What do you look for in girls? Does looks and shape really matter?

Philippines
February 20, 2010 12:01pm CST
I'm very curious with what guys usually look for in girls. Do you look for girls that cook? Does it matter if she can't prepare the simplest dishes? And physically, what are the things that matter? When I was a teenager I was really conscious on how I looked and with my figure. I was on a South Beach Diet for 2 years to maintain a gorgeous body but then I grew out of it. Now that I'm a bit older I don't go on those fad diets anymore. I eat whatever I like and I don't exercise anymore. I guess I grew out of that "look good" stage, I found it very superficial. I gained 20 pounds but I really don't mind adding on some weight. But guys in my college are starting to pick on me because I've gotten flabby. Does shape really matter to guys? Besides good personality and attitudes is it a big requirement for guys to have good looking and sexy girl friends? Please share your HONEST thoughts and experiences on this. Would love to hear what you have in mind. Thanks.
13 responses
@phoenix8606 (4978)
20 Feb 10
Hi! Yes, the look and the shape are really important to all of us(men), but for me especially the character of the girls is also important, because I think we can't be with someone, who has an awful for us behavior and even if he/she has the most beautiful body, we will not stand it. I always have liked and still like pretty girls with a great sense of humor, and intelligent too, because the pretty dolls with no brain in their heads are worth for only one thing, and i guess we all know what it is
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• Philippines
20 Feb 10
Hello Phoenix! Thank you for the very honest reply. Indeed, character and personality are essential "requirements" for every good and lasting relationship. It's hard to see yourself being with somebody who's beautiful but relatively unlikeable personaity wise. Anyway, another question, if you don't mind. What makes a girl pretty and what's sexy for most guys? Do you have to have like zero percent body fat, and a toned body? Really embarrassing question but I'd love to know a guy's opinion on this. Thank you!
21 Feb 10
hi! Well, that what makes girls look pretty and sexy in my eyes, is not having no fat, I really don't like skinny girls. What I mostly like in girls, now i am talking about the bodies is there face and bottom :) I like girls with brown or blue big eyes and a good shaped bottom :) maybe it sounds like the common playboys, but I am really not one of them!
@rene12 (797)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
A girl's shape and beautiful face is the only first thing that a guy would look for. I admit that my eyes are always set on it but that is only the first thing I appreciate. Looks doesn't count if you have a crazy attitude like having a mountainous pride that you wouldn't admit your own mistake and others. That is why we guys always try to learn our compatibility with girls through talking and sharing stories. As for me I like girls who are very caring and a big point if she cooks for me especially if she is learning to cook because of me :D In conclusion, looks and body shape just makes a first impression :D
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• Philippines
20 Feb 10
Very nicely said Rene. I guess when it's for long term and real relationships it's the attitude and personality in the end that counts. Looks in the end is very superficial and if given too much importance also equates to a superficial relationship. What you said enlightened me, Rene. Thank you! I can continue eating my favorite food now and not worry about my figure. Being a good girl is enough, lol! Thanks again for the very interesting response!
@cloud31 (5811)
21 Feb 10
Well been asked this questions from HIM..And his answer is "Yes" most guys concern about the shape of their partner(gf)or (wife).Its not really the best criteria they were looking actually for a girls but at least it goes with others.I find when the shape of girls is seems flatters them you can always gain praise from them.I can say that because i can actually feel how he feels especially when im wearing something body fits and the curve is just obviously seen and he would probably say" You look fabulous with your figure in that attire.But of course attitude and good personality still a must for them and with a flattering(not really sexy at least fit)figure..You may get a praise like..You got it all!I'm lucky to have you! Your simply the best!or something like,Im crazy for you..Lol. Happy Lotting and God bless!
@cloud31 (5811)
21 Feb 10
By the way i have forgot to mentioned about will guys mind about"girls who can cook, prepare a simple dishes,do household chores independently..This is also a quiet important my fiancee told me that man have this kind of thinking.They were also looking for a girl who can at least a good wife,not actually in all aspects but at least can prepare a simple dish to her partner, its kind of sweetness for them if you could at least let them have a surprise dinner for two and you do the preparation yourself.And lastly its about hygiene and how girls make look tidy and neat all the time,the way how girls pamper themselves is also a must for man. Im the kind of girl who always want to know about anything into a relationship so everytime i have a questions about what and why with relationship i don't hesitate to asked my fiancee about it.I think its much better to be honest to asked than guess what he likes and what you should be right.Open communication. Nice topic.Have a nice and blessed day always.
@bird123 (10486)
• United States
20 Feb 10
Men are very visual creatures. Eye candy does get things started very quickly, however chemistry will win out in the end. Chemistry is something you can't manufacture so be yourself. Example:I ran into this beautiful blonde model. She was a knockout and we wanted to date meWow!! A funny thing happened. The longer I dated her; the uglier she became to me. I got to where I could not stand to be around her.I broke up with her.All my friends thought I was crazy but there was no chemistry. Now being healthy is best. Go to your doctor and find out what is your best weight for longevity. Keep it there and you will be your best for beauty as well. Be yourself for that is what your true love will find the sexiest!!
