do you check your partner's mobile phone?
February 23, 2010 1:49pm CST
hi. even though you believe that you love your partner a lot..but do you still have little fear that he/she might not be as loyal as you think..to clear your doubts, do you spy on your partner..do you check his/her mobile's call history or messages...
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 10
ksmita no indeed if he had had a mobile phone which he did not ]I still wo uld not check. we were married for 43 years a nd if he was going to cheat he would have done so long before we were getting elderly. trust was a given thing between us, he would not even go through my handbag unless I specifically asked him to bring me something out of it.And I would never have snooped through his wallet. we trusted each other and we kept that trust. we meant our wedding vows, unlike so many people. If one is that doubtful maybe you should have had second thoughts before you ever became partners. trust is essential.
23 Feb 10
He doesn't have one but,if he did I wouldn't touch it and i wouldn't expect him to touch mine either.We have been married for 32 years but,I wouldn't go to his wallet and he wouldn't go to my purse. We respect each others privacy.Just because we're marrieddoesn't mean we have to give that up. If he was gonns go I think he would've done it by now
14 Mar 10
Hello ksmita, I dont check the mobile phone of my boyfriend. However my boyfriend sometimes asked me to answer some of his calls or text. But I didn't browse to any other things. Sometimes he even asked me to reply to some of his emails. In that I can say that he trusted me fully because he let me have his phone and emails. So, if your boyfriend trust you so much, I guess the least and best thing you can do is to trust him also. Give him your full of trust just like what he is doing to you. Just like what cloud31 mentioned we should respect the privacy of our partners. I aslo agree to what tamisma mentioned that checking the phone of our boyfriend doesn't feel any good. In order for a relationship to grow and stay long we just have to trust our partners. For us also to have a peaceful life let's just trust one another. I know its not easy but if you like that your relationship to stay long then why not give your full trust to you boyfriend. Anyways its for free..
24 Feb 10
No. My wife does that well, I can't say spying she openly cross examines me on where I had been, when I go home a bit late. I never do any such thing. I don't suspect now. Considering the fact of our age group I don't do it. Why, even in our younger days I was most reassured. It is true that this might be seen by her as indifference!?! But the way she queries after as silly as even a customer luncheon, triggers my anger response more than anything else. She would want to know things like whether there were any women in the party and might want to know the names of people on the party. All this incenses me no end and we end up fighting as much as to bring down the world. Sad!
23 Feb 10
No matter what, that fear is always there, but by checking his mobile wont make the fear go away. If I did that what would that say about me? who's not to be trusted him or me going behind his back checking up on him? No... if he has to cheat on me he will do it no matter if I check his phone or not. No one would be that stupid to cheat and leave the messages for evidence. I wouldn't feel that good if I checked his phone.