honeymoon days

Philippines
February 18, 2010 4:19am CST
it is said that any relationship's passion is bound to wane after some time. it is always tied up with love making. some say that when love making decreases from 5x a week to just one or none at all, that the honeymoon days are finally over. lovers for a moment float in nirvana that all they ever need is each other. til they wake up one day and realize that the world is a tough world. they start going about their daily lives. doing everything that is convenient. working. money. money. money. til they fall into a married-life-coma. just dead. do you believe that honeymoon days is a good basis to telling if passion is dying down?
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@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
Well I guess it happens to everyone especially for those that need to work after they are married. Well for one I think there are there are more important things in life like earning for the family than love making. I think those are just perks that are there during the early days of your marriage but I learned that it is not all about love making but continued communication can help maintain relationship.
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• Philippines
18 Feb 10
very well said...
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@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
I know being married for nine years have taught me that to continue to make thing work in time you not only base the partnership by physical activities but also must engaged in emotional, and constant communication with one another. This should check and balance each others feelings towards one another. The love making is an important event in a couple but that should not be the basis as a measure to make the relationship working.
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@zed_k4 (17633)
• Singapore
18 Feb 10
9 years married? That's really awesome. A respectable number for sure. I believe that marriage needs work too, to make it work.
@XiaoLin (289)
• Italy
18 Feb 10
Well I don't think you can just apply the same pattern to all couples and relatiornships. There are some (rare) cases that will go on loving each other and making love endlessly everyday and more than once per day. As for me... I had been living with my husband to be for more than a year before marriage, so i had passed the "honeymoon days" phase even before honeymoon. As for now, there would be weeks of loving non stop, and others when we just kiss goodby in the morning... But I must say I wouldn't consider my relation as one of the best example... we are facing some problems at the moment.
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• Philippines
18 Feb 10
hmmm.. thanks for that. we as well are going through a tough time right now. that must explain it... hehehe
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@XiaoLin (289)
• Italy
4 Mar 10
hope things are going better now. Dis you feel that talking about the problem did help in some ways. Sometimes I have discovered that the more you make love the more you like doing it the next time... but if too much time passes between the two... you kind of forget about the feeling. So try to increase the times.... :o)
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
that's exactly how i feel right now. but what if the feeling is not mutual? what if i'm the only one who feels this? how sad is that? then i would have to live forgetting about it.
@zed_k4 (17633)
• Singapore
18 Feb 10
I might not be the most correct person regarding this, and I'm no pro either. But I think you might be right in some point. And I would like to add something too. I believe honeymoon period is when all the lovey dovey period has dissipated for a bit, though it's still there, and that's when reality starts to sink in. But something can definitely be worked out and to continue that passion in marriage definitely.
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
So how can this be achieved? Reality is sinking.
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@zed_k4 (17633)
• Singapore
9 Mar 10
Do you think it cannot be achieved..what are your thoughts on this..
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@mrrome (74)
• Philippines
18 Feb 10
I really don't believe in "HONEYMOON DAYS" I been married for twelve years but still I don't believe in that. making love with my wife is seldom as twice a month, my passion for her grow stronger everyday until the next time we make love again. Sometimes making love everyday keep you cold and unsatisfactory feel it anymore, it will seems like drinking your coffee every morning and brushing your teeth every night; you might never know that it only becoming your everyday routine or nightly regime. Sometimes you're questioning your self that you're doing it because its a part of your job as a partner, a husband or wife, both of you may never knew that the passion and the thrill of love that you desire are all gone until it's too late.
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• Philippines
18 Feb 10
that definitely makes perfect sense...
@rakesh284 (1473)
• India
18 Feb 10
I think this happens with the middle class people most of the time because they are eager to earn more money improve there standard. People who are in love marriage I guess may have love making often in a week or too even if they are busy with there tight schedule. Some people after honeymoon days enjoy every weekend or even sometimes with a trip once in a month to some romantic place to keep their love alive and those days they may go wild also, as this might be after a long time and we known about such desperation among people.
• Philippines
5 Mar 10
I don't fully agree with you on that. But yes of course money is a factor. Because of that silly mean green thing, couples tend to forget that there is an ultimate reason why they are together. There are a lot of things that one can enjoy for free. Not having to worry about money.