"how are you?" response

@cintoy (1014)
Indonesia
February 23, 2010 4:44am CST
well, anybody never been asked "how are you?" i bet all of you ever been asked this question. So, how do you answer this. is it "fine", "good", "very good" or other phrase. I will mostof the time answer "Excellent" or "Very good" or even "Fantastic" well.. when someone on the phone asked me, i will answer very good and excellent but when i meet someone in person, i will answer fantastic. It can somehow raise my spirit to talk more closely and friendly with him and at the same time, people are feeling that you are very enthusiastic to talk to them. Do you agree? What about you? what do you answer when i ask you: how are you?
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
23 Feb 10
I don't say excellent of fantastic even if I feel so. You can also say 'okay' and that is quite normal to say it if you are not feeling good. If I feel good I will say 'good' for sure or sometimes 'very good'. If I am sick and hospital, I won't say 'fine', I won't say I am bad either. Instead, I will say I am sick and getting better.
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@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
25 Feb 10
Well, the way we respond to this question can really determine our mood for the moment after we said it. When we say, we are Okay, then we should be okay. yet when we say that we are very good (with enthusiasm), we can feel that we are more spirited afterwards. Well, at least that's what i feel.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
23 Feb 10
i am used to reply with "i am fine. thank you". i don't know, maybe that's what i also hear from other people most of the time. well, it really depends in the situation. who will answer good is someone would be asked this question and you are really not in the good mood or not feeling good. to be safe, i am fine would be better. well, thank you for asking.
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• Philippines
24 Feb 10
well, sometimes i wonder if the person was just being formal or simply they were just worried that you've been gone a long time. but i guess it's neither
@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
25 Feb 10
answering "i'm fine" will be very neutral. well, you can either choose to be neutral and lead a neutral day or just be enthusiastic and lead the spiritful day.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Feb 10
a sort of, playing safe.
@kyel_11 (1069)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
i would answer, i'm fine, thank you. how about you? :D that's my usual answer when someone asks me that kind of question. this someone is curious in my condition that's why i also need to care/curious on how he/she is. that's the way it goes for me. happy mylotting
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@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
happy mylotting keyl_11 it's not only about curiosity also, its more to opening better conversation rather than just Hi.
@kyel_11 (1069)
• Philippines
9 Mar 10
right. it makes you more comfortable to a person i think. thanks for the comment. have a nice day
@RobtheRock (2485)
• United States
24 Feb 10
Since things are bad, I say "I'm hanging in there." Then they say, "We all are. That's all we can do." I say this because I'm letting them know that I won't give up, I won't surrender and that I'm fighting to make things good for me and others.
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@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
Keep up the spirit Rob. we are all supporting you. Keep on fighting.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
24 Feb 10
It depends. Acquaintances, Fine and then move onto whatever we need to talk about, same with business people. Friends, I actually tell them how I'm feeling. Which is like my life is up in the air and I'm dependent on trying to figure out how to pay the next bill.
@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
Wow. you sure like to chat with your friends. (no offense) but i feel like when i asked my friend "how are you?" and they end up telling me all the things happening in their life, it would be "something" to me.
@derek_a (10902)
24 Feb 10
Yes, when you get out and about and meet people and chat with them, it can really raise the spirits, especially if like me you work alone a lot. I am a therapist, and people come to me with problems all the time. I recognized many years ago, that I need interaction with other people who are just willing to pass the time chatting about various everyday things. _Derek
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@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
you are a therapist? excellent job. It must be fun listening to various kinds of problems everyday and being able to solve them. You are a wonderful help to them.
• United States
24 Feb 10
everytime somebody asked me how i was i would say im ok, i dont want people feelings badd for me if iam not happy. i rather have a nice conversation rather than the other person feeling uncomfortable due to my problems. so yea your right its always better to say your fine to raise your spirit
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@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
You are so awesome. I bet people who talks to you should be very welcoming you into the conversation. Keep up the spirit h3idimich3ll3
@esjosh (915)
• India
24 Feb 10
Fine, thank you, what about you?
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@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
i'm feeling excellent today. that's nice picture of your profile. lol
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• Mexico
24 Feb 10
Cintoy: Hello. I'm doing great! Thank you! When I saw the title of your discussion I thoght it was going to be about how can someone answer fine when they really are terrible or something like this. Then you really surprised me talking about answering with more enthusiasm and raising my spirit and other person's spirit too. I think from tomorrow on I'll answer in a more possitive way. On the other hand, my husband always answers he is very very good! And he has been these 2 days very sick, in bed, with fever and high blood pressure. But in spite all of this when his friends call he says he is very good! I was thinking, they are going to think he is just pretending to be sick or something if he keeps saying that, but I can see now, he is just trying to be possitive! Well, have a very nice day Cintoy! Libna.
@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
lol... i am not junk discussion poster. lol i am sorry to fear that he is very sick. But he sure have the positive attitude. Have you read "the secret" book. Ask him to apply the method. I believe for his type of attitude, he will be recoverd very soon. But he needs to boost his positive attitude to 1000 percent.
