Neighbor picking fruit

@teamrose (1499)
United States
February 20, 2010 11:53am CST
I have fruit trees in my yard which is not fenced in. One neighbor feels it is okay for him to just take my fruit. Now while I wouldn't mind him taking a few pieces, when he thinks I'm not at home he will take a whole bag of fruit from the lower branches, making it difficult for me to get my own fruit. He lived in house for years before I bought my house. It seems the lady that owned my house used to allow him to have all her fruit before she died. After she died, he just continued taking the fruit. Now that I own the house, I just don't know how to tell him to leave my fruit alone.
1 person likes this
17 responses
@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
20 Feb 10
I see this as an opportunity for you. Tell him that you are unable to get out there and pick the fruit, or tell him that you don't have time. Make a deal with him that he can continue to get some of the fruit as long as he picks a bag for you as well. Unless you are planning to can the fruit, or make jelly or something out of it, I seriously doubt that you are going to ever use ALL of the fruits your trees produce, and I am sure you would rather see someone get some fruit out of the deal than to have it hang there and go to waste. I am sure there is some way you can come up with a solution...
@teamrose (1499)
• United States
21 Feb 10
My fruit does not go to waste. I just like to choose who can have it. I ship fruit to my relatives all over the country. I have lots of friends right here in Florida without such wonderful fruit bearing trees. Also, I don't want the fruit when I want it, not when he decides to pick. It is my fruit.
• United States
22 Feb 10
well in that case then, you are just going to have to tell him to stop picking it. Then, if he does it again, call the police LOL
@towongfoo27 (2989)
• United States
20 Feb 10
You have every right to speak up for yourself and your tree. Is the tree close to the property line? You could have someone inspect, and then bring it up in court. your neighbor needs to respect your property, as he would want you to respect his. If the tree is on your property, he has no rights to it, or the fruit on it. That is your fruit for the picking! Fence or not, there is still a property line, and when he crosses over it to pick your fruit, he is breaking the law. Do some research online about property laws, and see what you come up with.
@agv0419 (3029)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
You have a right to tell and confront him to stop picking your fruit without your permission. I also hate when someone also picking our chili's and some of our vegetables without our permission. They should respect the owner of the plant and they would ask permission I'm sure the owner going to allow them to pick.
@teamrose (1499)
• United States
20 Feb 10
The tree is solidly on my property, not near the property line. There is absolutely no dispute he enters my yard to get the fruit. I don't want to go to court. I believe if I tell him how I feel he will stop taking the fruit. I just don't want to live next door to a neighbor that hates me.
@MrKennedy (1994)
20 Feb 10
This is quite an awkward situation, I must admit. What it seems you need to do here is confront the man in a friendly but outright manner, telling him that it is okay to take the odd piece of fruit, but try not to take too much as it is your tree. However, since it has sort of become normal for him to view the fruit that the tree produces to belong to him, it may not be as easy as that to get him to stop and could lead to friction between the pair of you, which is the last thing anybody needs with their neighbor
@teamrose (1499)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Exactly that is the problem in a nutshell. I just don't want friction between me and the neighbor. I'm the new kid on the block and don't want people to think of me as a mean lady.
@xenobane (205)
• Canada
20 Feb 10
Is good to share, however if they took your good will for granted then is time to take action. Talking to the neighbour while they are picking the fruit would be good since they are doing it on your territory, and you have the bargain right. If the neighbour is good natured they will understand your concern right away, but if they are the bully type then talking won't result in much difference. The kind neighour: Let them take half of the fruit, and you both can share the tree, which is good for maintain a good relationship. The bully neighour: Build a fence, have a sign, make the fruit untouchable. You like to share with them but they just make your backyard their home, don't let them take your kindness for granted. Hope your neighbour is the kind type, and you both can enjoy the fruit of friendship.
@teamrose (1499)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Good advice. Fences are really an expense I didn't want to have to do right now. However, it looks as if that is what is going to have to happen.
• United States
20 Feb 10
I lived in Miami for 8 years. I had a coco nut tree in my yard on my half of the yard. This man would come with a truxk and offer to pay me to have some of the coco nuts. I did not take the cash from him and let him have what he could reach with that long stick. he came as often as he could. You own the house now and the tree is yours. If taht tree was to break down you would be responsible to remove it from your yard. So that being said you can just tell this amn your the new owners and the fruit is to be left for your family to pick. I would not allow this man to continue to rob your tree. Your paying for fruit while he gets it for free. Now where is the justice in that? Got to going over there now.
