SCARS...what do you have?,was it physical or emotional scar/s ?

By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39142)
Philippines
February 24, 2010 11:30pm CST
Hello dear mylotters,mere bhai/s,sister/s and friends, Are you healing from emotional scar? Mending a broken heart,or betrayed by a friend or family? How do you cope up with it? Do you have any physical scar that reminds you how did it happen,or how did you get that scar/s? Physical or emotional scar(s),both hurt us,in different ways,different aspect. Visible and invisible scars,that give us some lesson,give us something to remember...not to do the same thing again. But,do we really learn from it? Share your comments dear friends...and have a good day always
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17 responses
@voldrox (7191)
• India
26 Feb 10
hi jaiho! well i have a lots and lots of physical scars, reminds me of what happens only to make me smile but emotional scars :( i guess i don't have but i can totally understand how painful it could be :( when someone tends to break trust that doesn't come easy, anyways that small thing has been healed, it was only my silly anxious nature that i said something something to my very close friend and she was hurt. and then i came to know i was all wrong and i was so mean to her and i had to talk over it for long, i am the guilty one here but everything got well after an hour of conversation. i can feel how bad it could be to break trust and to get hurt, i am lucky i didn't have big issues lately, i tend to get emotional too, and emotional scars take lot more time to heal, i laugh seeing my physical scars but i guess no one can laugh at the emotional scars or in case sometimes to feel light we do laugh at our past :( .. all i know is that emotional scars i can't handle them, it would take a great deal of time for me to actually move on.. hmm.. anyways, have a nice day jaiho.
@voldrox (7191)
• India
28 Feb 10
:) well i am having good days, you too.. yes i also do mistakes, i have learned to trust, it is only the fear earlier coz i was trying to trust her and now i do she is a nice friend and we will be good friends for long long time to come :) i fear of getting hurt and so i said somethings to her and she was also sad about it and i said it's ok i only tell you openly coz she is very close to me and i don't want to lose her, she said she too doesn't want to lose me, so now i trust her and won't blame her much it was only my stupid head and i doubted her. .. sometimes even we hurt others for the fear of getting hurt...
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
2 Mar 10
absolutely,we hurt others by fearing that we will get hurt. this happens to me either...not giving others a chance,becoz,i am afraid to get hurt. have a good day always
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
hello voldrox, Certainly my dear...we can laugh at our physical scars when we see those ones...but no one can ever laugh with emotional scars. Maybe we can laugh with our past...some funny memories with the person who also hurt us emotionally,but,when it comes to remembering the reason why and how we've beed hurt...i don't think we can even smile either. Maybe a wry smile, a smile with bitterness. Trust should not be broken in any relationship. It would be very hard to forgive when someone we love the most break our trust,so,we should always be honest with them...at least do our best to keep the honesty. Thanks for your response and sharing your thought my dear...have a good day always
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• Philippines
25 Feb 10
I have a big scar on my lower back. I definitely learned something from that. never play paper dance when you are near a mirror. LOL. I was I think around 10 that time, and we were playing with my cousins. My cousin tried to pick me up, but she lost her balance and we fell on their dresser. I broke the mirror, I had a big cut on my back, it was bleeding so bad, but then it stopped bleeding and after a few hours the wound closed, but the scar is really visible.
• Philippines
26 Feb 10
Yup that's true. I never joined another paper dance after that. I think my cousin was feeling guilty because of what happened, but it wasn't really her fault. I mean it's an accident. Have a nice day.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello Ingking, That's too bad...but thanks that you are not badly wounded. Paper dance...so,i guess you never ever participated in a paper dance contest anymore,since it always reminds you of that bad accident. You are still so lucky that you are not injured much or broken a bone. Some incident like this lead into more serious injuries or even a broken bone. And i guess,your cousin also had some trauma after that accident. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@zoey7879 (3092)
• United States
25 Feb 10
I would say that the biggest emotional scars I have are from the lack of substantial relationship with my family and a family member having been murdered. I'm not coping so well with either... Physically, I have a LOT of scars. I have three from surgery, a few from bike accidents and the like, but most of them were from getting scratched, primarily by a cat. I have a skin condition that causes this, worse so with cats because I'm allergic to them. Even the lightest scratch from a cat leaves a scar :/
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello zoey, I am so sorry to hear about your experiences. Emotional scars will always leave us scars that only time can heal. We will never forget how did it happen,or,who is the person who caused that scars. Yah...we can forgive the people behind those scars,but the event sometimes flash in our minds that gives us a sudden struck of pain. I hope someday,you will be able to cope up with those scars. Not totally..but at least,you can find time to move on,and smile to the world...how lucky you are
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
I have a physical scar on my knee. It's the same color of my skin so it's hardly noticeable but when you take a look at it, you will see that it's quite big. This scar is a product of my recklessness during childhood. I used to play at our front yard, near the thorny rose bushes. One day, I actually fell on the bushes and got pricked by the thorns of the roses. The thorns left several wounds, some are light and one is deep enough to cause a big scar. Lesson learned: Stay away from the rose bushes. LOL
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello arystine, There is another lesson to be learned too... Stay away from those beautiful roses ....coz beauty is a good deceiver(hahhaha) Good for you,at least,your scars looks same color like your skin my dear. Some people got visible scars that really gives an ugly outcome. Thanks for sharing your rose bushes accident
• United States
25 Feb 10
