Importance of Marriage: Let us talk about it, Before & Now!

Philippines
February 24, 2010 9:28pm CST
My recent discussions, as it reach far beyond the topic, leads me to invite you again in this very important discourse of the day. This time, we are going to talk about marriage. Is their any difference of this 'fixture' from yesterday down this very hour? A. To get started, we are going to define this term first. 1. The Legal definition of marriage is: A contract made in due form of law, by which a free man and a free woman reciprocally engage to live with each other during their joint lives, in the union which ought to exist between husband and wife. 2. A general definition of marriage is that it is a social contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically and emotionally. 3. Cultural definition of marriage: that it was related to the difference between a wife and a mistress. B. Now this time, we have to talk about the importance of marriage. "Many people believe that the so-called “nuclear family,” consisting of a father, a mother, and children, are the basic building blocks of society. It is in the family that children learn to become citizens; it is in the family that children learn about relationships; it is in the family that children learn about what is expected of them in society, how to act and how to be. Central to the nuclear family is the traditional idea of marriage, consisting of one man and one woman in a monogamous and permanent relationship." C. Now let us all ponder with what's the experts say about the importance of marriage these days. "So, society has spoken: to the average person, marriage is fairly irrelevant. It’s not that we are particularly opposed to the institution – it just doesn’t much interest us any more. The vast majority believe that there is no difference between being married and cohabiting, even when raising children, and two thirds believe that divorce can be a positive step." D. Now, it is time to refresh our mind, and ponder again... WHAT is your OPINION? What is the importance of marriage for you? How do you value it? What are the big difference of this before and now? References: 1. http://www.lectlaw.com/def2/m087.htm 2. http://marriage.about.com/od/historyofmarriage/g/marriage.htm 3. http://www.flutterby.com/archives/comments/10375.html 4. http://www.thelaboroflove.com/articles/why-is-marriage-important-to-society/ 5. http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article3265420.ece
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• United States
25 Feb 10
I find no importance of marriage in my life. I never will marry becausei never wanted children. To me having childen is the Only reason to marry. I never asumed that I would be " Emotionally united" with the man I married. And I defintiely never thought we would live a " monogamous and permanet life " together. I am very old fashioned when it comes to marriage. It shouldn't be based on love but family obligation. Two people, no two Families come together to further their furute by having kids. If there is love , that 's fine but it isn't necessary. that's why Marriage has no importance to me. As for needing a nuclear type of family to raise childen who will " about what is expected of the in society' I think that's flase. Thee are many grown children of single parents who are a gift to the society. And there are many evil people who Had a loving mother And father at home.
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
I could not disagree with you my friend... You are entitled to that... you see marriage on that light. For me, marriage has value if the two individuals who decided to form a legal family in the eyes of there society have an unbreakable love, but if it would just lead to separation/divorce, then what on earth they decided to get married after all?
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• United States
25 Feb 10
I must have been either a unhappy wife or a very happy mistress in a previous life. I Never thought of mixing love with marriage. I Do believe in a true , unbreakable love betwen two people but mariage seems to turn that love into indifference sometimes. I would never want that to happen to me and my love.I have always said the love of my life must have the same view of marriage or we will tear each other apart. Him , Wanting to prove his love by wanting to marry me and me Provig that I Do love him by refusing to marry him.
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
I do respect yours my friend... I am a little bit confuse, I got it then, I think I should have asked you to tell me more about your story... it is just so different... something unique in it... I have known that marriage become irrelevant to others because they would reason out that separation would be next, so better not, or something like that... However, I think if the man convinced the woman to marry him because he wanted to prove it to the woman his true love, then the latter would usually accept it. Yours is unique dear.
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@Raniaa (66)
25 Feb 10
y marrige very importan and make planing ripe,because we marrige not to once in life but for life.. i think marrige very importan because 1.increase a decline 2.the unite two human etc my value.. 1.understand with couple 2.same care 3.and intervalmutual respect. maybee always there and care for couple cause i not yet marrige
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
Wow Raniaa, you made it... I agree with you...
@Raniaa (66)
25 Feb 10
thanks what you certai married?
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
What do you mean my friend?
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
marriage is a commitment it is an expression of letting the other person know and the public that you commit yourself to him/her. it is the most profound way of saying how much you love the person- and how much you want to be with that person as long as the bond is there. the importance of marriage would depend on your perspective on it. i believe on being married once for i know it would mean so much - and it would ask so much - but i don't close my mind that not all who get's married do it for the purpose that i have above - that some care less about the sanctity of marriage.
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
Very well said my friend... those are nice words and insights from you