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• China
24 Feb 10
fine thank you
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@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
do you feel just "fine"?? wouldn't you want to be better than just "fine"!
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@phoenix8606 (4978)
23 Feb 10
hi my friend! don't feel hurt about that what I am going to say, but if you want to post quality discussions, you better choose more reasonable questions :) I mean, not like these where people can only answer " yes, I have" or "Fine". Try to be creative ! And yes, i have been asked this question and I just answer "fine, thanks"
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@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
No. I don't feel hurt. I do not really ask for responses about "i'm fine" or that sort of thing. The point i want to make in my discussion here is when you are replying others with positive reponse and enthusiastic, you can change your mood for the day. and it applies to vice versa. happy mylotting
@Rollo1 (16651)
• Boston, Massachusetts
23 Feb 10
This is the one question that always stumps me. The truthful answer could be very long and boring. But I don't want to lie. I usually say "I don't know" or "I think I'm alright, but let me know if you hear anything else". I try to avoid being asked how are you whenever possible, or I cut them off and ask "How are YOU"?
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@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
Lol. that's a funny way of answering this question. (no offense) ^^) Well, you could just say "fine" or "feeling good". I personally think that even though we are in bad mood or in a gloomy condition, why burden others with our problem and condition. We can just brighten the day by saying something good. cheers
@anurag3786 (6275)
• India
23 Feb 10
Yes mostly peoples gave their answers excellent, fine, good, well..etc.. but if you asked me.. then i will gave you answered in my own Hindi language.. "DUAA HAI AAP KI".. means i am good.. as on your pray from God..have a nice day and keep mylotting always..
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@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
25 Feb 10
Ow... i learn new language today. Thanks for your lesson. Wish you excellent day.
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
i'm fine thank you, just a little bit tired but fine. haha, that's a very common answer, most people would say the same even if they are not really feeling well.
@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
25 Feb 10
my suggestion for you... think of you as not a sick/ not really feeling well person. If you still possess the mind of being sick, then your body will react to it and surely become sick. But when you think you are healthy, you can have at least the spirit to do anything and make your body more comfortable.
@elly1384 (353)
• Bulgaria
23 Feb 10
hello "i am fine thank you " is so usual answer that the most of us told and it is like phrase that we don`t need explain to others and just we say it i think you are right on the psyhological level but it doesn`t mean like you understand
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@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
25 Feb 10
Care to explain further what i missed elly? i would be glad to receive your comments about the psychological things in this discussion.
@vinay316 (301)
• India
23 Feb 10
I am fine thank you. By the way what's up with you?
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@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
25 Feb 10
I'm excellent today. Never feel more than this before.
@basqui (3890)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
feelin good, nothing better than today...
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@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
25 Feb 10
Good for you. Cherish everyday to be the best day and you shall be blessed with wonderful day everyday as well. Cheers
@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
24 Feb 10
I think it's better to respond the way you do because other people don't want to hear about your problems. That's what I was taught, anyway. When somebody asks me how I am, I respond with "fine", "okay", or "all right". I think it's all right to respond like this, too. I hope I don't come across like I'm bragging but I've always been considered a friendly person and I do respond when somebody asks me this. So many people will start telling you about their problems when you ask them how they are and I, as well as some other people, don't care to hear about them. Some people will respond with "tired" when you ask them how they are and I don't like to hear that, either. When I go to my doctor and she (I go to a woman doctor) asks me how I am, that's a different story. I tell her what my problems are because that's why I'm there. Kathy.
@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
Yup. it's different from going to doctor. you need to tell all your problems to him, else why do you go there and just answered fantastic. wakaka... can't imagine the doctor's reaction when you said that. rofl
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
28 Feb 10
I think I've only told the doctor one time that I was doing "fine" when really I wasn't, lol! I was going to a man doctor back then and he just looked at me funny like "What are you doing here if you're fine?" It was just always a habit with me to say "fine" whenever anybody asked me this question. I started to tell him about my problems after I said this. I decided from then on that it might not be such a good idea to tell the doctor you're fine when you're not. Kathy.
@nophie (2338)
• Indonesia
24 Feb 10
i always said fine thanks, only that. or just said not bad. :-D.
@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
that's a very neutral answers. playing safe huh? lol
@nophie (2338)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
yes, just like that. because i think it just preambule question
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
i'd say, "i'm doing good." but i guess it depends on whom i'm talking to. if i'm really close to the person asking me that question, i'd usually talk way too much than just saying i'm good or i'm doing good. :D
@cintoy (1014)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 10
hahaha you are just funny. Nice to meet you yushen. so, usually what do you talk about when you are talking to those you are close with??
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
nice meeting you too. :) well i'd usually follow up the "i'm doing good" answer with "hey, have you seen those blah blah blah" or "have you heard of the latest on blah blah blah" :D you know, i'm talkative, so i'm not really contented on just saying "i'm fine" to those who really knew me. :D