How do you deal with a demanding and irate boss?

Philippines
February 18, 2010 2:59am CST
Honestly, I've been experiencing this uncomfortability since I started my job here in our provincial government. I was not expecting that my boss could be as demanding and irritating, in an unreasonable way most of the time, as he is now. I was an apprentice here the other year as a news writer but he was not that kind of person before. But now his "true colors" came out, and I really have quite a hard time and heart in dealing with people like him. But still, he is my boss. And I must still bear in mind our boss-employee relationship. But how do you really, in concrete terms, deal with this kind of superiors at work?
9 responses
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
19 Feb 10
I ever worked fr a company where the boss behaved the same like your boss. At first he was very kind and considerate person. But, after i had been working for more than a month there, i came to realized his "true colors" and decided that this company is not suitable for me. i don't have the patience to work for a boss who is so bossy and inconsiderate in every matters. I am lucky that i am able to locate a new suitable job within a short period of time and worked there until i had decided to resigned due to my health problem.
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
getting another job is also my option...I don't have plans of staying here any longer because politics is also beginning to suffocate this office. I wish and pray that I'd be able to face and talk to my boss about my resignation in a very civil manner.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
22 Feb 10
Hope you will be able to find a more suitable job soon. Yes, when the politics started to built in your office, it's not a nice place for working anymore. Try to tell you boss nicely when you hand-in your resignation letter and hope your boss understand why you had to resign from there.
@danitykane (3192)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
hi hunterkim! Honestly, if I can't deal with it the way I wanted to and I'm done with his attitudes and bossiness I will definitely go out and find another job that is not like killing me everyday. Haha! I mean, I will find another work that has good environment on it or at least a place that I will be more happy and productive. I know that my views are critical that I should have deal with "that kind of boss" and see if things will work out but if in my heart I know I can find better and brighter place to work and live up to I would definitely not waste and sacrifice my day to that kind of person. You'll just giving yourself a heart-attack! haha! joke! I've done it before and now I'm happy for where I am. Happy Lotting!
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
I've been thinking of resigning already, but the thing is I don't know how to tell my boss about it. He is not just the reason why i want to resign. It's election season and we, contractual employees, are going to be used for the campaign of our governor as she is running in congress, and her husband taking her place (they just switched places). I really have no plans of getting involved in politics because I hate it a lot. My boss is already busy with the campaign and soon we will be, too. I'm having a hard time figuring out how to tell him about it. I wish I'll have a strong heart then. Thanks for the advice people. Appreciate them a lot. Gonna update on how things will work out.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
I have encountered that kind of boss. The only thing I do is follow, follow and not complain. You'll know if your boss is really getting very unfair regarding work matters but if not I don't really care. I just know I'm doing my job and I'm not going to involve nor think about this person who's gonna ruin my day. I just do it, as long as I know that I could. Now I'm still working for the same kind of people. They will really get on your nerves if you let them and this could affect your performance..
• Philippines
19 Feb 10
This situation is really putting my patience to the test. Guess I just have to understand and understand and understand until I can not understand anymore. Hahaha! Thanks a lot.
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
I've gone through with that , what I did was finished my contract and never back again. I heard she was really pissed off because she thought I'm going to renew my contract but I didn't. Her niece knew why I didn't renew my contract and she said that to her... My ex-boss was really irritating. If she was mad with her personal (unstable love affair with a married person) reason she brought it in the office. Then everybody just tried to be out of sight. Then now she's still like that (I heard from her niece)irritating boss and inconsiderate one. Low salary and no overtime fee even we always cut 4 hours for voluntary work. I mean forced to.
@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
19 Feb 10
if you don't like it, change job, if you can't change job, you can change the way you think about it. what I'm basically saying is that you have the option to do something about or just do nothing; it's all up to you. i recommend approaching your boss and explain to him/her what your predicament and maybe he will explain to you in more detail what's really in his mind. when i have a problem with someone, i would approach that person and see what's up. you never know what a person is really feeling or thinking unless you ask them. but if you can't go directly to your boss, maybe you can find other ways on how to solve your predicament.
• United States
18 Feb 10
I don't quite get the full picture of what you meant by writing, "his true colors came out", but I take it that it was something you felt that was obviously directed toward you in a negative fashion. In cases as this, I suggest talking to another "superior", if there is another, about the situation that bothered you. If there isn't another superior, then I suggest talking to him about the situation when the both of you are in a calm respective. If either of those approaches seem out of reach, then I suggest looking for another job or transferring to another department.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
18 Feb 10
i posted a question like this several years ago because i was having a lot of problems with my boss at the time. most people said go to his superiors and complain, however, he was the owner of the company, but since then, he has retired so fortunately its not as difficult. does he have superiors that you can talk to?
• India
18 Feb 10
my boss is not only the boss but also the proprietor of our small company and I’m his secretary so you can very well understand my condition. He’s as worst as they make bosses…the moment he enters office, its attention for everybody around…he’s a master at finding faults even in the smallest of places blowing insignificant mistakes out of proportion and rubbing it really in and most of the time his decibel level is enough to call in the cops LOL…I try and keep out of his sight as much as I can though being a secretary its never easy. Many times I’ve thought of quitting or gone home crying *shrugs* I really don’t know what else one could do…though I think there are others (even in my office) who can really answer back and that seems to put him in his place for a while but I cant do that.
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
working in the government could really be difficult especially when you get to deal with so many people but, the most difficult part of working anywhere is dealing with your boss. We are (employees) are but small fishes in pond and all we have to do is follow. Now, you are asking how to deal with your irritating boss, first of all, show him or let him feel that you too have an emotion and you get pissed off at times, maybe because of that he will try to refrain from the thing that irritates you now. You can also file a resignation and when he asks for reason you tell him that you are stressed because he stresses you out. LOL! Actually I have done that before, I resigned because of my boss who is really so bossy even at matters not related to my job.