It's Official: 40 is the new 60.

@MsTickle (24962)
Australia
February 25, 2010 3:01am CST
Ahhh, that's better...that makes me 37 and so much closer to how I actually feel. When I was growing up...(just a few weeks ago) 60 year olds were dull. My aunties and uncles around that age were so staid and used up. They were very narrow minded and you didn't talk to them much because you could easily say the wrong thing and embarrass them or yourself. I'm not like that...not even close. I still love rock n roll, and I like a lot of the current music. I'm still broad minded and not much makes me blush. I know that will all change eventually but for now I am full of life and have lots of dreams and plans still. How about you....I know a lot of myLotters are incapacitated in some way (like me) but I'm talking about how you feel, deep inside. I'll bet many of you still have a little kid inside you who just loves to come out and play...yeah??
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@gabs8513 (48717)
• United Kingdom
26 Feb 10
Well I have always said you are as old as you feel, a lot of People seem to think oh I am 60 now so well I have to act to it I suppose as I am past it So I just am the age tat I feel and no matter what look after yourself and keep yourself young and that is what you will be
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
Don't get me wrong...there's a silly old bag looking back at me in the mirror...I certainly have no idea who she is, I definitely don't recognise her. I catch myself doing things naturally and I'm thinking...surely I should be becoming more dignified by now...but I'm not.
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@gabs8513 (48717)
• United Kingdom
26 Feb 10
well that is my case to but why make ourselves old why can't we still have the Child coming out of us why do you think Gissi and I are so close Because I am at his level lololol
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
OOps...does that make me a silly old goat gabs? Our pets do keep us young my friend. Mine give me joy just being near them (except when Pickles butts me) and they make me laugh as well and I talk to my critters as much as you talk to Gissi.
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28 Feb 10
So i am only 41, not bad at all. I do wonder where all the years have gone now I am nearing my 62 nd birthday, but I would not wish to be any younger. I can act disgracefully and say, ' cant help it because i am senile' , or ,' i am allowed to be naughty as i am old'. i wear jeans, boots, have my hair cropped and spiky, i can wear mad jewellery although i have got pearls.(pink pearls) i never wear sensible shoes or carry normal handbags. I have my ears pierced 3 times in each ear, I do not go to bingo or whist clubs. I love authors like stephen king and Geoffrey deaver, but also like some of the chick lit books. i work in an all female office, well nearly all female and one gay, bless him !! they all call me auntie or mum and like to tell me all their woes as they know i can keep secrets. one of my dearest friends is a male to female transgender, i have stuck by her through thick and thin. according to my husband i drive like a bat out of hell. All i need is horns and a tail and a number on the side of my car. I am lucky enough to be reasonably fit and always give my correct age when asked. not like some singers and actors who i can remember from the 60's and 70's who were older than me then, but are younger than me now. Strange but true ??? I have read all the above and wow i sound pretentious, but this is really how i am. i dont pretend to be younger and dont wear any thing revealing, i just dont dress or act like the percieved image of an oldster.
@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
28 Feb 10
You? Pretentious??? Rubbish. You are the person I'm talking about and whom I wish I could be more like. I might look fiftyish, fat and frumpy but I feel thirtyish, thrilling and (can't think of anything else that fits stating with "th") Dang!
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8 Apr 10
hi mstickle, thank you for Best response. much obliged and appreciated. To add to above. in my youth ( loooooong time ago, when wheels were wooden and no such things as mobiles or computors) i had mousy hair which i used to dye odd colours, like black , or burgundy ( very nice in the sunlight), red or even blonde. Now i am getting on , a lot of people think I am a natural blonde( hahaha , its GREY really but i have helped it a little bit ) My latest new buy, 2 pairs of heeled boots - one pair in blue leather and one pair in cream, and they have buckles and studs and look great with jeans. And remember ,,, you may think you look fiftyish fat and frumpy, but in other eyes you are more likely voluptuous and sexy PLUS also remember all the time you feel thirtyish , thrilling and threateningLY and thoroughly naughty, you can be!!!! Keep the faith sister !!!