I have both, emotional scars and physical scars also, my physical scars are from a couple of surgeries that I had in my right tight, because I was born with hip displatia, which means that basically the femur is not well attached to the joint ( I am sure a doctor will explain this better), I had those surgeries many years ago but I still have the scars, fortunately I can walk like a normal person now. I also have emotional scars, everybody has been cheated, left, and all that, but the key is just to keep going, and be optimist in life, and don't let the life problems makes you cynical.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
hello laura, You were right,emotional scars should not make us immobile,but to make us stronger than before. Sometimes emotional scars will teach us how to become a better person,and,will bring out the best of what we can do. Sometimes,emotional scars doesn't always end up with negative result but also with a positive one. Physical scars will always remind us of how did we acquired the scars,it could be funny or sad experience. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@Mady2791 (545)
• United States
26 Feb 10
I had some scars in arm from when I had chicken pox for years and for reason when I reached adulthood they went away..go figure.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
27 Feb 10
hello Mady, yah,sometimes chicken pox scars goes away when you had it at early age. but when you had it during adulthood or older years...it would surely leaves scars unless you will take care of your skin or use some special cream for scars to lighten. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
• India
25 Feb 10
I think everybody has physical or emotional scars. As we move on in life, we come across many situations which leave their imprint on us…mentally or physically. I too have my share of physical scars…on the inside of my right shin bone…the skin has burnt marks from a bike accident…part of my lips and my chest has burn scars from hot oil, my left knee has a scar when I slipped and fell. Emotional scars are also there…my inner demons and nightmares which I can never seem to overcome.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello friend, Your accidents shows both physical and emotional scars. The reason why you get those physical scars also leaves mark on you,emotionally. It's kind of trauma,that gives you nightmares. I understand the reason why it gives you a hard time to overcome those feeling of uneasiness. The visible scars always give you the fear..and always remind you of those scary incident. As long you bore those scars on your skin...it will take time for you to overcome those fears. The only remedy is...to give yourself back your confidence...fight those fears(demons and nightmares) face your fears...never give up,never surrender. Life is full of trials...and trials are not to destroy us,but to build us strong. Smile and face the world with pride my friend... You are not alone...everywhere,everyone has their own fears of demons and nightmares(in many other forms...could be literally or imaginary ones) Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Feb 10
i have lots of them in my face, from pimples. just like ybon, i don't want to be emotional this time. i have a lot of problems facing right now and i don't want to recall how i got emotional and physical scars that i have now.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello neil, hmnn...2 down(don't want to get emotional ) Your pimples...well,too bad,but you can have some remedies for that my dear and i bet you know some ways to make with the finishing touches(just kidding) Ok...maybe next time you can start your own emotional topic (duh!!!) kisses to zayzay
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
25 Feb 10
Hi Sis, Well to share a physical scar I have one on my chin. I had a terrible accident on my motorcycle. Emotional scars, well I have lost the count.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello dear bhai, Uh uh...my son also had same experience and got scars on his arms and knee. Then,you must take extra careful when driving your motorcycle again dear. I had my scar on my forehead when i fell from our stairs,i was about 7 years old(hahaha) Uhmnn,emotional scars...you have lost the count?..ohhh...too many to count na is it? Well...same with me too..that made us brother and sister
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• Philippines
25 Feb 10
speaking of scar i have mine that serves as my remembrance from my childhood. i used to be an active child. i can climb trees since we have lots of trees in the province, i can go biking at an early age, go mountain climbing with my cousin an etc. and so i got my big scar in my right legs from mountain climbing when one of the branches of bamboo cut into half and accidentally cut my legs. bamboo is actually sharp. and so i have a cut there lol but not that big just 1 inch but its very deep. i was unconscious that time and when i wake up, my cousin already brought me to the river to stop the bleeding.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello home, You are really an active youth,back in your time. And your scar shows how active you,always reminds you of your adventures too. I also climb trees when i am a kid...and also do biking(until now,i love biking a lot) That's good to know that,it doesn't leave a bad mark on your legs Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@danitykane (3183)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
Hi jaiho2009! You have a very emotional topic today, aren't you?! For me, physical scar is nothing compare to emotional scar. Like the literal scar that we got, it takes time for it to heal. Emotional scar and heartaches needs time to mend and sometimes it took years and years for you to actually recover from those hard experiences. Yes, I think every person learn from it. One way or another we experienced to be hurt that it made a mark on our hearts and makes us who we are right now.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello danity, Yes my dear,after so long again,here i start another emotional topic(whew,i don't know how and when i could get over with too much emotion) I am thankful that mylot serves as my shock absorber and friends like you keep coming and get electrocuted too(hahaha) Certainly dear...emotional scars takes time to heal..only time can tell. Even if we tried to forget,memories keep coming back,it seems that,it keep us reminding not to do the same mistake again. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
For me I have visible scars it is hard to get it I feel scared it can have many blood after all.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello ebuscat, How did you get too many scars then my dear? Anyway,visible scars are bearable than those of emotional ones. Have a good day always
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
Hi haiho, Yes, I do have one emotional scar caused by my special someone 2 years ago. I still used to have nightmares and tend to relieve the incident over and over, so it took a while to heal. I can't say I'm completely healed, but I am doing my best to stay positive and just trust him. Most of our wounds heal,leaving nothing but a scar. But I admit there were times although the cut's long gone, the pain still lingers in my memory...