@teamrose (1499)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Another person with the right solution which is of course the simple one. Just get some nerve and tell him how I feel. Will do it over the weekend. It's is absolutely the only way to live happily in this house. Much cheaper than getting a fence.
@dragon54u (31615)
• United States
20 Feb 10
The only thing you can do is talk to him. Tell him you are happy to share but he takes all the stuff you can reach and it makes it hard for you to get some. Or offer to trade the fruit to him for something he might have that you would like. What a thoughtless jerk, assuming he has fruit rights no matter who owns the house! Be polite but firm and if all else fails tell him you'll make a trespassing complaint.
@teamrose (1499)
• United States
20 Feb 10
You are right, there is no getting around it. I will have to talk to him face-to-face. I am such a wimp. Everyone seems to agree with what you said.
@jb78000 (15173)
20 Feb 10
if he is doing this when he thinks you are not in he clearly knows he shouldn't be. just tell him to stop taking so much. or you could send him an invoice charging him whatever the supermarket price is for all the fruit he's nicked.
@teamrose (1499)
• United States
20 Feb 10
I like that send him an invoice. I was thinking of just having a BBQ and inviting him over. While he is there in a festive mood, make a comment on how I wish he wouldn't take so much of my fruit because it is hard for me to get the fruit near the top.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
20 Feb 10
If you can't talk to him try a no trespassing sign. We can buy those in Walmart. It wouldn't be friendly to do this without asking him to stop or only take a little first.
@teamrose (1499)
• United States
20 Feb 10
That's the problem, I don't want to offend the neighbor and have to live next door with bad blood between us. I plan to live in this house a long time.
@bin22l (160)
• Guwahati, India
28 Feb 10
Make your neighbour your friend and then talk to him politely. Tell him to pluck some fruit for u too. Slowly construct a fence around your orchards. But be patient to your neighbour and offer some fruits always. This will make good relation with your neighbour for ever.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
22 Feb 10
If your tree overhangs your neighbor;'s yard, he has a right to that much of the fruit, but if he has to walk into or even to reach over the line to get the fruit, he is trespassing. I can understand his feelings, since the previous owner gave him free rein. He just needs to be reminded that your deed did not contain any such stipulations. Perhaps he would take it better if you tell him something like this: I'd appreciate it if you didn't pick the fruit off my trees, as I planned to can it (or make jelly, or whatever).
@missybear (11396)
• United States
21 Feb 10
Maybe post a note on the tree saying "Please take only what you need" or "Please don't take all my fruit since I need it for my own purpose". You can take a bag here and there but it's not right to pick of all your fruit. Maybe buy him a little tree as a hint so he can plant it and grow his own fruit. It might pay of in the long run
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
21 Feb 10
spray the fruit with exlax. He'll stop taking it eventually. Just make sure to wash the fruit thoroughly before eating.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
21 Feb 10
I face the same problem with my neighbors. I have many fruit trees and when it is fruit season, they have no respect for the owner as they will just come in and pluck the fruits leaving me with nothing left. I do not want to offend them and I keep my mouth shut to avoid bad blood. But my young daughter did tell them not to take the fruits without our permission and this is what they told her - It is your land but it is our fruits. It is quite sickening to live around people who doesn't respect others property. I have since sold my land and am happy to live among more civilize people.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
when you bought the house, the lot, then everything inside your yard is already yours.It doesn't matter who planned the tree.If you're shy to confront him about picking too much fruits. Then, you can tell him that if he'll pick fruits from your tree,he can pick for you as well. Because you find it hard to pick from higher branches. To avoid any arguments.
@reneezoso (393)
• India
21 Feb 10
well . .. have a talk with him .. make him realize dats he doins the wrong thing .. well in ma house dere's litchi tree..nd kids from nearby place would come. . and steal away the litchis leaving nothing for us all. . .so we had a chat with evryone one day and he has reduced to mininmal now-a-days...
@assadi (91)
• India
21 Feb 10
Very sad..If you are the owner you should tell him directly.Tell him not to take fruits from tree.Take the fruits that are fell on the ground only.
@rene12 (797)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
It would be difficult if you tell him to stop at that point. If you are the one who planted and took care of it until it can bear fruit, you can easily talk to him and say "it is my tree so don't pick any fruits from it from now on." In your situation, I think you should have trimmed or watered it in order to show that you are the one who is taking care of that tree so you could claim that it is yours.