• India
26 Feb 10
To feel young and keep young one should be free from any chronicle disease. since you feel young, your physique should be good.Once it happened in my life, I was staying in my brother-in laws house who is younger to me by 20 years. One day he introduced me to his neighbor and the neighbor immediately told me that I look younger than him. My brother in law is suffering from diabetes and I, till today by grace of God, hale and healthy. My activities also reveal that I am younger than my actual age.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
Being healthy and of sound body while feeling younger than your years is not necessarily the full package. If you read the other responses you will find that many of us are incapacitated and yet we still feel younger than our years and we act younger than the generation that preceded ours. I played very hard in my youth and early adulthood and I've always done hard manual work as well. It has all taken a toll on my body. Yet, I still manage to think and feel with a vibrancy that does not match my years and experiences.
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• India
26 Feb 10
The play in the childhood and hard work certainly keeps our body hale and healthy. In my childhood, I used to walk to school ,climb small hill and swim in the well that has made me hale and healthy so far. But for younger generation do not have time and also environment to do that.
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@dksemke (66)
• United States
26 Feb 10
I am 61 and I don't know exactly what age I feel like, but when I'm talking to people in their 20's and 30's, I forget that I am not their same age. I think of myself as being the same age I have always been...if that makes sense. When we are younger, our parents seemed so old (bet they didn't think of themselves that way), and the older we get, the younger age 50, 60 and even into the 70's feels. I listen to hard rock and new age. What you will find is that the music you loved in your 20's is always going to be the music you prefer. My folks grew up with big band music. They would tell me to "turn down that noise"! I have to admit tho that I hate wrap music and think to myself "turn OFF that noise"! But another thing that I think makes your generation and mine (boomer) still feel young is the cultural changes of the 60's. My folks suffered thru a depression and I grew up in "Happy Days". Big difference in how you look at things. Starting with the Hippies, our dress codes seemed to change as well. People didn't wear jeans in 1930 and 40, unless they were farmers in overalls! Our language has also become less formal and actually more inappropriate. Who do oyou know now that doesn't use the F word. There are so many other influences from the 60's and I can't begin to go thru all of them. But Boomers make up almost half of the entire population and we all went thru the 60's. So everyone is now going to seem younger as they age. I also happen (by some good fortune) to look younger than my actual age and when people say they think I look more like late 30's I say it's just because I act immature! It's hard for me to imagine your age group fretting over growing older. But I will tell you one thing that will help you age without worrying about becoming an old fart. Those dreams and plans you still have....at 37 you are still working to prove yourself and toward becoming successful. By the time you hit late 40's, you will realize that you no longer have anything to prove. You will have already been there and done that, and you will see more humor in life, feel less need to deal with the BS and it will give you a whole new freedom to be exactly who you are, not who you feel you are expected to be. And that is when the fun really begins!
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
G'day and welcome to myLot dksemke. You make me sound a bit tragic mate...actually, you read things incorrectly...I'm actually 57....the 60 is now 40 theory makes me 37 (and you revert to 40). You make it sound simple. I recognised that growing up when we did allowed us to relax our attitudes (and be "anti establishment")but I forgot to allow for the difficult times our parents grew up in. I was the 3rd child of 4 and Dad was almost 40 when he had me, Mum was 34. I had my 2 girls before I turned 20 and was a grandparent at 36 with a baby capsule in my sports car....lol. I'm still trying to slough off the 'whom I'm expected to be' but I think I'm getting there. Are you married??? (that's me being cheeky)
• United States
27 Feb 10
Sorry 'bout that. I sure did mis-read your message. Did I happen to mention that I am blonde? So......never mind! BUT....that means we can relate. I think maybe men feel more pressure by what is expected of them, than women do. It's a conditioning thing. I didn't have the pressure of having to grow up and become the President. I could be an Air Line Stewardess and it would be OK!!!!! It is still a man's world, so maybe that is the price you pay. Is the fact that your role of "parent" came right about the time you should have been finishing college and headed for grad school? You had to do a lot of growing up very fast and going to school (unless your daddy's rich and your mom is good looking...I mean your mum!) could have been a luxury that wouldn't pay for formula? and you had to take seven jobs and one of them was as pin boy at the bowling alley? Did I mention that I was a Psych major and have a vivid imagination....and a warped sense of humor? No, I am no longer married (and it isn't because of the above!!!) I was in fact married to a rock musician ...and you can figure out where the marriage went wrong, can't you! Stop worrying about who you are expected to be. I'll just bet you are doing fine, are a great dad, take out the trash without being asked and send flowers for no reason. You are just about perfect the way you are! Fun chatting with ya! Deb
• United States
26 Feb 10
I don't see why people have to become "old" just because they've reached a certain number. I think if you stay active you'll continue to be young even if the number says you're old. I love your attitude.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
And I'm certainly not alone 6precious. There are quite a few around my age here who will probably never age gracefully. I have a sister who is 64 and she was always quite "proper" and stodgy. These days, she is quite loose and more relaxed and she even wears some hippie type clothes. They look great on her and she and her hubby are having a wonderful life travelling the world and when they are not doing that they are travelling to visit with their 5 grown kids and families.
