forgiving spouse after std?

United States
February 24, 2010 11:03am CST
A friend of mine recently found out her husband cheated. They have been together for 3 years and of course it is hard for her. She went and got tested earlier his week and found out it is possible she has an STD now because of her hubby's actions. They gave her meds and luckily it is something that can be fixed. She gets her results back later this week. I cant imagine what she is going trough. It really makes me think more about my safety. Could you forgive your partner if they were to have brought something home to you?
5 responses
• United States
24 Feb 10
It would be hard, but it would depend on the situation. Did her husband tell her that he cheated before she went to go get tested, or did she sense something wrong and go herself. If I was in that situation, I would work to forgive him if he came to me before I got tested. It shows that he was being proactive, and actually wants to correct what's wrong. If I had to find out from the doctor instead, I wouldn't be able to forgive him. It would feel like he was still trying to cover things up, and not interested in correcting the behavior.
• United States
25 Feb 10
she actually found a video of it in his old phone. he had just canged phones and she was cleaning out the old phone and found the video..
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• United States
25 Feb 10
Nope, couldn't do it then. If he is bold enough to take video and have it saved on his phone, not to mention that she had to snoop to find out, there's no true telling what this man is into. What can be said is that he has no respect for her, to subject her to this without her knowledge. Nope. Couldn't forgive him at all. Better to let him be the dog he is by himself.
• United States
25 Feb 10
I think this is one of the things that I could never forgive and forget, it is hard enough that the husband would cheat, but it is even worst that he jeopardize the health of the wife, that is the ultimate selfish and stupid act, fortunately it is something that can be fixed, but what about if it would be something that can't, some of those diseases cause infertility and put her life in risk, this is one of the reasons why you can't forgive a cheating husband, because it is not only the emotional scars that something like this leave, it is also that can cause irreversible damages in the help of the other person.
@rosegardens (3044)
• United States
25 Feb 10
I would forgive, eventually. Infidelity is not something that I can overlook easily and if my husband cheated on me it would be over. Hopefully I would see the signs before we were married that he is a cheater. Once a cheater always a cheater unless they truly reform. How often does that happen?
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
24 Feb 10
One thing is very certain, she must pack his bags for him. What is the next thing she will get after his little playing game? Really, why can't people think? I really hope she will be allright and she just have to leave him. She will never know what he will carry home from his next journey. TATA.
@myramae19 (667)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
Probably I can forgive but never forget. but, I can assure you this won't happen to me cos my husband is a "one woman man" If I were with your friend situation, I would give a second chance,especially if we have kids but if he did it again, then I won't think twice.. he fooled me ones then I won't allow it again.