Bestfriend or Girlfriend/ Boyfriend?

Philippines
February 24, 2010 3:44am CST
Is it possible that the most important to you is bestfriend rather girlfriend/ boyfriend? For me yes. I really don't know about it, I can cancel a date to my GF just to be with my bestfriend. Can anybody help me? I really need some advice.
4 responses
• India
24 Feb 10
No my dear friend your wrong that you gonna cancel date with your girlfriend because for friend. Why don't you do this call your girlfriend and friend together and give time to both of them thats would be better for.
24 Feb 10
ya i think it is good solution for this good suggestion
@Lata_45 (217)
• India
24 Feb 10
well i have to say that never compare any human being specially in relationship. friends and special some one both are equally important what is more important is trust and understanding between you your frnds as well as bf or gf thus they will also understand
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
24 Feb 10
If my friend needed me for some important reason then yes I would have canceled my date...OR if my bf and I were having a tiff/fight then I would cancel and spend the time with my friend....But, I wouldnt cancel for no good reason just to chill with my friend instead..Just like I wouldnt cancel plans with my friend just to be with my bf... Which is more important to me? Neither..they are EQUALLY important.
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Hi aradaza, First of all, can I ask if your best friend is a boy or a girl? Canceling a date with your GF to be with your best friend is definitely a big no-no in a relationship. You made plans with your gf first, so why would you cancel on her? She would definitely be hurt on this. I know friends are important, but you also need to put boundaries and limitations on "just friends" especially if you have a partner. It happened to me once, my bf and his girl best friend are totally close and sweet, I got jealous. I told my bf I'm hurt because it's almost like he treated us alike, there's no difference whose the girlfriend or whose the best friend. I also told him things are not the same anymore because you are in a relationship, you're not single anymore, so always consider your partner's feelings. If you feel that your best friend is much more important than your girlfriend, maybe your not ready to be in a relationship. It's not wrong to hang out once in a while with your best friend, but don't cancel on your gf because of that. If you can't prevent this, then hang out with both of them.