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@RobtheRock (2485)
• United States
26 Feb 10
The old people I knew were cool. For some reason, it seems like around the 1980's when older people seemed to be "out" or something. You remind me of a thought I had a couple days ago. I thought about older people letting the young come out and thought, "so what." People should be themselves and not let society dictate how they should act -- unless they're doing harmful things.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
YaY! Go team!
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@derek_a (10902)
26 Feb 10
Well, I have got past 60 and don't feel quite used up yet! I like pop music and quite enjoy a lot of it. I don't know whether it is because I am a baby-boomer who grew up through the 1960s or not, but I don't feel much older than about 20. Apart from a few pains that it! _Derek
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
Being a baby boomer and growing up when we did with so many relaxed attitudes must be the answer. I think a lot of us retained a lot of standards and values too which has given us the balance required to be able to prioritise: chores and responsibilities first then FUN!
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@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
26 Feb 10
Hey MsTickle! I'm with you girlfriend! I freak out alot of my friends when I tell them I have the new "Rhianna joint" (new CD) and I can get down to the latest "Black Eyed Peas" joint! I just low the latest music as much as I love my old time Rock! I can switch on a dime! I will go from Led Zepplin to Ne-Yo! I am as crazy as ever when it comes to music! And I don't dress like an "old fart", but I also don't dress like a teenager either! I know what I like and I still like to dress hip! I wear my "skinny jeans" with my very cool boots and I wear big gold hoop earrings and have 3 piercings so I wear 3 pairs of earrings in each ear, 2 studs! As my boyfriend says, when it comes to going out "It's on and popin"!(Oh, yeah, he's 11 years younger than me too!)
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
I wanna hang out with you Doll...Woo Hoo!!
@pyewacket (44037)
• United States
26 Feb 10
Can we make this a trio? As far as the way I dress, I still kind of wear clothes that would be considered "hippie-ish"---after all I'm from the Woodstock generation. One time I was in the store, and the check out was giving me the look over, and she asked me what profession was I in, and I replied, a photographer, and she says "That explains it, you look very artistic" LOL
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
What a hoot...you're in kiddo. We should have a whole conga line throughout the discussion.
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
2 Mar 10
Yeah!!! I was just thinking about this the other day. Im 54 and feel like im in my 30's. Except i have more aches and pains than i did when i was really in my 30's.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
2 Mar 10
I don't know anyone my age who is totally fit and healthy as in pain free...weird isn't it?
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
2 Mar 10
I guess if we were rich we could keep getting our fat sucked out and streching away our wrinkles like the celerbrities do. Lol!!!
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
3 Mar 10
Oh goodness me ...nooooo. If I were rich, I'd want a tall, dark and handsome, middle aged personal trainer to come every other day for getting me in shape. On the off days, I'd have a masseur come in to do massage therapy.
@ElicBxn (60802)
• United States
28 Feb 10
I'd like to go play pretend, but can't find any playmates...
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
28 Feb 10
I reckon you do ok on your own my friend. I've never met anyone with as much get up and go as you. You're always off somewhere helping someone or doing something...do you ever rest? Where does your energy come from because I know you are not hale and hearty...maybe inside your head you are but I know you are not physically 100% well.
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@ElicBxn (60802)
• United States
28 Feb 10
I do a lot of sitting, here at the computer mostly... I will say that if I did have a playmate I'd probably not be here nearly as much.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
28 Feb 10
I used to have one of those but when we got the computer, I became friends with it and stopped being friends with my mate....lol.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Feb 10
Well cool, I can be 32. That's just fine with me. I'm pretty sure I'm not staid and used up! Walks off humming "I won't grow up"...
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
25 Feb 10
Yeah, I reckon 32 is the right age for you. Unfortunately, the grown up me has to go wash the car and hang out the washing. If I'm lucky, I'll find someone to squirt with the hose. Muhahahahaha.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Feb 10
And it's probably warm enough there to do it too!
