We've all had it happen, someone takes umberage to our response...

@Loverbear (4928)
United States
February 25, 2010 2:23am CST
I realize the subject has been beaten to death, but here it is again. Why do the members feel so free to chew out a person that they don't agree with? I just got chewed out because of one of my responses from quite a while back. I was accused of being undereducated on the subject that I responded about. That I was busily spreading false information and scaring people. Hopefully the majority of the people here on the Lot realize that I do research my responses to discussions. I have a huge library of books (I'm a collector of various books on a plethora of subjects) including collecting, health, animal health, herbs and more...including business law. I also attend college part time because of my own health issues. Come on people, before you pass judgment on a person's response and decide that the person is undereducated in a topic, check them out first. If you don't agree, simply state you don't agree and don't get so dog gone huffy and tell the person that they are undereducated (stupid?) about the subject and that they are only scaring people. It isn't fair---you don't like being judged, so darn it don't judge others!!!
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
28 Feb 10
people that don't want to hear another side often get defensive - the roomie had heard all the sides, knew the pros and cons - so it wasn't like she was walking in ... blind **groan** People like that only want to hear the one side and that leads in the end to trouble
@Loverbear (4928)
• United States
28 Feb 10
I find that the people who only want to hear the one side also are those who are extremely impatient with the end results. They're the people that feel that what ever the "fix" is will be a total cure all without any complications or problems. I will say that the discussion has led me to eat a bit more healthy. I am currently munching on an incredible chicken soup I made. It's full of veggies (Cauliflower, zucchini, broccoli,carrots, spinach, lean white meat chicken, and noodles.) and is so filling and sooo good. To bad my boy friend doesn't like cooked veggies...he's missing out on something good. I wish I could share the pot of soup with you guys, I have about 9 quarts of soup (I'm still not used to cooking for one, there is going to be soup in the freezer tomorrow as I couldn't eat 9 quarts of soup before it spoils. Hugs to your roomie for hearing all sides of the surgery before she went in for it. Too many people feel that the kind of surgery your roomie had would "INSTANTLY"[b][/b] remove all the weight. How is she doing, btw? How are you doing?
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
28 Feb 10
just make sure you store it in serving size containers, that's been our biggest problem - the roomie doesn't like to store in the smaller containers - but who wants to take down 3-6 servings for just yourself? She's down about 80 - 30 since the surgery and I'm hovering about 50.
@allknowing (69325)
• India
25 Feb 10
Who are these 'they' you are talking about - may be a couple or two, may be a handful among a population of 1,99,959! It is your bad luck that you encountered them. There is a way of handling them. Just leave them be. Dont even comment. By making an issue here you have given them importance that they do not deserve. myLot management is alert about anyone passing on wrong information. Let there be no self appointed judges here.
@Loverbear (4928)
• United States
25 Feb 10
Thank you for your response! I joined the Lot to have fun and make friends. I also enjoy learning and helping other people. I don't post a response without checking my data. If it is about animals I have quite a few books including U.C. Davis books on animal care. If it's sewing or crafts I have even more books. The subject I responded to was researched and the information wasn't meant to frighten people. I did respond to the post, and I did some chewing out because of the fact that I am NOT undereducated on the topic, that I didn't post misinformation, and I wasn't trying to scare people. Besides the fact that it did "irk" me just a bit . Thank you again for the wonderful response, and I love your statement "Let there be no self appointed judges here". It says it all!
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
26 Feb 10
The reason they do this is because they do not read the Stuff properly that is why whether it is a Discussion or a Response they will only WHAT they want to read and then start a fight Ignore them Loverbear because it is not worth the Hassle
@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
26 Feb 10
So far I do not remember being called stupid on myLot, but I had been accused of things which I never did. Most of the time I commented back, giving the reasons as to why I gave the previous response. I do realise that they did not do a background check on me, so they form a conclusion on the latest content that I wrote. Each time I try to keep my emotions bay. I believe there are others who are more open minded, and this was proven after I responded to a discussion in Religion. I did not comment back because it would probaly lead to a ome sided flame war. Somebody commented back in my defense. Some of these people thrive on controversy. So whenever possible let it be. There are other mature thinking myLotters. Their action also showed their weaknesses. Just enjoy myLotting.
@kaylachan (4776)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Feb 10
This isn't the first time I've come across a discussion like this, and I'm going to offer the same advice as I did before. This is a discussion forum with a large number of members. People are different there is no denying that. Not everyone is going to agree and there are those who chose to voice their disagreements. It may not be ideal, but you need not take comments or replies too personally. Its not worth it.
25 Feb 10
Unfortunately there will always be the odd one or two people here, who feel they are entitled to be nasty or unpleasant. Just ignore them hun, in the end they are the ones that look foolish
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
25 Feb 10
I know what you mean. I guess there are people who are a little insecure and need to dominate and denigrate others, and the internet gives them anonymity, so many feel they can be rude. My advice to you is just to ignore it and not let it get to you.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Feb 10
I seem to recall a chewing out in a discussion about L. Frank Baum and whether The Wizard of Oz had political motives. I simply stated that I wasn't aware of that and that I had done some very limited Googling and couldn't find anything on the subject. About got mah head bit clean off! The person could simply have said that if I have time to do further research, I would find that what he was stating was well documented, or some such thing. Oh well...
@Orea15 (281)
• United States
25 Feb 10
My feeling on this is that these people have a lot of anger they are carrying from other parts of their life. They take it out on strangers on the Internst because it is "safe" for them to do so. Realize that you are not the real target of their anger and hostility. They must be carrying a lot of pain. That thought helps me take a more charitable attitude than I would otherwise have. There is no point in letting their anger engender anger in you. Or in letting a stranger who can't be civil in public hurt you. Try to brush it off as you would a pesky fly. That's about how much attention they deserve IMHO. {{{hug}}}
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
25 Feb 10
I came across that discussion...number one it was a discussion from 9 months ago, so where did that person crawl from what rock to find it only recently..two that responder has been a member for four years very little points, and only 12 friends..gee, wonder why? But yep....I've come across these turkeywads..maybe she's jealous you got best response???? LOL Pay no attention..I try not too also, but there are times I come across remarks against me and feel like throwing the computer out the window