The last thing/event that made you feel like the world was on your shoulders...

@AmbiePam (45057)
United States
February 24, 2010 5:02pm CST
I was just wondering what was the last thing, event, or maybe even person, that made you feel like you were carrying the world on your shoulders? Was it something that hit you out of the blue, or had it been coming and it finally sank in...I guess this discussion can be interpreted differently, so I'd love to hear your own experiences, please.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
24 Feb 10
With me that would be worrying about my mom in her condition. Hoping that she will get better and come back home.Also worrying about getting household bills payed every month. It does feel like I am carrying the world on my shoulders with so much going on right now.I think this is what you are talking about.
@AmbiePam (45057)
• United States
25 Feb 10
Yes indeed. And I continue to pray for your mom as well. I really do.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
25 Feb 10
Thanks you very much for your prayers
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
25 Feb 10
Well since you know me fairly well you know all the "fun" stuff I've dealt with in the past, like my winner year of 2006 when it was one thing after another, like being threatened with eviction due to the overpopulation problem of cats my mother created, then trying to place the extra kitties with rescuers, then court appearances, THEN my mother dying while we were still in the middle of the court case. Oh and don't forget early 2007 when SSI cut my benefits completely and I had only $5.71 to my name...and then......uh. This year has proved challenging as my benefits were going to be cut off beginning next month but since I had that representative from my Congressman's office help me not only were my benefits reinstated but my Medicaid. I don't MIND being and living alone, but just sometimes I wish I could crawl into bed, stay there all day and not do a darn thing and have someone else handle things for awhile. Like now I'm having my issue with my DSL service--for some reason my automatic payments weren't registering, so just I had only just gotten a letter stating if I didn't send a check (they weren't accepting on line payments) by Feb 27th my service would be suspended and maybe cut off...gee, they gave me a lot of notice..NOT. So today, I went to the PO to mail the check via Express Mail (at a small fortune)--but this way it'll arrive before noon Thurs...thing is I sure didn't want to go out today as I just plain wasn't feeling too great--like I said, I really just wanted to stay in bed today, but who the heck would have mailed the check? Pyewacket or Kissy? (grins) So as lousy as I felt went and thankfully the PO wasn't very crowded
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@AmbiePam (45057)
• United States
25 Feb 10
I guess it is always possible I'm wrong on this, but you seem to handle stress better than anyone here.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
25 Feb 10
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@AmbiePam (45057)
• United States
25 Feb 10
You're still sane, and not many of the rest of us are. Although I'm not sure if we all know we're crazy. Well, at least I know I'm crazy.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
25 Feb 10
I have had this for 2 years. My oldest son is not having anything to do w/me. I have not seen him since lasy may. I never get to see my grandaughter either & they live about 2 miles from me if that far. It breaks my heart every day that goes by.
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@AmbiePam (45057)
• United States
25 Feb 10
I'm so sorry.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
25 Feb 10
tHANKS aMBIE, ME TO.
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@Hatley (155035)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Feb 10
hi ambiepam well its because my son is still out of work and I feel sad for him and for me,as it seems hopeless my ever getting out of here and back in the apartment we once had, i mean another one like it, because renting apartments here takes a lot of money. I know its best I am here but I do not have to like it if I do not, and I really dont much, except I am thankful i have a place to stay, but never ever in my wildest dreams would have opted to live in a retirement center, and now with all the programs gone because of lack of funding its a boring tiresome retirement place. I just need a few rays of hope, something substantial to build on but have not got them yest.
@AmbiePam (45057)
• United States
25 Feb 10
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
25 Feb 10
just another stay/visit from the other grandma. setting here doing nothing and think she is to be waited on. No offer of money to help with extra lights water and all them bills plus her other son here too so thats 2 extra people we are trying to take care of for how long this time I dont know as they throu us are looking for a place to live. Lord I hope it is soon!
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• China
25 Feb 10
Hi,ambie long time no see.Actually,my boyfriends hasn't graduate from university and wondering if he can get a job after school,even how to spend the difficult time between us.Because unemployment is high.Meanwhile I'm confusion about myself,where my future ,what can I do?I don't know that.Oh,perhaps there is not an answer to your question.lol....