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
It's actually lovely...sunny, hot and with a cool breeze blowing.
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@pandaeyes (2068)
26 Feb 10
I feel like I am about 25 inside. Not a little kid but not in my 40's. I want to go swimming and play with the littlies in the sand pit not sit and knit coms. I'm lucky at the moment because my next door neighbours are still living with their mum and we refer to them as the girls even though they are (twins) older than us. On the other side of us is my lovely 100 year old neighbour, you can't possibly feel old living here. I even like some of the rap and hip hop songs i have heard recently.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
I'm so glad you get to live life where you can be young and carefree.
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@pandaeyes (2068)
27 Feb 10
LOL thanks. I like the sound of you dad by the way.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
28 Feb 10
Yeah thanks, he's cool. I love him lots and hope he'll be around a while yet.
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• United States
25 Feb 10
I am still a teenager at heart, and I hope that I never lose that feeling. I am very active and love playing and having fun, especially with my kids. I think it makes it easier for me to relate to them, because I can view things from an adult perspective, but I have not yet lost the perspective of the child inside me, either. I have gotten a taste of "my mind says yes but my body says no" after having my little one, because I had complications from my C-section. I think that is how older people feel when their body is showing signs of age but their hearts and minds are still very much young and ready for an adventure. I hope that as I get older I can remain active, since I think that helps to keep the body able to keep up with your mind and heart.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
25 Feb 10
I was always very active as a kid purple and then as I grew older I had some wonderful adventures. I was a hard worker too. As things changed, I found I was doing less. That was ok...at first but then I began to gain weight. I've discovered that as you age, you have to do more to keep up with your ageing body and for most of us who have healthy appetites as well, this proves difficult to do. I've actually worn out parts of me.... and no, I won't tell you which parts.
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• United States
26 Feb 10
My parents are in their middle to late seventies, and now their age is really starting to catch up with them. I guess that their health problems are a contributing factor in that, too. It was not that long ago, though, that they were chasing my oldest daughter around and doing a great job of keeping up with her, especially considering their age. In fact, most people thought that they were only in their early fifties when they were in their late sixties. I can only hope that I will be as fun and active as they are when I get older, but they have been great role models and I have their genes, so I think that I am ahead of the game. By the way, you are more of a tease than Lamb is with your comment - "I've actually worn out parts of me ... and no, I won't tell you which parts."
• United States
26 Feb 10
That does make sense, Alice. I know that my parents have more fun with their grandchildren and are more carefree than they were with us kids. Don't get me wrong, they were fun and all with us, but they had more responsibility, like you said, and had to be more serious and strict. Now, they can have more fun without having all the worries of discipline and all that. I mean, they do make the kids follow the rules, but they are not as strict about them, because they are not responsible for teaching them and enforcing them each and every day. They feel that they have earned the right to spoil their grandchildren, and I totally agree with them. They definitely act a lot younger and more carefree when the little one is around, and they seem to laugh a lot more, too. I think that is wonderful, and I am sure that is one of the reasons why they are pushing us so hard to move closer to them as soon as possible. It does seem like they shed about twenty years when my little one is around, so I guess that just proves that Ms. Tickle is right - not that I ever doubted her, of course.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
25 Feb 10
Well, if that is true then woman shouldn't feel bad about turning 30,40,50, then. Yes, that is what keeps me young that link to my younger self inside. Who loves playing in the rain,throwing snowballs,making snowmen, and having fun, I would love to be able to take life with both hands and run with it..but responsibilities are always blaring us in the face and so we have to tone down the kid in us and only let it out on occasion. Yeah, I know about the aunties,uncles, and grandparents being so stiff and proper..hell they thought lacy bras and panties where taboo..and I always felt stifled in their presence. I'm 35 but at times when things are going good and not alot of worries I feel like a 19 year old again when like was fun,easy and less stressful.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
25 Feb 10
I think that's the secret to happiness my friend. If we can stay on top of our responsibilities and manage them then we can put them away and do what ever we want...within reason of course. My ex used to say...I'm a grown up...I can do whatever I want. It's true...we can.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
25 Feb 10
Alice, I said I like to play in the snow and have fun but that doesn't mean I don't complain about it when the fun is over..and I have frozen hands,toes, and nose. I like nothing better then to complain about the snow when it hinders me from leaving my house since I live on a hill that I have to walk down..which my behind has hit more times then once in cold weather. I only get to play most times when my little sister is over..she also brings out the little girl in me..lolStomps foot! and grumbles,I don't wanna grow up..!
