am i good listener??

Philippines
February 21, 2010 7:53am CST
sometimes... am more in talking than listening, i admit. but as time goes by i realize, the reason we have only one mouth and two ear, we need to listen often than talking a lot... well you'll feel safe with it, based on my experience, can you share something that shows the importance of being good listener.
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@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
I think you should answer the Listening Skills test below. My score was 10. I found this at http://www.taftcollege.edu/lrc/quizzes/listtest.htm How Are Your Listening Skills? A Quick Self-Rating Quiz The following quiz is designed to show you what skills are necessary to be a good listener. Answer these questions by grading your Listening Behaviors. Read the question and think about whether the statements are true of you. If the statement is always true of you, select an "Always" from the menu under the column that says "my grade." If the statement is not always true of you, then choose "Sometimes". "Rarely" would indicate that you would rarely or never listen that way. Listening Behavior 1. I allow speakers to complete sentences before I speak. 2. I make sure I understand the other person's point of view before I respond. 3. I listen for the speaker's important points. 4. I try to understand the speaker's feelings. 5. I attempt to visualize my response before I speak. 6. I visualize the solution before speaking. 7. I am in control, relaxed, and calm when listening. 8. I use listening noises such as yes, gee, I see. 9. I take notes when someone else is speaking. 10. I listen with an open mind. 11. I listen even if the other person is not interesting. 12. I listen even if the other person is a moron. 13. I look directly at the person speaking. 14. I am patient when I listen. 15. I ask questions to be sure I understand the speaker. 16. I do not allow distractions to bother me when I listen. GRADING INFORMATION If you have mostly Always (14 to 16) you are an excellent listener. If you marked 11 to 13 statements as Always you are a good listener but could use some help in a few areas. If you marked Always for 7 to 10 statements, you are a fair listener. If you marked Always for 4 to 6 statements, you are a poor listener. Less than 4 indicates an extremely poor listener.
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
wow! awesome very detailed... i agree with you... with the behavior number 14 i failed that... i dont know but i think am not patiently enough to listen. thanks anyway, i will learn from this.
• India
21 Feb 10
ya listening is a good thing that you will get to know many things but i think it depends on times as all the time you cant be without talking and only if you open your mouth you will get what you need so its mutual upto me.happy lotting.
• Philippines
21 Feb 10
i agree! it really depends.. thanks
@LuaCara (50)
• India
25 Feb 10
My experience has been that being a good listener helps us to understand the perspective of the opposite person.We may not totally subscribe to what they are saying but over a time we ourselves become better human beings because we learn to accept that others may have a view point radically different from ours but that does not necessarily make them wrong. It helps to develop patience because nowadays, more often than not, everyone just wants to be be the speaker. In today's age if somebody compliments you for being a good listener you should float on clou