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@sreesai (216)
• India
25 Feb 10
yes, I felt the same when my sister's husband was bedridden due to health problem. He is a fatherly person to me, he calls me as his daughter and even wanted to adopt me. But by God's grace he is perfectly normal and in good health now.
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@onPTCmom (15)
• United States
26 Feb 10
My husband used to play dota. He can't sacrifice his pleasure even if we are on a very tight budget. We are paying for our house amortization. Our salary is our only source of income and it is just enough for our monthly consumptions. Everyday my head is turning on how can I convince my husband to sacrifice those things that are not important.
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• Canada
26 Feb 10
What is dota?
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@AmbiePam (45057)
• United States
27 Feb 10
I can't imagine.
• United States
1 Mar 10
Sometimes when I think about all the people who rely on me on a daily basis, it can feel like the world is on my shoulders........sometimes I feel like im the glue that holds my family together and not just with M and the girls.....but my whole immediate family.
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@AmbiePam (45057)
• United States
1 Mar 10
Knowing everything you have been through, everything you are responsible for, it seems to me you really are the glue that holds your family together. Certainly not fair though.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
26 Feb 10
When I was told I would never work again It came out of the Blue it was not just the world on my Shoulders it was also my world falling apart
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@AmbiePam (45057)
• United States
27 Feb 10
Beyond life changing.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
I guess the last time I felt like that was around the end of last year when I was caring for my dying cat. I had him for thirteen years, I loved him so much and we’d been through a lot together so every day was hard taking care if him as he vomited, messed on the floor and was refusing to eat. Every day he was getting thinner and thinner and his fur was falling out. It was so sad and yes I truly felt I was carrying the world on my shoulders. When he finally passed I still felt sad but relieved that it was over. In know there are people that may say ‘it was just a cat’ and others who have lost loved ones and that is so much worse but to me it was a very painful experience all the same.
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@AmbiePam (45057)
• United States
28 Feb 10
People who say it's just a cat or it's just a dog, have NO idea.
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@towongfoo27 (2989)
• United States
25 Feb 10
One of the things that makes me feel like the world was on my back is every single morning of my life, my mom has to call. Sometimes it is nice to talk to her, and other times, I end up feeling like a small inept child after our conversations. I just get stressed out talking to her, because it seems we pretend we are firend when we really don't know that much about each other in our daily lives. I also hate it when she talkas about the same G$% D#$% thing everyday! the conversation just seems to drone on in my ear, so not wanting to be outright rude to my mother, I patiently listen for as long as I can. It is funny, because on the rare days when she doesn't call, I feel a lot lighter like today. I almost feel freer to, like she isn't still keeping tabs on my every single development(especially at age 36). I deal with it by going for many walks after I get ticked about it, for sometimes I feel manipulated by this women. Is that so wrong? I just get stressed out when she calls, and sometimes talking to her adds ot my own "load" to make me feel the world is on my back. Time for some boundaries lessons and books, yes? Yet I think she is lonely, too, for she has lived alone for over 22 years. what's a girl to do?
@AmbiePam (45057)
• United States
28 Feb 10
I wish I could tell you how to handle that, because boy is it a mess! I mean the last thing you need is her mess to become your mess, but if she doesn't have anyone...Still, since it is affecting you so profoundly, is it possible to avoid talking to her every day?
@irisheyes (4375)
• United States
26 Feb 10
Probably the worst was the time about eleven plus years ago when I thought I was losing my business. I was so drowning it debt, I stopped opening mail (just new bills) and answering the telephone. In fact, the only reason I took the phone call that ultimately bailed me out was that I figured it might be my last since the phone was soon to be shut off. I think I was very, very depressed and felt trapped. I had insomnia and walked around the house all night long and I was starting to feel a heaviness in my limbs that I've read can be a sign of serious depression. I'm sure there have been other tough times but nothing comes close to that one.
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• Canada
26 Feb 10
With the housing situation we are in (might get thrown out because the owner of the house we are renting is up for sale), with hubby losing his job and us being on UI, and with us recently having another baby has definitely made it an extra stressful year! Don't get me wrong the baby part is great I love my girls to pieces, but the extra money that you don't really have that has to get spent on diapers, formula, baby food, etc.
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
25 Feb 10
It was a time when I was trying to pay the bills just on my salary alone when my spouse was out of work. I really don't like having that amount of stress and worry on my shoulders.
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