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
26 Feb 10
Well we have two hill to which to slide on different sides of the Yard..But my brother in law didn't want us sliding any more so he built a big metal building at the foot of it so unless we want cut up we cant slide that hill..the other side is is fun but he also blocked that end as well since he lives at the foot of the hill...but he blocked it with concrete blocks and his trucks, but even so without the short driveway we would have a blacktop road to contend with as well..but it isn't to busy since it is up a short holler(sideroad) He's to much like his mother sucks the fun out of life..lol seriously no lie..
• Boston, Massachusetts
26 Feb 10
Hi Ms. Tickle, That's the attitude. it's only the age that age not what we feel. i am happy hearing this from you. i hope more people will be more comfortable with themselves as they age and deal with life happily.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
I'm wondering now how the next generation will be?
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• Boston, Massachusetts
28 Feb 10
so let's wait and see what will happen and how we will handle things rightly with fun! i am excited to reach this stage too but i know i am more far yet. though time passes so fast and i will not be surprise that i will then be there one day. cheers!
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
26 Feb 10
i feel i am still in my 20s maybe because i still have kids at 2 and 6, aside from the 2 teens that i have. i love to play with the little ones. and that makes me feel a bit younger at 41.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
I think young children definitely keep us young. I think that's why grandparents enjoy their grandchildren so much.
@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
27 Feb 10
@polachicago (19075)
• United States
26 Feb 10
by the time we are 90, the 60 i going to be new 90 right...so as 90 we are going to go to the health club and start in the olympics...hope so... by the time we are 120 it is going to be new.... ah, maybe not.
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
Why not? A lot can change in 20 or 30 years. I will be keeping my options and my outlook open. Someone said earlier..."We've come a long way baby" and I will add..."the best is yet to come"
@polachicago (19075)
• United States
26 Feb 10
I am ready
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• United States
25 Feb 10
I feel just like you and I am 70 but I do not feel it or look it. (Thank heavens)
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
26 Feb 10
I read a while ago that you were 70 and that was such a shock. I had you pegged for an intellectual 40+ maybe. Someone who had lots of go and drive. I'm sure you don't feel or look your age...you are way too vibrant to be 70...yep, more like late 40's or barely 50 sounds right to me.
• United States
26 Feb 10
I LOVE YOU!
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
25 Feb 10
heck ya I got that youngen in me as I love to dance in the rain and play in the snow if we get any. Just becasue ya hit the 60 or 70 thats years young not old!. If I dont look in the mirroe I can really fill young the way I see myself lolololol
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
25 Feb 10
That's very true Lakota. I don't even recognise the person in the mirror...it's certainly not me. I'm still slim, curvaceous and have a twinkle in my eye.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
26 Feb 10
Oh I think I still have the twinkle in my eyes lol as I try to think up mischeif to do lolol Might be boobless and big tummy in the mirror but dont feel the tummy if I dont look lololololol
@Darkwing (21588)
25 Feb 10
Yes... you're as old as you feel, my friend. I've always said that age is just a number that isn't important. What IS important is that you enjoy life, for as long as you see fit. People, especially the younger set, have often asked me my age... my reply, "I'm as old as you think I am". Then they start guessing, to try and goad it out of me. ha ha ha. Most put me at least 5 years younger, maybe 10. It's the way you present yourself; the way you treat others; and the fact that you can appreciate others and laugh with them, I feel. Enjoy your 37th year, my friend. he he! Brightest Blessings.
@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
25 Feb 10
Laughter I think is the catalyst to feeling young deep into your soul. The ability to share laughter, feel the joy of life, see the silly side of things and being able to smile through sadness. These are the things that keep our hearts free.
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@Darkwing (21588)
26 Feb 10
Sure... and I also think if you can enjoy time with the younger set, as I do in the pub, then they tend to keep you laughing, and young at heart. Many's the time that the youngsters have invited me to go to the nightclubs with them. I tried it just the once, and enjoyed it, so they still keep inviting me... to nightclubs, parties, etc. I'm happy as things are... your body clock doesn't always let you do the things you want to do, but I still know how to enjoy myself. :)