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
I agree with you, Chemistry indeed weighs more than looks in the long run. I suddenly realized that these things are probably similar to both guys and girls! Thanks for the response, B and making me realize something new today.
• China
21 Feb 10
This is a very good subject.I do like girls who have good look and good shape.I think that is just the same to all the men left on this earth.This is just nature of men.If I have a lot of money,I will marry the most beautiful girl I like.Of course,good personality and charicter are very important too.Good look and good shape can give people a very good first impression but it can't last for long if you don't have enough content of mind and good personality.
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
21 Feb 10
Well the bottom line for most guys is yes. Of course many guys, not all, are very superficial. One problem incredibly good looking girls have, is being able to sort out the superficial guys from the decent ones. When a girl is only average, more often the guys that are interested, or interested for the right reasons. Not always though. College is particularly bad time because we have taught college age people to not get married. So often guys only get girls, not as a future marriage prospect, but as a trophy and status symbol. I think if we still got married between 18 and 20, college age guys would be far more serious in dating, and not all about such silly stupid things as status among their peers. You are right though, that doing the all body beautiful looking good thing, is superficial. That is true. However there is another side. I do not need a super model. But, there is something distinctly unattractive about someone who doesn't take care of themselves at all. I have one friend who, although she's a nice girl, she is simply unattractive. She's warm and sweet, nice and kind... but she simply doesn't take care of herself. She stuffs food in her face constantly, and she looks like a beached wale. And to me, when someone simply doesn't take care of themselves, it's a sign they are not responsible. So what am I looking for? Decent. Just look nice. Doesn't mean you have to weight 70 lbs. Doesn't mean you need to look like a stick. No ultra anorexic diet. But also, I don't want to marry a teletubby either. And from there, I want to see character. How do you handle being angry? How do you treat people? What someone insults you, how do you take it? Are you truthful? Do you hide stuff? What's your family like? Can you forgive? Do you need to be able to cook? Um. That would be a plus for me specifically, because I can not, as in absolutely not cook. The most simple, easy things, I can find a way to destroy. So you have two people stuck in a house, and neither can cook... microwave meals? Ugh. Now my sister became a house wife, and just as part of her life, she decided to start cooking. And wow, that girl can cook some nice stuff. So, I don't know that being able to cook would be a prerequisite. How you deal with anger, that would be far more important. Forgiveness. One thing I found out, was a research report where they found that happy married couples that stay together 20 or more years, have just as many arguments as unhappy couples that divorce in under 10 years. What's the difference? Happy couples forgive, learn to deal with anger, and move forward. I'm not going to go into a marriage unless it's for life, and if we can't forgive and deal with anger, then you can count me out.
@urbandekay (18312)
21 Feb 10
A pretty face, don't make a pretty heart, and very often the two don't go together. But a pretty face and a nice bum will get a girl noticed, legs help too. Girls that are thin as a rake are unattractive. For a long term relationship what is important is honesty, faith and such qualities. I am fortunate my wife has all. all the best urban
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
Looks and the figure of a girl are the first one to be noticed by us guys. We just get to know the personalities and attitudes of a girl once we were together for a long period of time. If a guy is not married yet, I think good look and a beautiful body does matter to show off to his friends. But once a guy got married, he has to be contented with his wife because he chose her to be with him forever even if she started to gain weight which is natural as you grow older.
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
Well for me I am content with a fat girl with an iQ better than mine. There are a lot of genius fat ladies out there only that they never want to date me. I would want to have a slim girl but most that I have found have no intelligence that the fat ladies possess. Its really hard to find a sexy girl that also has the intellectual strength.
@nykel88 (1003)
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
If you want an honest opinion.. I would be attracted to the their physical bodies. Yes the curves I like them and all the slimness and etc. But that is only physical. I'm more into her attitudes rather than her physical characteristics when it comes for a relationship. If she is one of those sassy type of girls, forget it your already on my X list no matter how pretty you are. Haha
• India
21 Feb 10
most of the guys look out for girls with a beautiful look and shape.. only few will see the heart.. its pretty human nature to..
• Brunei Darussalam
21 Feb 10
I will look for her 1)heart 2)faith 3)look and shape. If all three not come together, then i'll focus to look on her heart, beautiful heart will beautify faith then look and shape
@varron (453)
• Philippines
20 Feb 10
Looks,shapes,personalities,really matters.In selecting partner in life,you should choose not only does who have good looks or body shape but you must have to choose her personality and lifestyle. In other words, she must have to undergo a a lot checks through our mind and heart.