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello princess, Precisely,when the hurting was made by someone we love and trusted half of our life,it would surely takes time to heal. The pain sometimes suddenly struck as if it wanted to freshen again. Battling with pain caused by our loved ones is one of the hardest battle to fight for. No matter how we tried to forget,and buried those memories,there were instances that,it flash in our mind esp when same situation happen or we ever heard. Just keep the courage to hold on and let loose ends naturally. Thanks for sharing and have a good day always dear
• New Zealand
25 Feb 10
I don't have any emotional scars BUT I do have some worm-like scars on my elbows. I got them when I was running from a person who had issues...mentally. It was a wet day and so I slipped and scraped my elbows clean...I'm still angry at that poltroon... GRRR :( MY BEAUTIFUL ARMS-RUINED!!! WAHHHHH. perhaps , I can get surgery in the future for it...
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello Om, I'm sorry about your beautiful elbow(ahaha) Even me,if that happens to me,seeing those scars will always remind me of the person who caused those scars. And surgery is not cheap...well,i will find the person who cause those scars and let him/her pay for the surgery Thanks for sharing your experience and have a good day always
@Katie2009 (144)
• China
25 Feb 10
Actually I have scars both physically and emotionally. I have to admit that I was naughty in childhood and act like a follower of my cousin with relatively weaker body.There is a big scar on my leg which I got from falling into a pool scratched by rocks by dogging my cousin.He went down to the bottom of it to check the depth while I rolled into it. Shame~And I have another scar on my forehead too.You are right,again I got it by hitting my head on a small bicycle.From then on,I become more and more quiet. As to my emotional scar,most of them were caused by friends who now majority of them remain to be my friends till now.To be honest,I probably inherit my father's stubborn character and adopt my mother's aggressive temperament,a combination of both. Very often I stick to one aspect and never give up my stand,which irritate my friends a lot,but as soon as I realize my mistakes I would go to them to apologise. That is how I see reconciliation whereas some friends of mine handle conflicts in different ways. They wait for others to suurender first even though it is their fault. It is not enjoyable experience in the long run. So a lot of adjustments and adaptation are required to help people grow. I learn to encounter and get well with people of differentiated backgrounds and tempers which I believe will greatly help me for the rest of my life.I really appreciate all that experience. Take care!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello Katie, I understand about your character. My son is 14 years old,and got his motorcycle last year. I always asks him to drive carefully,but,he doesn't listen at all. Until one day,he came home with scratches and a torn pants. He dived when his motorcycle hit a small rock on the road that cause the motorcycle to swerve. I thought he had learned his lesson,but i was wrong. Again,he did another mistake when he tried another adventure. He clings to a moving car(driven by his friend)while he is riding his skateboard. His friend's don't have time to tell him that there's a hump ahead,too late he lost his grip and again added more scars to his arms. I just hope that would be the last,and that he had learn his lesson now. Friends who stays thru good and bad times are real ones. Some friends often leave us when we did something wrong and never give us chance to prove how sorry we are. Emotional scars heal with time...we always remember how it happens,but barely feel the pain. Thanks for sharing your experiences and have a good day always
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
Yes, emotional scars on broken heart that you only love the person but the reality he don't love me for what he feels. I have learn my lesson & apply to the reality of life that next time I've been in love, I must be wise to handle it.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello ghie, Good for you that you learned your lesson well. Some people doesn't learn from their experiences. Some also had the thinking of,trying and keep trying. It's not wrong to give chances,but at least learn to be more smarter when facing same situation. Anyway,heart never stops loving,even if it is hurt the _nth times. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
• Malaysia
25 Feb 10
I have a physical scar on my stomach, a vertical one. It's almost 13cm long and I had it when I did a surgery for ovarian cyst 5 years ago. I always feel sad about it cos I couldn't wear clothes and low cut jeans that reveals my stomach.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
25 Feb 10
hello xtreme, I also had same scar on my stomach,and it's been cut 3 x(hahah) I delivered my 3 kids thru ceasarian operation. You should have suggest for the bikini cut ,at least you can still wear clothes that you like. Anyway,what matters most is that you are safe and healthy now my dear. Thanks for sharing your scari mean...about your scar(hehehe)