To answer the question, a child rally does matter to them because i think something will be missing in their lives if they could not have a child. For me too, someday, I hope I will be blessed with a child or two when I get married.
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
Hi emerillus, happy to hear the story of your friends. I have a friend of mine too with the same case, it was her husband that had low sperm account (not really steril). They really wanted to have a baby, so they asked advices from their friends. Lastly, her husband discovered a medicine for this, a sort of helping him produce more sperm... so today they are so happy with their first baby. At first, they concluded that they are both infertile, but true the advice of their friends, they went to the doctor, and that was a great help. Before, I usually heard from her that they have misunderstanding... her husband took another woman, etc. I am just glad to know that they surpass it and never ended to separation. Likewise, child really does matter to me too. A kid can just refresh you from a long day of hard work, and then hug you you at the end of the day... and say 'hello Dad/Mom.' What a voice of an angel... LOL
@cloud31 (5811)
19 Feb 10
I don't think its a big deal for couple not to have child after marriage, maybe some couples does but for me in my point of view .It will not be a rush conceiving a baby, having a baby takes a lot of attention and it has to be ready to take the responsibility being a parents. In some couple with no child still can be called a family ..Family is not just having a baby its a bind of two who tend to build a bigger family unfortunately they wasn't blessed with it.. Anyway its common nowadays adopting child and treated as their own.And i think some consequences may possible to arise if the they don't open up something with each other and i think if the expectations of each party is not possible to happen..In my point of view it will be better to talk honestly with each other what they suppose to do with this kind of situation and they need to accept wholeheartedly what their half deficiency..Love is acceptance of your partner as whole ..So no matter what she/he cannot able to do,accept all without exemptions. Happy Lotting and God bless!
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• Philippines
19 Feb 10
excellent cloud31, THUMBS UP for the nice sharing, what else could I say, you have it all... God bless too...
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
i don't think it matters much. but most often that not, a child becomes a couple's source of togetherness. it completes the picture. for most, yes. but i don't think the inability to produce an offspring should be hindrance to a lifetime of commitment.
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
You have the point, with love, the inability to have a child is not really a problem... Many couples (despite many cases resulted to separation) are still living together happy without a child... and some adopted one to be their own... 'Love" is the key melloncollie.. God bless.
19 Feb 10
A child is indeed a great gift given to a couple for it can make the family bond closer than ever. A child has the special way to brighten up a home and to make it even more stronger especially in trying times.It is the child who inspires the parents to work on in pursuing a better home and a better future. For me, the child matters.But also before having them around, it also mater much to prepare for their existence. It doesn't only mean having them is enough.Preparing for them is all the more important because a child entails a great responsibility too. I do love to have one myself , but i could say not yet for now .I still have to do something more to better care for him or her in the future.
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
THUMBS UP TO YOU DRAGONANGEL. Yes you are absolutely right, a child has a special power to brighten up a home. But having him in the family is not just enough, it must be planned properly. A couple must learn first good parenting before having one. God bless and happy MyLotting.
• United States
18 Feb 10
I think it depends, for some couples their love is enough, and other couples have the necessity of having a child. And other people just really doesn't want to have a child. Having a child shouldn't be a must in a marriage. Also a marriage that doesn't have children is also considerate a family, because those two people decided to join their life together as a couple.
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
Nice idea laura. You've point out what I have just exactly want to hear. A family would last, with or without a child. It is on how much they value their relationship together as one family.
@elly1384 (353)
• Bulgaria
18 Feb 10
if you want to be a family with someone there is no matter if you have otr don`t have a child .i have a child ,but i and my boyfriend are not married.the marriage is not a reason we to be a family,my brother in law and his wife are married for three years but they haven`t a child and they are happy that way of living and they doesn`t think that they are inadequate of that. my opinion is that every way to live with someone should make you happy
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
Well, of course, there are existence of cultures which never specify that marriage is a measure in order for a couple to be consider a family. There are a big percent of live-in couples here in our place, and they are living happily for years. Whether married or not, what matters most is the binding force between them. And we are very sure love is one, however I am concern of those things like infertility to decrease the tight of the bind as one family. And yes, I am happy to know that there are still couples without a child that are contented living each other, without doing anything to have one.
@maximax8 (27048)
18 Feb 10
I know some couples that don't actually want to have children. One is a friend of mine and he lives with his girlfriend. Neither of them wants to have any children in the future. I think of them as a couple than as a family. Two of my female cousins tried to get pregnant but couldn't do so. One tried to have a test tube baby but it didn't work. Neither of them decided to adopt a child. In my first year of teaching I knew a few children that had been adopted. One lady adopted two boys and a girl. Another lady adopted a little girl. My mom's friend tried to get pregnant in the 1960s but couldn't. She and her husband adopted a baby girl and a year later a baby boy. A man and a lady = a couple A lady and a baby = a family A lady, a man and two children = a family
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
I appreciate hearing from you maximax8. Yes, you are right, even many couples long for child, some also never. Maybe they have their own reasons for that. And I agree with you, in their case, they can be consider a lot more just couple than a family. What I am concerning more are those couples who are not blessed with child/children but are really doing the best effort to have even one. But I think the technology nowadays can help them, or adopting a baby is the last choice. Well, thanks for answering my questions, it helps me a lot. I really doubt upon starting this discussion if a couple without a child can be still called a family. God bless to you.
@mylosha (286)
• India
18 Feb 10
hai the speedy world never think about this now a days people particularly professonals prefer living together life style they lost to think the value of the family system if its continue people one day live without family system that enable them to do lot of mischiefs according to me family with children are perfect life to live.
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
Sad to know that mylosha. Even the world got its speed as we know, where more professional couples (BUT NOT ALL) like what you have said are concentrating on their respective fields and somehow think child like a burden, it is not proper to forget the reason why we are here to be with someone we love. What is love without fruit? For me, a kids of 1 or 2 will work better in the busy world of professionals...
• India
18 Feb 10
Yes child does matter in our life if i get married then i will have my own child and instead of that i will adopt child.
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
We have the same thought Niri, if someday I and my partner could able to make a baby, if agreed, adopting a baby is the best solution maybe.
@cupkitties (6707)
• United States
19 Feb 10
I know of 3 personally that don't have children and its because neither of them wants to be parents. For those that do but aren't well that depends on a lot. There are a lot of people not willing to adopt because they want to ensure that someone of their own blood will carry on the family name and for those people if a child is the most important thing to them they will leave and find someone who is able to give that to them.